Hey y'all!
I haven't been on in forever... I've been REALLY busy in my last/5th year of college, but I've got a problem with Oliver now...
I've been dating my boyfriend, Ian, now for about 6 months. He and Oliver were never "best friends" as Ian always kinda rough-housed with him (same way my dad does and Oliver has no problem with my dad).... until the last 2 weeks or so, Oliver would usually hide in the closet most of the time Ian was over, but he'd still come out and play/snuggle sometimes.
Well, the last 2 weeks or so have been completely different... there have been 2 times that I've had to leave Oliver and Ian alone - both times, Oliver ended up pooping himself simply at the sight of Ian (the ONLY times Oliver's ever gone outside the litter box, let alone on the spot) one of those times was right after Ian went to nicely and calmly pick up Oliver while sitting on the floor to snuggle and Oliver peed all over him. This is completely out of the ordinary. There have been plenty of times that Ian has picked him up to say "hey, I'm a nice guy, I just like to play" and Oliver's been fine.
Now the past 2 days have been even weirder. Last night, Ian came over for awhile and we were laying on the bed. I picked up Ollie and brought him up with us just to get some scritchies (since the pooing/peeing incidents, Ian hasn't been anything but super nice to Oliver, btw), he was fine when I was holding him. Then I set him to lay on Ian's chest and all we were doing was gently petting him, not forcing him to stay there or anything, and Oliver was crying like he was being tortured! It happened again tonight when Oliver was just laying on the floor and Ian started petting him.
I'm really really worried about this sudden change in attitude and Ian's now really upset that the cat hates him/is afriad of him (apparently) this much. Is this something that's just gonna take a long time of Ian being nice just because Ollie's got kind of a bad impression of him (since he used to rough-house with Oliver a lot) or should I seek professional help in trying to figure this out. Otherwise, Oliver is acting COMPLETELY normal. Eating/drinking, peeing/pooing, cuddling with me.... nothing different except his attitude toward Ian. PLEASE HELP!
I haven't been on in forever... I've been REALLY busy in my last/5th year of college, but I've got a problem with Oliver now...
I've been dating my boyfriend, Ian, now for about 6 months. He and Oliver were never "best friends" as Ian always kinda rough-housed with him (same way my dad does and Oliver has no problem with my dad).... until the last 2 weeks or so, Oliver would usually hide in the closet most of the time Ian was over, but he'd still come out and play/snuggle sometimes.
Well, the last 2 weeks or so have been completely different... there have been 2 times that I've had to leave Oliver and Ian alone - both times, Oliver ended up pooping himself simply at the sight of Ian (the ONLY times Oliver's ever gone outside the litter box, let alone on the spot) one of those times was right after Ian went to nicely and calmly pick up Oliver while sitting on the floor to snuggle and Oliver peed all over him. This is completely out of the ordinary. There have been plenty of times that Ian has picked him up to say "hey, I'm a nice guy, I just like to play" and Oliver's been fine.
Now the past 2 days have been even weirder. Last night, Ian came over for awhile and we were laying on the bed. I picked up Ollie and brought him up with us just to get some scritchies (since the pooing/peeing incidents, Ian hasn't been anything but super nice to Oliver, btw), he was fine when I was holding him. Then I set him to lay on Ian's chest and all we were doing was gently petting him, not forcing him to stay there or anything, and Oliver was crying like he was being tortured! It happened again tonight when Oliver was just laying on the floor and Ian started petting him.
I'm really really worried about this sudden change in attitude and Ian's now really upset that the cat hates him/is afriad of him (apparently) this much. Is this something that's just gonna take a long time of Ian being nice just because Ollie's got kind of a bad impression of him (since he used to rough-house with Oliver a lot) or should I seek professional help in trying to figure this out. Otherwise, Oliver is acting COMPLETELY normal. Eating/drinking, peeing/pooing, cuddling with me.... nothing different except his attitude toward Ian. PLEASE HELP!