Hon, you have a stalker on your hands.
The reason he didn't duck out of the club the night you showed up with a guy at your side is because he was hoping to cause you a bit of trouble with your "new boy friend".
As for him showing up at your house in the middle of the night with a "friend" with him, or sneaking around the outside of your house going "pssst", or walking into your house, that's creepy. Really, really creepy.
I wouldn't chaulk it up to him being "younger". Even 5 year olds know the difference between right and wrong and I'm assuming that this guy is older than 5 years old
He knows what he is doing is wrong and he's continuing to do it.
If I were you I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that the relationship is over and that you don't want him to show up at your work or your house anymore. Don't tell him that you can both be civil if you run into each other because that will only encourage him to seek you out to "run into you". Just tell him the relationship is over and you don't want to see him anymore and leave it at that. And don't go alone! Make sure you take a friend with you and talk to him outside and not inside his house. Have your friend wait either in the car so they can see you or a short distance away. But don't go alone!
If he shows up at your house or work again, or does anything else that leads you to believe that he's following you and monitoring your movements and habits (IE: sitting outside your house to notice that the dog has been rehomed), then contact the police and tell them you have a stalker on your hands and get a court order to restrain him from contacting you.
So many women have been murdered by their ex boy friends or spouses because the guy can't accept that it's over. A friend of mine was shot and killed in the parking lot of her apartment building by her ex boy friend who had been stalking her.
Don't let yourself become a statistic. You've recognized abnormal behaviour in him, now take action to get him out of your life, pronto!
The reason he didn't duck out of the club the night you showed up with a guy at your side is because he was hoping to cause you a bit of trouble with your "new boy friend".
As for him showing up at your house in the middle of the night with a "friend" with him, or sneaking around the outside of your house going "pssst", or walking into your house, that's creepy. Really, really creepy.
I wouldn't chaulk it up to him being "younger". Even 5 year olds know the difference between right and wrong and I'm assuming that this guy is older than 5 years old
If I were you I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that the relationship is over and that you don't want him to show up at your work or your house anymore. Don't tell him that you can both be civil if you run into each other because that will only encourage him to seek you out to "run into you". Just tell him the relationship is over and you don't want to see him anymore and leave it at that. And don't go alone! Make sure you take a friend with you and talk to him outside and not inside his house. Have your friend wait either in the car so they can see you or a short distance away. But don't go alone!
If he shows up at your house or work again, or does anything else that leads you to believe that he's following you and monitoring your movements and habits (IE: sitting outside your house to notice that the dog has been rehomed), then contact the police and tell them you have a stalker on your hands and get a court order to restrain him from contacting you.
So many women have been murdered by their ex boy friends or spouses because the guy can't accept that it's over. A friend of mine was shot and killed in the parking lot of her apartment building by her ex boy friend who had been stalking her.
Don't let yourself become a statistic. You've recognized abnormal behaviour in him, now take action to get him out of your life, pronto!