Need Help... :[

oh yeah.. if i proceeded to go to close to the house or call for any reason they threatened to have me arrested.. YAY! uggghh...

What a trial you have been through, honey! I'm so glad you got your babies back, but so sorry you had to suffer through all of that. God bless you!

Congratulations on reclaiming your two babies. I am sorry for the sacrifices are having to make...what a horrible ordeal you have endured. I wish you and the kitties the best.

2/6/07 - yeah they are doing great, their food is portioned well and "Munchkin" isn't trying to attack, sort of like she knows whats going on. i put cat nip in the condo ((which i pulled out the bottoms of the cages in the unit to accomidate both my kitties as they stay and they have lots of space to hop around and play and what not...)).

the cat nip is working alot. Tai's eye is doing alot better ((he's on terramycin for his Feline Herpies seasonal outbreak- something his parents didn't even care about or care to check- plus every cat in the house has a cold, which mine are currently getting over.

his parents want 10,000 in cash for the cat's being at his house for a year and a half... to them everything is money. like money can calm your grief... get new cats.


so yeah... i'll give updates... from time to time... if anyone has any advice please let me know...

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Congrats on getting your babies back. I'm sorry for all the hassle and problems that went with it all. It makes me sad that his father now wants money for housing your kitties specially since they were half owned by his son.

yes well, his mother went to the area court and they haven't gotten back to the family yet. i did talk to numerious police officers and teachers at school and they all said the same thing "NO... they cannot do that, there was no agreement, but the verbal one stating the cats were yours but living here..."

lol... people... using money to harness their grief... seriously... those who do that don't deserve anythin in life...

today his dad sent him to my area of town to get firewood, milk and ... yeah... my cats...

not letting them go til there is a compromise... or my bf moves out...

Okay... Latest news... I had to give the cats back to them because his parents threatened to take away his car. If he doesn't have a car he can't get to work or move out... or move on...

i gave them back... then broke up with him... i know, i know... should have broken up with him and kept the cats, but at the moment i wasn't thinking that way and just wanted him to have a life, at the expense of mine.

today i had a long convo with his sister and mother and i told them my friend could take them in... ;]... sneaky huh? lol... they just want them to be put into a "home" because it will make them sleep easier...

and believe me, there is nothing to life in a cage... i know, because i see it everyday. but it's the only ay for me to actually have them back. then maybe i can work something out for real with someone... but for now it may have to be a condo life for now...

then my ex bf decides to coem to me and tell me that his mother and sister conspire things to say and hurt me, and said they call me bad names ((not going to repeat)) and try to make me feel bad...

who do i believe?
what do i do?
after i get them, and i sneek-illy put them in my job, who's to say they show up unannounced and try to see them...?

comments please post!!

Okay.... somewhere later in the forum is my original story and responses...

i would take all night trying to tell you the whole story up until now...

but since then, i realized that what my ex boyfriends parents are doing, and it is infact extortion...

since wednesday of last week i had talked over another website where she is also a member ((so easy to know, but im not gonna say it...))

and she was discussing on how when her brother moves out soon she didn't want the cats going with him, but gave me this whole shpeel about how she didn't want the cats in a cage ((i would have to anyway because i know of no one else who can take them and they can't come to my house bacuase my mother is allergic to them...

alot went on...

if u want to know the entire story find me on myspace the link should be in y profile here...

anyways...

so yeah...

help me..?!

My Boyfriend's parents are extortioning our cats ((if that is the proper term)). He is still living with them and i cannot take them due to the fact that my mom has animal based allergies. We had a verbal agreement that the cats belonged to myself, and my boyfriend, and that all of their food, and such would be provided my me. I work for a vet and am very punctual on all vaccines and medications. They onlt get the best food out there ((one of the good brands - Premium edge )) and all meds given and provided... the entire story is in a different link...

long story cut really short... i got the cats back and was keeping them at my job ((i work for a vet and cat condos were provided... they were able to get excersize with other hospital cats at night)) and then a week later they tell him that if the cats don't come back home, they will take his car away ((he lives in the middle of no where and needs to get to town at 5 am each morning for work...)) so i reluctantly gave them back... you have to understand i didn't want to be the reason why he got his car taken away and in turn lost his job too...

he has been telling me that he is taking god care of them, but all of this caused the bridge between myself and his parents to be burned... i can't see the cats while they stay there... they have been there for about 2 years now, and i understand that they have grown attatched to my cats... but i pay for them and do all i can... even the litter comes from me... no one pays anything... and i like it that way... shows my possition... but i did not gove them the cats for free...

everyone at my job knows that they are doing the wrong thing... the only part holding me back from calling the police is my boyfriend... until he gets his car in his name he can't do anything... they have 3 other cats of their own and 2 dogs... whats making my cats so special...

PLEASE reply back...

im freaking out and don't know what to do...

advise and vibes needed... :]...

:[ <--- me right now...

Can your boyfriend get the car changed over into his name soon? Then they wouldn't be able to hold that over his head, and you could take your cats. I understand that they've probably become very attached to your kitties, but they know thier yours, they shouldn't be causing a big problem over it.

I agree and my heart breaks for you because I remember your original post. You are a very good person to pay for all their expenses and I know you must love them dearly. It is NOT right, the only thing that I could think of that would help you is if you had had a written contract instead of verbal. That would have saved a lot of heartbreak. His parents are pretty pathetic people to hit below the belt. That is why I no longer believe in verbal agreements. Things happen and people change their mind. Sweetie, I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this, but you have a good heart and you are so selfless in thinking of your babies and your bf at the same time. See if he can get the car in his name sooner. Please keep us posted.

