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On a rant from yesterday

post #1 of 14
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Yesterday was a pretty crappy day. First off a friend of ours got in a wreck. She was following her husband who was driving a tractor to their house. Someone ran into her from behind. At the scene of the accident they made her husband take a breath test, (he had drank two beers). Anyways at the hospital the cops asked her if she had been drinking and she told them no. They took her husband to jail for DUI. So me and another friend of ours had to put up bail money to get him out of jail. I am not sure why the cops made him take a breath test but they did. The accident was not his fault, he was just driving the tractor. Anyways he told me last night that he was gonna fight this thing. He might have a point, but my problem is he was drinking and he should not have been driving anything. This happened at 10 in the morning. No body should be drinking that early.

And this that happened next is what I am really mad about. This is gonna be long, so please forgive me.

My husband has another friend who is just a moocher. He will come to a gathering or whatever and he never used to bring beer or cigerettes or anything, and he will just bum off of people. He has gotten better about bringing his own beer now, but he will bum everything else. This includes food and whatever.

Anyways last week as we were leaving our camp, he called my husband and was talking to him. He found out that we left all of our campers, so he kinda said something to my husband about leaving them and Jimmy told him that is what they were there for, (was to go camping). So knowing his friend like I do, I told my husband that I didn't want anyone staying in our camper when we were not there. I don't mind people staying with us, but I just wanna be there.

Anyways some of the other people are over at the camp this weekend. One of the people that are there had a key to our camper so she could go in there and get a loaf of bread that I had forgot to get. I didn't want the bread to get moldy and stuff. So yesterday this friend of my husbands found out that his stepmother had a key to our camper. This friends cousin calls me on the phone and told me that his cousin (my husbands friend) told him that he didn't think we would care if they went over there and spent the night in our camper. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo mad at my husbands friend right now, I can't even think straight. I can't even imagine how he can offer our camper to someone to spend the night in. It is not his camper to offer.

Well I told his cousin that I didn't care if anyone stayed with us, but I didn't want anyone staying there if we weren't there.

Does anyone think I was wrong for telling his cousin what I did?

I am really really really mad at my husbands friend though. I told my husband about it yesterday, and he knows that I am mad too. I am really really upset about it. And if I see my husbands friend I am gonna tell him just excatly how I feel.

I know that my husbands friend would expect us to let him stay there too if he wanted to. I just don't wanna start doing that. It would end up that something would get tore up and then nobody would know what happened, and then me and my husband would have to pay for it.

I am sorry this is so long, but I don't have no one here at my house to get vent with.

Thanks for listening.
post #2 of 14
I would be pretty peed of too!
You just said what any reasonable person would have said to your cousin, so don`t go beating yourself up over it. You haven`t done anything wrong!
post #3 of 14
I would have said the saem thing in your shoes. No need to beat yourself up over it. If that is how you feel, then follow your instincts. There is nothing wrong with your point of view, and they should have asked you or your husband before offering your camper. If something is wrecked or destroyed, then I would think that it would become the responsibility of your husbands cousin to fix or replace, as he was the one that did this, and took the responsibility for loaning out your camper. At least there is one thing, your feelings and thoughts have been said, and if they were listening they should learn to not do this in the future. If it happens again, then remove the key from the aunt.
post #4 of 14
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This is my husbands friend and his cousin, the stepmother is also a good friend of ours, she would never give them the key unless I told her to give it out. My friend is not like that.

It just boils down to the fact that my husbands friend is a user. He uses people all the time. As long as it concerns him, he doesn't thing anything about it.

I think I might have confused people in my long story, and I do apoligize for that.
post #5 of 14
I would have been livid! You are so right that the camper was not his to offer to anyone.
post #6 of 14
I agree 100% with you it is your camper. Who cares if they get mad it is your property... You have the say so about it. I feel you have every right to be pieed off.
post #7 of 14
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Originally Posted by momof3rugratz View Post
I agree 100% with you it is your camper. Who cares if they get mad it is your property... You have the say so about it. I feel you have every right to be pieed off.
I agree! I'm sorry, but if I were to work hard to get something ie. a camper and then my Dh's moocher friend just thought he could use it at his discression (sp??), I'd be . I'm sorry, but I don't think so buddy! Get you're own!
post #8 of 14
I am not sure I would of been nice LOL. I would of drove tot he camp and opened a can of ...... o ok sorry am in a mood today I slept only 2 hours I will shut up
post #9 of 14
I woiuld think that it could become a liability issue as well potentially. As I said before, I agree with you LSU, and that is something that should not have happend. Let them stay somewhere else, or get their own.
post #10 of 14
Sorry you had to go through all this Belinda. Them using your camper like that is just not right...maybe its time to gather up all the keys and whoever wants to borrow the camper from now on needs to ask you and no one else.

Looks like your weekend isn't turning out like you'd hoped...sorry about that sweetie hope the rest of your day is better.

Hilda>^..^<
post #11 of 14
Belinda, if your gut is saying that people should not be in your camper when you or your hubby isn't there, then there's probably a good reason why. I certainly wouldn't have it any other way, either. If he's a good friend, then clearly he'll understand how someone would be uncomfortable with that.

If he gets mad, then, excuse the language, screw it. He's already a user, and clearly likes to sponge off of people. Tell him he can sponge off the kindness of someone else, if that's the way it's going to be. Sorry, I'm feeling a bit wicked today!
post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by wookie130 View Post
Belinda, if your gut is saying that people should not be in your camper when you or your hubby isn't there, then there's probably a good reason why. I certainly wouldn't have it any other way, either. If he's a good friend, then clearly he'll understand how someone would be uncomfortable with that.

If he gets mad, then, excuse the language, screw it. He's already a user, and clearly likes to sponge off of people. Tell him he can sponge off the kindness of someone else, if that's the way it's going to be. Sorry, I'm feeling a bit wicked today!

Well he kinda knows how I feel anyways. I just don't like people using other people, and that is just the way that he is.

But my husband understands how I feel. We work hard to get nice things and I just don't wanna take the chance of something getting torn up. At least if I am there I can see stuff happening.
post #13 of 14
Heck BB what if they took off with your camper. I don't blame you at all it belongs to you & Jimmy it isn't someone elses to let people stay in or have a key at all, I dont think anyone should have a key to it...
post #14 of 14
I would have been furious! No one has the right to use your trailer without your permission - that's just plain rude!
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