please help!

I got two new cats about 3 weeks ago...I had 2 cats about 10 months old already. I took my time introducing them and 3 of them get along great. they clean each other and play with no problem. The problem is my cat that I had first. I bottle-fed her and spoiled her, because she was abandoned. She is not warming up to the two new cats and is pissed at the cat she was with before. She nips them on the ears and growls at them. She will not eat with them and has lost some weight. I am feeding her by herself and paying alot of extra attention to her alone. She will watch them play but will not join in. Once in a while I will catch her sniffing them but thats as close as she will get. I am worried that she will not become friendly with them.I miss her running about the house and playing. What should I do?

Dear Laurie and Family:

You're doing all the right things. Be patient; sometimes it takes quite a long time for "original cats" to warm up to "newbies". In our household, Rani and Sishya STILL have it in for Baby Suha, two plus years after Suha joined us. The reason? Suha came in swinging and acting like a bratcat; they have not forgotten this! But we all get along well enough; everyone gets plenty of love and attention, and no one is losing any weight around here lol!

Feeding your original princess by herself and giving her extra love and attention is absolutely the way to go! and the sniffing sounds promising -- this means there are attempts to get to know one another and to break the ice, so to speak. I feel good about this situation and think it won't be long before your concern can give way to enjoying your multicat family. Be sure to keep us posted on the progress, okay? And don't give up or get exasperated by "backward steps" -- you might have those, but keep on doing what you're doing! and you will be positively rewarded in time. THANKS SO MUCH, also, for adopting multiple cats -- you're a star in my book!

I LOVE ANY ANIMALS BUT i AM PARTIAL TO CATS/KITTENS! I am expecting a change in our financial wellbeing for the better and I want to open a cat resque..my husband says I will not be able to give up the cats for adoption once I get them. As far as my Kitty Girl....she is something else...she knows exactly what she is doing...we thought she might be ill, but she is eating fine and loves plain chicken breast...her bathroom function are all firm and ok..I just think she is sulking and pissed off...when I talk to her she looks at me and wags her tail..."like I got you wrapped around my finger" i will give it time and hopefully she will come around. Thanks for ur advice...

Hi there

we're so happy to welcome you and your lovely kitties to TCS. I'm sure you'll enjoy your stay with us - we're one great big family and you'll find loads of friends here. If I can help at all while you're finding your way around TCS just click on my username and send me a Personal Message - I'll do what I can to answer your questions

You've gotten some great advice there. I hope that Kitty Girl comes around soon. We have a forum called the Behaviour forum - you might find some really good suggestions there as well.

I would be more concerned about her dropping weight, than about her accepting them. She may be so stressed out about the new additions that she is getting sick. This can prove dangerous to her if you don't stay on top of it. Some cats do better all by themselves.

Be sure that she has her own food and water dish, her own litter pan, her own private

time with you and her own bed. If she keeps losing weight, get her to the vet for bloodwork.

Good luck-

I am feeding her by herself and watching her eat and drink...I am also checking her pee and poo and it looks fine. She was and in my book still Queen here but she has to regain that confidence. I weighed her last week and this week again and she has not dropped anymore. I will take her to the vet if i feel that she is not perking up. No one understnad how spoiled she is...she sleeps on my chest with her face in the palm of my hand like she is nursing. Remember I bottle fed her from a week old!

Dear Laurie and Family:

Omigosh, what an adorable picture that paints in my mind! She IS such a golden beauty, and you have been so close with her right from the very start; so it's easy to see why she WOULD be the Princess and Queen of your heart and household! But even feline royalty can learn to love their subjects (lol) given time, love, and patience. My beloved little girl Princess Marley was a lot like that in purrsonality, too -- she never really warmed up 100% to other cats joining our family, especially King Sunny-A-Cat, who joined us three years after Marley came; but eventually, they did reach an agreement, and shortly before my beautiful Marley girl left to go over the Bridge, she and Sunny actually became quite loving and close.

Don't give up! You can do this, y'all!

Well, I replied to this same post in the "behavior" forum. I hope the moderators move this thread and integrate both of them.

Hi & welcome to TCS! You've gotten great advice already, so I hope your girl settles in.

Hola y bienvenido a TCS!..
(Translate: Hi and Welcome to TCS!!!... ..)

See you on the forums!

Hi welcome to TCS!