Plus where would you send them, if Stan did decide (and win) custody of Kaelyn, who is to say that Stan would accept them from John... and then John would be left with many painful reminders of both Amber and Kaelyn
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Hey guys, I need some help
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Yeah, I understand the need to DO something, but I think we all need to just take this one day at a time. We will all be poised and ready when the time comes, but I think everything is too crazy now to really do this
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O.k. I have been working with John during this WHOLE thing. I am asking HIM what he WANTS us to do. I am NOT trying to overwhelm him one bit.Just offer him the help that he will need.
When I find out more info, I will post it.
John hasn't worked since the accident. I'm sure he could use all the help he can get from us.
She weighed in at over 5 pounds.Normal prodical is for any babies over 5 pounds to be released within 48 hours. UNLESS there are complications.
I'm sorry but I don't agree. We are trying to offer our support and our help to John and Kaelyn.If we sit back and do nothing, then Kaelyn and John are the ones to suffer MORE! Haven't they lost enough now? Why not ease their load a bit if we can?
Yes, I will. I have ONLY his and Kaelyn's best interest at heart.
Yes, the baby needs things. As babies grow, they grow out of their clothes.We'll be helping ease the burden some.
When I find out more info, I will post it.
Just a thought.... but we are people that John & Amber have met through an online community, not the only one they frequent, for a short amount of time. Why not take a step back and let him have a little space. I understand that you are trying to help, but this just happened yesterday. He has so many things to take care of... between the animals, the baby, a funeral, obituary, etc. From the list of things he posted in the other thread, and with the help of Amber's parents, this baby is not going to go without.
On a side note 'normal protocol' for babies may not apply to one who is having respiratory problems and is having trouble feeding..
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Oh, I know she won't go without. I just want to help ease the burden some.
I have gotten several PMs from members wanting to know how to help. I am working with John and will do as he wishes.
I have gotten several PMs from members wanting to know how to help. I am working with John and will do as he wishes.
I'm sorry, but I agree 100% that we should wait. I'm sure he is overwelmed right now with everything and he's got his family and community that are supporting him as well. I think we should wait till the dust settles a bit and see how things transpose. Give him a little room.
I'll be more than happy to participate when the time comes as I'm sure we all will.
I'll be more than happy to participate when the time comes as I'm sure we all will.
I'm sure you have all experienced a death at some piont in your lives be it a close relative or friend.
My estranged husband died in may of last year, and my 35 year old nephew only 4 months later, and i needed some "me" time just to sit and reflect for a few days.
Because my head was up my backside for want of a better word, all i needed at that moment in time was close friends be it here at TCS or in reality to tell me that they were there for me if i needed to talk or if i needed anything to let them know.
My estranged husband died in may of last year, and my 35 year old nephew only 4 months later, and i needed some "me" time just to sit and reflect for a few days.
Because my head was up my backside for want of a better word, all i needed at that moment in time was close friends be it here at TCS or in reality to tell me that they were there for me if i needed to talk or if i needed anything to let them know.
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I lost my Dad exactly 2 years ago on Jan. 28,2005.So, yes I know the pain all to well.
Again, I will do what John wishes.
Again, I will do what John wishes.
Chiming in here, everyone wants to help I'm sure, I think he does need a bit of time to see what it is he needs or the baby needs, there's family to help with immediate things I am assuming, I sure want to help in anyway I can. He probably doesn't even know if he's coming or going this is not a small issue, I will do what ever needs be when it needs be now or a week from now does not matter . So whatever anyone finds out what we need to know is fine for me ,
I'm so sorry I wasn't able to be there for you
I agree with you Tammy
It would not hurt to make some decisions right now as to what method we could use to help, like a Paypal or a store account so that time on research does not have to be done later. And Tricia's advice is good so as not to have put extra burdens on John. But as for putting it into action I agree that we should wait a week or two before doing anything. Kaelyn is in hospital and by John's latest posts, is still under intensive medical attention, so does not need anything yet except the love of her family, and she has that. If all goes well, she will be growing so fast that anything we buy now could be wasted by the time she comes out of hospital. Let us wait to see what is really needed at that time, but let us have things in place so that we can swing into action fast.
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I have spoken to John about this all,
for those that want to donate to an animal shelter in her Memory,PLEASE do so
for those that want to do something for the Baby, we are going to wait a week to see how she does and then go from there.
I will be keeping you all updated about it through posts!!!
for those that want to donate to an animal shelter in her Memory,PLEASE do so
for those that want to do something for the Baby, we are going to wait a week to see how she does and then go from there.
I will be keeping you all updated about it through posts!!!
Thanks SOOO much!
