Next Wednesday is Mike's birthday. He is they type that doesn't like a big deal made out of his birthday. No party, no fuss. He wants us to go out and have a nice, quiet dinner together. GREAT!
Here's the dilemma...his Mom and sister want to come with us. Now mind you, I am respectful of his Mother...because she's his Mother...but I CANNOT STAND his sister. She is a lazy, good for nothing, moocher who uses everyone in her life. Most people get sick of her and tell her where to go...he doesn't even care for her very much because of things she has done (especially lately).
Well, he told his Mom he wasn't sure what I had planned and he would talk to me about it. She, of course, gave him the guilt trip about not inviting his sister.
Now, his Mom's birthday was a few weeks ago and we invited her over for dinner and cake. She asked if his sister could come too and he said, "Id rather that she didn't Mom". So she refused to come unless his sister could come too. Needless to say, since it was her birthday, we decided to "put up with" his sister to make his Mom happy on her birthday. Was a LONG night.
Now here it is HIS birthday, and she is pulling this crap again. He doesn't want his sister around...but his Mom is making him feel bad about it...she always lays a guilt trip on him...no matter what.
Mike is too sweet and will give in...even though it is his birthday and he should spend it how he wants and with whom he wants (he really just wants it to be the two of us).
So now...I guess I get to be the "b*tch" and tell his Mom that Mike really does not want his sister around so she can't come. And if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't have to come either. This of course will just end up with her feeling like "I" am the one who makes him feel this way, and she will give him crap about it later.
I too would like it to just be the two of us...but I don't want him to have to hear the crap that I know will come.
What should I do????
Here's the dilemma...his Mom and sister want to come with us. Now mind you, I am respectful of his Mother...because she's his Mother...but I CANNOT STAND his sister. She is a lazy, good for nothing, moocher who uses everyone in her life. Most people get sick of her and tell her where to go...he doesn't even care for her very much because of things she has done (especially lately).
Well, he told his Mom he wasn't sure what I had planned and he would talk to me about it. She, of course, gave him the guilt trip about not inviting his sister.
Now, his Mom's birthday was a few weeks ago and we invited her over for dinner and cake. She asked if his sister could come too and he said, "Id rather that she didn't Mom". So she refused to come unless his sister could come too. Needless to say, since it was her birthday, we decided to "put up with" his sister to make his Mom happy on her birthday. Was a LONG night.
Now here it is HIS birthday, and she is pulling this crap again. He doesn't want his sister around...but his Mom is making him feel bad about it...she always lays a guilt trip on him...no matter what.
Mike is too sweet and will give in...even though it is his birthday and he should spend it how he wants and with whom he wants (he really just wants it to be the two of us).
So now...I guess I get to be the "b*tch" and tell his Mom that Mike really does not want his sister around so she can't come. And if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't have to come either. This of course will just end up with her feeling like "I" am the one who makes him feel this way, and she will give him crap about it later.
I too would like it to just be the two of us...but I don't want him to have to hear the crap that I know will come.
What should I do????