Originally Posted by fluffysimba
The cat is attacking one of her other cats to the point of it being cruel letting it happen IMO. She said she's tried to find her a new home and it's not worked. Yes it's harsh but really she needs to rehome her or what other choice is there?!?!? Let her continue to attack this other cat? It's cruel to Lily.
I'm sorry, but there is no way in he-double hockey sticks I could ever euthanize her. EVER! As of now, Ophelia is in the basement & Lily is upstairs. There are baby gates at the bottom & top of the stairs. I have shut Ophelia in the office when she's spunky to ensure she cannot get upstairs to Lily(the office has the best bird watching windows & she loves to be in there).
The damage to Lily has been done. All I can do at this point is prevent any other incidents. If the Buspar works on Ophelia...who's to say it won't work on Lily? I have yet to try any medicines for Lily. She has calmed quite a bit, she always freaks out after being attacked. I cannot blame her for that. Lily is also only 1 1/2 years old. Someone pointed out to me that there are many other factors that could influence her behavior. I did change a few things in both Lily & Ophelia's lives before Ophelia lashed out again.
IMO, its cruel to kill a healthy cat & it's cruel to let Lily be attacked. No matter what choice I make, there will be people who disagree with my choice as there will be people who agree. So, I intend on continuing to go out of my way to keep the two separate. I cannot find any shelter to take her, as she has bit a person. I cannot give them medical records without disclosing that, as it is in her medical records(mine, too). When she bit me, it was my fault, but a rescue won't care...she has bitten before, it is possible she will again.
I will look into cages, but I can just as easily shut Ophelia into the office where she has the large room to run. Then there are 2 doors between her & Lily.
Arlyn has a good point. Ophelia likely has a chemical imbalance. Depression in humans is a chemical imbalance. I have two sisters who suffer from depression & have physically/mentally harmed me. I am Lily.
We can debate this all day. I appreciate everyone's input & support.
This is going to come down to a personal decision unless someone here is willing to take Ophelia into their no cat or male only cat home, I will make the decision based on what I feel is right. I will keep everyone updated on her progress & hopefully I will have good news in a matter of weeks. Feel free to keep posting any advice or suggestions, but know I will not euthanize any of my cats. I did not intend for my response to be hurtful or sarcastic, but this is a difficult issue for me to address. Ophelia's fate is in my hands & I just want a simple, clear-cut decision.