<<I have to disagree...at 10 yrs, the child is more aware of cliques and being outcast so not being invited to a party is more devestating than it is to a 6 yr old. >>
Hmmmm. I see your point, and the teacher's point. You can't exactly teach a kid when he/she is having a meltdown in front of the whole class b/c they didn't get a birthday party invite. I have an older child who is quite sensitive. She got snubbed for a party when she was in 2nd grade- the idiot mother let her child hand out invites in front of a Brownie troop. The kid had 5 invites, there were 10 kids in the group And my dtr didn't even like the kid that was handing out the invites, and she still got VERY upset.
But then my youngest dd could care less if she didn't get invited to a party for someone she's not even friends with.
One of dd's friends tried to hand out invites a couple of days ago, the teacher wouldn't let her unless she had one for every single kid in the class. The girls mom was a little annoyed that her dtr couldn't hand them out, so I had a discussion with her on this subject before I had to go to choir practice at church Wed.