Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
There is a huge gigantic difference between saying something was supposed to happen and saying that you would not necessarily choose, in retrospect, to have it not happen. One says that in some strange way you deserved it. One says that we are the sum of our experiences and that, to me anyway, I love myself and I am currently happy for the first time in my life, and who knows what would happen if I changed something from the past.
I wouldn't trade my life for the world.
That doesn't mean anybody on this earth would call most of it an enjoyable experience. I don't really feel like sharing details for numerous reasons, but suffice it to say I do know what numerous types of abuse are like from personal experience. But that's just it-- that's my experience, my life. I really can't bring myself to say I would undo any of it if I could.
oh i can understand that. there are indeed some trials and tough times that i have been thru that i am in some way grateful for.
i like my life now because i now understand that all the choices i make are mine own
but i cant help but wish that the ppl who knew what was happening to me, had stepped up and done something
its one thing to be abused by a parent or whomever, but to have witnesses do nothing just reinforces the feelings that it was your fault and you deserved it and should never expect anything different.
but if someone were to ask if i'd want to trade my life for theirs, nope, i know i wouldnt do it
at the very least i am familiar with the troubles i have now, we've learned how to co exist
and to make the best of things
not sure how i would handle someone ele's troubles
they dont look all that attractive to me
having a happy childhood may help give you a firmer foundation in life later on, but it is NO guarentee that you wont have plenty of troubles later on, it doesnt protect you from injury accident illness etc
and i think in some cases, the person whose had prior experience with hardships, actually fare better when faced with them later on in life
i think one belief about re incarnation is that, thru your actions in one life, you are destined to be born into a life that will, if you are wise enough to pay attention, teach you the things you failed to learn in your previous life.
if you still dont learn those things, you get reincarnated again.
people that are born into hardship, are not exactly blamed for that, because they may be working on issues that weren't worked out in many lives past.
but some ppl do believe that if you are born to bad parents or born with some physical or mental defect/handicap, that you brought that on yourself because of what you did in your past life/lives.
since you were not the same person, only the incarnation of a spirit, its hard for me to understand how can you blame the person....
but my understanding of reincarnation, at least in the Hindu religion, is very limited at this point
i have been trying to find out more from practicing Hindus
but they have a hard time explaining things that there are no english words for
the idea of karma is not as simple as we believe, not if you were to discuss it with a Hindu. its much more complicated than cause and effect - you do bad things, bad things will happen to you
its really not that simple, i've been told
but the way it was explained to me, is very hard for me to understand so i wont even try to explain it here
in any case, in this religion at least, you do not get to choose your next life.
ack i go on and on when i dont know what the hell i am talking about