Originally Posted by CarolPetunia
I've never read this forum before, because I'm a great big coward and can't handle the emotions that go with cat rescue. But in the past couple of weeks, I've found myself involved with three different rescue situations... so I figured I'd better try to toughen up, and I started by reading this thread.
Eileen, you have the patience of a saint! I don't know how you managed to be civil to that woman for so long. And do I understand correctly that she does not have Lucy back? Please say it's so...
I so admire your perseverance in this situation! I hope I can be as strong when it's my turn again.
I know exactly how you feel. I often question whether I'm cut off for rescue and TNR because I get so emotionally involved. Honestly, what has helped me the most (besides support from TCS, of course), is just reminding myself that it's not about hard it is for me, it's about helping the cats. It's still hard, but that really does help. If I can do it, you can!
It's been a challenge, to say th the least, but I felt like I had to be patient and civil with the family for the sake of the kitties. I actually have a relationship of sorts with this family and have been working with them for almost year to TNR some feral cats in in their neighborhood. I also rely on them to feed and, to their credit, they do a great job.
I've been hesistant to mention this because I was afraid you guys would question my judgement, but Big Lucy is now back with the mother. This was a mutual decision between me, the rescue and the mother after a lot of phone calls and conversation. The daughter, who was the problem to begin with, is moving, so the both the rescue and I felt comfortable in allowing the mother to readopt Lucy. Please trust my judgement on this and rest assured that I will continue to monitor Lucy's situation.
Originally Posted by Momofmany
I'm just catching this thread also. I'm sending huge adoption vibes for Little Lucy Lu (I started calling her that halfway thru this thread). What a great job you have done in calming her down in preparation for an adoption clinic!!
Most rescue organizations require that an owner sign over their rights to a cat when released so they can't do what this woman did to you. I know you probably wouldn't have gotten her to sign. Perhaps if you (or anyone here) get yourself into a situation like this again, let the person know up front that by giving you the cat, they have rescinded all rights to that cat in the future, and would need to pay adoption fees like anyone else to get her back.
Thanks for the vibes, everybody, but no luck today at the adoption fair. I'm disappointed of course, for Baby Lu sake, but we'll keep trying. Another local rescue (we have a quite a few) is helping spread the word about her through their network and even made me some awesome flyers to post (much better than the ones I made!)
In hindsight, I wish I would have gotten the mother to sign something. Sure would have saved me a lot of grief. At the same time, I really feel for the mother because the daugther was putting so much pressure on her to give up the cats and making threats about taking them to the pound. I'm hoping there won't be any situations like this in the future and that I can stick to TNR and finding homes for strays, but if it comes up again, I'll definitely have a better idea of how to handle things.
Thanks again and please keep those vibes coming for sweet Baby Lu. I just know there's a wonderful home for out there for her!