Hi, everyone! I'm a first time cat owner, and I'm convinced my new cat hates me! I grew up with a dog but decided against owning dogs after my ex-boyfriend was savagely attacked by one (not my own). I did quite a bit of research, not only in caring for my kitty, but also to decide if I wanted to buy from a breeder or adopt from a shelter. I decided to adopt from a particular rescue center that seemed to have a very responsible policy for accepting strays as well as adopting. I visited the shelter, and though I was attracted to a particular Bombay from the website listing, the amicable personality of another cat, Java, won me over. At the rescue center (located in a PetSmart), Java was incredibly well-adjusted, friendly, and affectionate to me which was a marked difference from the other animals that were stressed from the shelter environment. I filled out the paperwork and arranged to take him home the next day so I could spend some time cat-proofing my apartment. I bring him home to my tranquil apartment and he's completely spooked! Alright, I knew to expect some shyness. I set his carrier down and opened it, sat in a chair and let him alone to explore. He explored the periphery of the apartment and then when he was investigating the upper areas behind my dryer, he mewed softly. It seemed he was stuck so I got up to help him and when he was free, he had a little tantrum, scratching me in the process, and ran to hide behind my television. He stayed there for a couple hours! Through some careful herding, I managed to get him back into his carrier and I lifted him inside the carrier and placed him in the bathroom where his litter box is located. I moved the food bowl and water dish into the same area and closed the door except for a little space for him to budge through if he felt adventurous. I then left for four hours. When I came back, he was still in the bathroom! Why is he so gregarious in the shelter with a small cage, all these sounds and smells, and aggravations but so insecure in my quiet, peaceful apartment with all the amenities he could ask for?! I'm so upset. The entire time he's hiding, I feel is a constant rejection. I feel like a complete failure! How many days should I expect this aloofness if this behavior is even normal at all? His foster owner before me said that he is so laid back, even playing with dogs' tails and allowing puppies to nip at him playfully. Even when he was at the shelter, all the personnel mentioned how sweet his temperament is. What am I doing wrong? Why does he dislike me so much?