Originally Posted by valanhb
I've been here for 5 years and obviously am a mod, and have been for a long time too. I still feel like my threads/posts are ignored!
I think it has a lot more to do with my own insecurities than what is actually happening, though.
Yeah Heidi, 23,000 posts later, and we've now decided to ignore you!
I think you have a point there, though. I think we put too much stock in how many replies our threads have gotten, or who knows our names. I don't believe that as a whole it is done maliciously. There are some people here that I know better than others, of course. It would be impossible for me to know every member, or to respond to every post...nobody could. Yes, there are long-standing jokes, but for the most part I can't consider them "inside" jokes since they probably started in a thread somewhere, which makes them accesible to everyone...not "inside" at all. I don't know what all the jokes mean, but I just figure I missed the thread that explained it. I certainly can't, or won't, take that personally.
The people who are enormously popular on this site are the ones who actively engage in many threads. They really get involved and make meaningful comments in threads. The compliment others pictures in fur pics, they welcome new members in New Cats on the Block. They offer condolences in Crossing the Bridge. They post personal anecdotes so we really get to know them...and not just the usual "What is your favorite..." type threads, but ones that are funny or endearing. They also actively try to get to know others. I can understand that not everyone has the time or inclination to do so, but I feel those are some of the reasons why some people are more "popular" here than others. The gifts are also a reflection of those efforts as well.
I think this would be a deadly dull site if we tried to keep it all "equal", or if people didn't form friendships or get to know each other.