Hey, folks, I should have been in bed a few hours ago, but it's great to see that others have had the same experience. I'm introverted, and actually a bit bashful, so that makes me somewhat standoffish. It never ceases to amaze me that people interpret my inability to "reveal myself" to perfect strangers as arrogance.
One thing about this thread really strikes me: Many people who are considered "insiders" by others, simply because they have received lots of gifts, know many members by their first names, or volunteer their time as mods/administrators/mentors, have expressed their feelings about not considering themselves part of the "inner circle". Okay, the "official capacity" can perhaps be explained by the fact that any site needs mods, etc., who can remain objective because they're not too personally involved with other members. I also see some members who describe themselves as "isolated" or "socially incompetent" advancing to "stars", simply because they make a real effort to reply to as many posts as they can, and to help newcomers wherever possible. There are currently nearly 2,000 active posters here. That's a pretty big group to deal with on a daily basis, so it's only natural that some people might feel neglected. Posts can drop off the "front page" simply because they were made at an off time. There's not really anything the site itself can do about it. Suppose you got a PM from a mod or administrator "instructing" you to reply in certain threads or forums? It might make some people feel more included, but wouldn't you feel some resentment about receiving "orders"? Sorry, TCS can't oblige there. Hopefully, this thread will encourage some members to be a bit more communicative, but we really can't hope for more than that, IMO.