Sierras 1st soccer practice.

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Well she went and didn't really play with the kids. But she did kick the ball around on the field with daddy.







I was talking to some of the other mothers and they said last year a few of the kids were like her but they eventually started playing. So hopefully after a few more practices she will come out of her shell. She seemed to enjoy herself. She was just afraid of the new environment and people. For those of you who do not know Sierra has a phobia of strangers. She just goes stiff and will not talk or cooperate. It just takes her a little time to open up. OK well a lot of time. But still lets think positive.



All the courage vibes are welcome and appreciated.
 
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Aww your daughter is sweet. I love her pink pants. She must feel like a little princess in them.

When I was a child I was very scared of strangers (still am, to be honest
) though I don't know if it went so far as being a phobia. So I feel badly for your little one because it's a rough situation and makes life really hard. Even now I find myself avoiding situations where I have to deal with other people because sometimes I just don't feel up to it. I think it's really good that you're getting your daughter involved in activities where she's required to interact with other people. My parents tried to get me to interact more with others, only I had an older sister who would often talk for me so I never learned to do it until I was older, and still am trying to learn to some extent.

Anyway, the point of my long-winded story is that I really feel that you should be as firm as you can (while still being kind and supportive) in getting her used to interacting with others. I know you don't want to hurt her and you don't want to put her into a position where she feels uncomfortable or panicky, but I feel it's so much better to be "unkind" to her now and get her used to this than to let it linger on and adversely affect her adult life. That being said, I'm speaking only from my personal experience and don't know your daughter. I'd hate to be giving you bad advice and telling you things that wouldn't be appropriate in your situation.

to you, and especially to your adorable (pink pants wearing!) little girl. Good luck to you both.
 
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Originally Posted by Pekoe & Nigel

Aww your daughter is sweet. I love her pink pants. She must feel like a little princess in them.

When I was a child I was very scared of strangers (still am, to be honest
) though I don't know if it went so far as being a phobia. So I feel badly for your little one because it's a rough situation and makes life really hard. Even now I find myself avoiding situations where I have to deal with other people because sometimes I just don't feel up to it. I think it's really good that you're getting your daughter involved in activities where she's required to interact with other people. My parents tried to get me to interact more with others, only I had an older sister who would often talk for me so I never learned to do it until I was older, and still am trying to learn to some extent.

Anyway, the point of my long-winded story is that I really feel that you should be as firm as you can (while still being kind and supportive) in getting her used to interacting with others. I know you don't want to hurt her and you don't want to put her into a position where she feels uncomfortable or panicky, but I feel it's so much better to be "unkind" to her now and get her used to this than to let it linger on and adversely affect her adult life. That being said, I'm speaking only from my personal experience and don't know your daughter. I'd hate to be giving you bad advice and telling you things that wouldn't be appropriate in your situation.

to you, and especially to your adorable (pink pants wearing!) little girl. Good luck to you both.
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aw thank you. Her shinguards and cleats are pink too.
The pants are what I was trying to sew the other day when Puff decided to "help me". (Pics in photo area if you haven't saw them already.

I'm a bit anti-social as well. And I've always made it a habit to avoid situations I didn't like. One of those being sports. So while I am out there trying to get her to open up I am also fighting MY urge to run and hide. So it's a learning experience for both of us. Hubby has always been social and his first reaction is to not cause her emotional pain. Of course we have to watch out that we do not force her too much. But I try to push it beyond the limits that I know wouldn't be to much for me but enough to get her to open up.. Does that make sense? I just do not want her to be like me. I want her to have friends (I only had a couple). In school I was always the invisible one and I liked it that way. I'd really like her to stand out and shine. She may never get to that point but a happy medium would be nice.
 
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Originally Posted by SalemWitchChild

Of course we have to watch out that we do not force her too much. But I try to push it beyond the limits that I know wouldn't be to much for me but enough to get her to open up.. Does that make sense? I just do not want her to be like me. I want her to have friends (I only had a couple). In school I was always the invisible one and I liked it that way. I'd really like her to stand out and shine. She may never get to that point but a happy medium would be nice.
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You sound like a wonderful mother. That's exactly what I was trying to get at in my previous post: to push her limits and get her to learn, but to be mindful of her mood and not take it too far. I'm sure she might not be too happy for you pushing her now (I know I wasn't whenever my parents made me speak up for myself) but when she's old enough to understand just how important it is she'll appreciate you trying to help her.
 
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For this she's not really mad at me. Maybe irritated that I had her stand in the circle with them. However the hair cut I had her get the other day... Well lets just say she didn't talk to me for the rest of the day...lol

See this thread for that story.
 
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Awwwwwwww look at that little Pink Princess Sierra. Heres sending positive vibes to her and to you. Thats so sweet that you understand and care
Thats what Puff was helping you with awwww Puff
 
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Aw! She's soo cute! But...let's not let that fool us....soon she'll be out on the field scoring all the goals and kicking butt!!


Sending plenty of courage vibes Sierra's way


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Please tell her good luck and have fun, from us!
 
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