I'm sorry to hear your story. I don't have any practical advice to give you but just wanted to leave a little note to share my support. My only thought is if there might be any chance of you or your boyfriend moving into your own place anytime soon so that you can take your kitties back permanently? Or maybe you have some friends/family who might be a little less... possessive of your kitties who can look after them as long as possible? Don't know if there's any chance of either of those happening though. I hope everything turns out well, and soon.

it is too bad that this is happening to you. Good for you to do the best thing for all, even if it is a temporary fix. But I have to ask, why cant you visit them? Is it because you do not have transportation out there? Hoping this gets solved one way or another so very soon. Hugsssssss going out to you to help you hold on a bit longer.

I have been following your story and I really sympathize with you. Sounds like you honestly care for these animals and are trying to do the best for them. I hope you get your kitties back, but I really have to tell you in my opinion, that you should really sever your ties with these people. They sound wacko to me, really toxic. I'm sure you care about your boyfriend, but I really think (once again just my opinion) that I would question any future that had this wacky family in it.

I am sorry you have to go through this and I mist say it is a little confusing so I plan to seek out your other thread in a moment, but I agree maybe you can visit them till you figure it all out or tell BF get the car in his name or ya move in together something.

I am wondering how old you both are? Even at 18, I paid for my own car....and my parents couldn't/wouldn't take it away....especially if I was working.... I am assuming you are a grown up, cause you work at/for a vet....and if this is the case, I would skip the bf & call the parents, and tell them you need to have a sit down talk with them. YOUR cats, have nothing to do with their son...or his privledges. And you are greatful for their help in caring for them, but they are yours....maybe there has been some miscommunication along the way....I hope you can speak to them normally and have them respect you as an adult.... Lots of luck!

I have merged a couple of these threads to help newer members to understand the situation. There are a couple others re this same issue that I will try to find and merge here as well.

Thanks for all your support. I Have to say i really truely love this site, becasue everyone is very understanding and give the best advise. asw i am but 17 years old, i really seem to have no say with this situation and his parents because they have now respect for me, and do not like to be talked down to, especially by a minor... but i know what i am talking about.

i know for a fact that if i asked them what was wrong with my Tai ((Tux Boy)) when he was born they wouldn't have a clue. and if i asked what was wrong with him they wouldn't tell me what ((Tai has Feline Herpies, and gets outbreaks regularly that i treat with terramycin eye gel and viralys)) and if i asked them when Munchkin ((calico Girl)) was born they wouldn't know either. i bet they don't even know their birthdays... :[...

it's hard for me to look at their records and not cry every night over this.

they severed ties with me basically. i know i didn't help, but when i took the cats ((after his dad told me the only way they were ever leaving the house was if he broke their necks and buried them outside... which he said...))...
and i told the city dog warden ((they were rescues during kitten season of last year from there)) and the warden lady told me that the papers there were in my name and that the negotiations went sour and that she'd go up there to get them on monday of the next week. i told my bf and he stupidly told his mom to "warn her"... and the whole house was in hysterics and after dropped him off from work that day he called me 20 mins later and told me to go back to his house to get his cats...

his dad, after me getting the cats and getting ready to leave told me that if i called the house or came near the property again that he would have me arrested... i really didn't like people in general to begin with, now i just don't like people like that. a week after they came with me to work, my bf came to me and told me that his dad wanted the cats back or they'd take away his car...

not wanting to give the cats back, but not wanting to be the reason why he didn't have a car, i reluctantly gave them back... i broke up with him that night... but got back together with him a month later. i had been "myspacing" his sister back and forth and it seemed to be going well, but then they said they would attempt to tell the father that they would be going to a friend's house. their motive for taking them back was "i can't sleep at night thinking of them in a cage". truthfully, i would rather them there in a cage at my job than in a house with screaming, rough, people such as these who are caniving and evil as they seem...

i did not give them FREE CATS... and this isn't about money either.. i would gladly pay any amount to make my cats happy. i went to petco and got a huge thing of catnip and beds and new bowls and everything, in work every night to play with them and feed them... the only difference was they were in a cage... but honestly... i rathered them there in a place i was firmiliar with and knew they wouldn't be disturbed...

:] they lost 5 pounds jumping from the ledges and playing with eachother while there too, which they were growing to be obese...

*sigh*

:[ im still sad i miss them so much... i hate the hole i dug but i really couldn't help that... i want what is mine back... they are my babies and always will be...

Honey, I'm on my way somewhere and haven't had time to read carefully enough to be sure I follow where things stand, but let me say this:

1. If you don't have the cats now, have the police (and someone from the shelter if necessary) go with you to get them back once and for all. And don't ever give them back, no matter what your boyfriend (ex or otherwise) says. Those people are not fit to have cats.

2. If you even think of getting together with that boyfriend again, I will personally come whack you upside the haid! He took advantage of you because he was too weak to stand up to his evil, bullying father. Anyone who would let you be put through all this does not deserve to be with you.

3. And remember... that boy has his father's genes. Someone who comes from a family like that can overcome their influence, but it doesn't sound like this kid has done so. You can do better.

If I sound harsh, please forgive me -- it's them I'm mad at, not you, dear...

Well... okay, I'm a little mad at you, for letting them manipulate you this way -- but I was a 17-year-old girl once, too, and I know how hard it is to stand tall at that age.

But you're going to from now on! Right?