Originally Posted by Moz
And, is CatlessGoatMan even a real person? There's just too many "ifs" that many of us would rather not answer, nor know the truth. I feel a bit cheated myself.
Originally Posted by Moz
And, is CatlessGoatMan even a real person? There's just too many "ifs" that many of us would rather not answer, nor know the truth. I feel a bit cheated myself.
Very well said. I still believe this is a hoax. Too many things just don't add up.Originally Posted by neetanddave
Innocent til proven guilty is all I'll say.
Having lost a child and a grandchild, I can tell you unless you have been through something of that magnitude, you cannot know what is going on right now. Those of you that haven't, consider yourself lucky. Then imagine the worst thing you can happening to you RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT WITHOUT ANY NOTICE, and that still will not prepare you for it. Those of you who have been in the same situation, you will understand how complicated and VERY PRIVATE things need to be sometimes.
I would hate to think that he or her family would come on here reading this stuff and people have been making wild summations and accusations based on the "lack" of information in a case where it is perfectly reasonable that there is not yet any information available. The hospitals and funeral homes have a responsibility to the family, not to the general public, to release or withhold information.
As far as any actions or lack of action, as I said before, unless you have been in that kind of situation (and I pray that you never are), please don't second guess what anyone might be going through and what you or anyone else things they should or should not be doing. Trust me, there is no handbook for grief.
That is exactly what Iam thinking. I thought that from day one but just didnt want to say anything, because if it was for real, it would have been so disheartning to see, or hear. Sorry I hope that makes sense.Originally Posted by Phenomsmom
Very well said. I still believe this is a hoax. Too many things just don't add up.
Originally Posted by neetanddave
Innocent til proven guilty is all I'll say.
Having lost a child and a grandchild, I can tell you unless you have been through something of that magnitude, you cannot know what is going on right now. Those of you that haven't, consider yourself lucky. Then imagine the worst thing you can happening to you RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT WITHOUT ANY NOTICE, and that still will not prepare you for it. Those of you who have been in the same situation, you will understand how complicated and VERY PRIVATE things need to be sometimes.
I would hate to think that he or her family would come on here reading this stuff and people have been making wild summations and accusations based on the "lack" of information in a case where it is perfectly reasonable that there is not yet any information available. The hospitals and funeral homes have a responsibility to the family, not to the general public, to release or withhold information.
As far as any actions or lack of action, as I said before, unless you have been in that kind of situation (and I pray that you never are), please don't second guess what anyone might be going through and what you or anyone else things they should or should not be doing. Trust me, there is no handbook for grief.
Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Well said Nita.......and I think we all still hope it turns out to not be a hoax...
Thanks girls.Originally Posted by halfpint
Well said Nita and I agree and further more if it is true alot of people will be feeling bad, passing judgement without proof is by far not fair. Like I said I myself have lived it also, there are no rules .
Well, I did go back and read her posts and here's what I found:Originally Posted by Sneakymom
You know, I was wondering that myself. I don't spend too much time on this forum, but I kind of remember that thread. I thought the pregnancy was announced in August or so, so that would mean she'd only be 6 months, and as you said, that picture posted is NOT one of a preemie baby.
Kansas City, I believe. I saw her mention it in one of her posts - I think when she was the spotlight of the week.Originally Posted by catloverin_ks
Sorry if I missed it, but what part of MO are they "supposedly" from???
From what I read I think she was abt. 4 months pregnant when she found out for sure. There are cases of women giving birth without knowing they are pregnant, so I wouldn't necessarily be suspicious about that part. Her timelines made sense to me when I went through her threads.Originally Posted by white cat lover
I don't know anything about being pregnant, but wouldn't you have noticed sooner than 2 months after getting pregnant?
Thank you for doing what you did. That was brave of you.Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR
I'm soo glad a formal announcement was made. I have been wanting to say something for several days now but held off as i knew Anne was going to make one. I am one of the ones who checked into his story and i don't mind saying so. At one point, i was going to send things for the baby and wanted to verify everything before doing so. I went online and looked up the address he gave me to- the one where "Amber" supposedly lived- only to find that there was no record of her. At that point- I called the hospital numbers he gave me claiming where the baby was at. I called 3 different numbers (and after doing so- looked up ALL of the hospitals in that area.) Not one had a record of Amber, John, or the baby. None of them. It was definitely at this point that i realized it was a hoax- but attempting to give them one last chance- i called the morgues in that area and another member called the funeral homes- No record. I also called the NICU- no record of a baby under that name ever being there. So there you have it folks- if there was any glimmer of doubt left- please know that I at least fried to verify everything to no avail. Nobody under those names in those areas are in any of the records there. I'm sorry. I know ya'll got as invested into this story as i did. What made me curious before i ever did the calling around was that first picture posted of Kaelyn- if you notice in the background there are flowers, chocolate, and a card....Who would give that to someone who had just lost the mom? Also- John supposedly claimed that he was extremely allergic to flowers when members asked if they could send some to the funeral home- see...things don't add up. There were a few other things like that which really lead me to believe it was a hoax (i had NEVER heard of anyone faking an online death before this so it was quite a shock for me. I just don't understand the reasoning behind it.) Once i called around and checked up on the story- that was proof enough for me to know it was a hoax. I wanted to tell ya'll sooner...but i knew a formal announcement was going to be made and thought it was best to let Anne do so after she had also researched as well so i was not the only one. I am sorry we all cried and mourned over this story when it was only a hoax. I am still infuriated over the entire thing.