Hi guys
I really need your help. I appreciate all the advise you wonderful people give and wonder if perhaps you could give me some suggestions!
As you all probably know by now I am infatuated with my cats and love them to death. I also have a Russian Blue coming by the end of the month as a show/breed kitty. I am in love with her already. So I have a house that we rent and it's not overly big about 12-13sqm I think that's the way you say it. It has 3 bedrooms one which we use as a study and one that Peterâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s kids use when they come over every fortnight and ours. We have one bathroom and a very small laundry that is just off the bathroom. Our living area is just a dining and living room open plan. We live in a fairly quiet street (no through road but fairly close to a big street). We have a nice small garden and a covered patio. We are also in the process of looking for another place to live that may be a bit bigger but for now this is it.
So on to the problem. Pete and I went to diner last night and we started talking about the Russian and our cats and he is very concerned that we are going to have 4 cats in this place and that when it comes time to move we are not going to find a landlord that will let us move in with that many animals. I can see his point. He said that it's not fair on the cats we do have to do this as he has always believed when you get an animal it is yours for life and you should get any more until the animal passes away. He feels that 4 cats is too much and that if I am getting the Russian to show and breed that the other cats are going to feel jealous and left out with all the time I have to spend with her. Also to have kittens from her eventually and the house will be over run. He is very supportive of my doing this and wants me to go ahead but I think he feels I should have not have had all these other cats if you know what I mean. He feels that having 1 or 2 Russians and to be a small cattery would have been enough. I can see his point but I love my other 3 and donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to get rid of them just because I have this next stage of my life finally coming to fruition.
I took Amy in as a stray and as you all know she has kittens, I have adored having her and the kittens and am looking for good homes for the kittens. Pete said perhaps we could find someone to give Amy a good home too now that she is so tame and healthy. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not fair on her is it? I love her and I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t think of finding her a home, I would be so sad, so does that mean I shouldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t get the Russian baby? I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t give up the idea of not starting this either. I am home for a couple of months and with everything that has happened to me this year need to do this if that makes sense. (Screams in frustration) He asked me if I would be prepared to give up Harry or Haley and limit our cat family to just 2 for now till we can one day afford our own home and then I can do whatever I want to do.
I understand what he is saying but I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know what to do. I love my cats and they are a part of my life and I love my Russian too and I want to show her and have that as part of my life. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to keep waiting for everything, I know that may sound selfish but I have waited a long time. I kept putting off having kids and now I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t have any. This is what I want in my life. Is that so bad? But as I can see itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not fair.
Any way I guess that gives you some idea of my dilemma. Please help me. I am sorry this is so long I just needed to get it off my chest. I have been agonising over this and in tears. Thank you in advance for any advise you can offer.
Love and Hugs
I really need your help. I appreciate all the advise you wonderful people give and wonder if perhaps you could give me some suggestions!
As you all probably know by now I am infatuated with my cats and love them to death. I also have a Russian Blue coming by the end of the month as a show/breed kitty. I am in love with her already. So I have a house that we rent and it's not overly big about 12-13sqm I think that's the way you say it. It has 3 bedrooms one which we use as a study and one that Peterâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s kids use when they come over every fortnight and ours. We have one bathroom and a very small laundry that is just off the bathroom. Our living area is just a dining and living room open plan. We live in a fairly quiet street (no through road but fairly close to a big street). We have a nice small garden and a covered patio. We are also in the process of looking for another place to live that may be a bit bigger but for now this is it.
So on to the problem. Pete and I went to diner last night and we started talking about the Russian and our cats and he is very concerned that we are going to have 4 cats in this place and that when it comes time to move we are not going to find a landlord that will let us move in with that many animals. I can see his point. He said that it's not fair on the cats we do have to do this as he has always believed when you get an animal it is yours for life and you should get any more until the animal passes away. He feels that 4 cats is too much and that if I am getting the Russian to show and breed that the other cats are going to feel jealous and left out with all the time I have to spend with her. Also to have kittens from her eventually and the house will be over run. He is very supportive of my doing this and wants me to go ahead but I think he feels I should have not have had all these other cats if you know what I mean. He feels that having 1 or 2 Russians and to be a small cattery would have been enough. I can see his point but I love my other 3 and donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to get rid of them just because I have this next stage of my life finally coming to fruition.
I took Amy in as a stray and as you all know she has kittens, I have adored having her and the kittens and am looking for good homes for the kittens. Pete said perhaps we could find someone to give Amy a good home too now that she is so tame and healthy. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not fair on her is it? I love her and I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t think of finding her a home, I would be so sad, so does that mean I shouldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t get the Russian baby? I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t give up the idea of not starting this either. I am home for a couple of months and with everything that has happened to me this year need to do this if that makes sense. (Screams in frustration) He asked me if I would be prepared to give up Harry or Haley and limit our cat family to just 2 for now till we can one day afford our own home and then I can do whatever I want to do.
I understand what he is saying but I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know what to do. I love my cats and they are a part of my life and I love my Russian too and I want to show her and have that as part of my life. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to keep waiting for everything, I know that may sound selfish but I have waited a long time. I kept putting off having kids and now I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t have any. This is what I want in my life. Is that so bad? But as I can see itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not fair.
Any way I guess that gives you some idea of my dilemma. Please help me. I am sorry this is so long I just needed to get it off my chest. I have been agonising over this and in tears. Thank you in advance for any advise you can offer.
Love and Hugs