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Oh my gosh! I'm so shocked this just can't be happening! I am so sorry for you and the baby John! I wish there were something I could do for you. Like others have said, I'm here when/if you need to talk. My prayers are with you both. Please grieve but take care of yourself too. Lava Girl needs you to do that for her.
 
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Originally Posted by Moz

Like the others said, we're all here for you, John. How is the baby doing?
She's doing fairly well. She is a big baby. That picture was taken before she started having some breathing problems. But she is doign better now. They used this thing that blows air up their nose and it helps their lungs work or something. I didnt really understand most of what they were talking about. Amber's mom and dad were loosing it at the time and no one could really hear what was going on. So she's actually on oxygen, in an issellette is that how you spell it?, on a heart monitor and several other machines now. And becase of how early she is she isnt able to suck on a bottle yet. So she'sbeing fed thru a tube they ran thru her nose into her stomach. But she's doing pretty good overall. Which is a relief.
 

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Oh John, I think we are all crying right along with you!
I just can't believe she's gone.... I'm so sorry that you are going through this & I will be praying for you, Lava Girl, & your families!
 

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John, take as much time as you need to grieve.


I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and to your family and friends. Our thoughts and prayers are with you both.
 

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Originally Posted by CatlessGoatMan

She's doing fairly well. She is a big baby. That picture was taken before she started having some breathing problems. But she is doign better now. They used this thing that blows air up their nose and it helps their lungs work or something. I didnt really understand most of what they were talking about. Amber's mom and dad were loosing it at the time and no one could really hear what was going on. So she's actually on oxygen, in an issellette is that how you spell it?, on a heart monitor and several other machines now. And becase of how early she is she isnt able to suck on a bottle yet. So she'sbeing fed thru a tube they ran thru her nose into her stomach. But she's doing pretty good overall. Which is a relief.
I am so happy to hear she's doing good! She's absolutely beautiful!
 

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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256

I am so happy to hear she's doing good! She's absolutely beautiful!
Yes she is! You have to admit, some babies you can't quite figure out who they are gonna look like....she is precious! Looks like her mama to me!
 

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She's a beautiful, beautiful baby..and fwiw, at least when I was working, little girls that were premie usually did better than little boys born early and her weight is good. Not surprising if she needs some support early on. best wishes for her making good progress and coming home with you soon.
 

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John, I'm really at a loss, and don't have any words. But I wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and the baby.
 

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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256

I am so happy to hear she's doing good! She's absolutely beautiful!
Same here- I'm so glad to hear that she's doing well, she'll be gorgeous, just like Amber
 

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John,

I'm sorry this is late. My heart goes out to you.

May god shower millions of blessings on our Amber's soul.

I will keep all of you in my prayers.
 
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Ok So I think Im finally going to get it all out. I guess I should start with a few days ago Buddy had the runs and she stayed up with him until 5 in the morning making sure he was drinking enough and that he had finally stopped. Around 5:40 she came in and woke me up saying she didnt feel well. I asked her what was wrong and she said oh just my gallbladder I think. Just really bad this time. She was complaining that her whole stomach hurt and it looked a little swollen. But she said oh no its just bloated from my IBS dont be such a worrier John. So I gave in. Let her talk me out of making her go to the doctors. She kept complainging that her stomach hurt. Then yesterday she woke up with pretty much her whole left side of her stomach bruised. She said that it was probably just from when Big Bird jumped on her yesterday and not to worry. But I put my foot down and told her to call the doctor for an apointment. A bruise just doesnt come up from a dog jumping on you. Something else had to be wrong. So she called set an apointment for today (thursday) at 1. She wasnt acting totally herself all that day now that I look back. She was trying to hide how sick she felt and how much pain she was in. I just wish she had told me or I had just notice maybe something could have been done for her. This morning she came stumbling thru at 6 in the morning. She wasnt walking right but she said it was because she as just a little dizzy from just waking up. I told her to tell the doctor she was doing that. She said fine. Kissed me said not to worry and went to bed. I woke up at 8 in the morning to her alarm going off. Which isnt that strange since she always sleeps thru it even though its very loud. So I got up and went into her room. She was laying there with Lily sleeping on her chest. Lily tried to go after me and so I shooed her off. Shook Amber and nothing. She wasnt responding at all. So I called 911. She was still breathing but not normally. Very shallow breaths. I then called her parents and her sister. Then the Ambulance got there and we both went in it to the hospital. When we got there she had sort of woken up. Though Im not sure if she was really aware of what was going on. She just kept saying dont hurt the baby dont hurt the baby. John dont let them hurt her. I didnt really know what to do. They told me to sit down and so I did. After about 30 minutes her family got there and they told them that she had had to go into emergency surgery to repair her small intestines. She was bleeding internally. When they got her in there they realized how much blood she had actually lost and so they decided that they needed to get Lava Girl out of there so they could check and make sure there was no bleeding anywhere else. She made it thru the surgery but died in recovery. I was with her when she died. Her breathing slowed down and then finally stopped. Then her heart stopped. She had lost to much blood and was to sick by the time we got her to the hospital. They knew she wasnt going to make it. It was the worst feeling sitting there knowing that the women you love is just dieing right there and theres nothign at all you can do about it. I love her so much. To add to everything else thats going on Stan showed up at the hospital right after she died and caused a huge scene. I wanted to kill him for everything hes put her thru. He messed up her life so much and then had the gall to walk into that room with the ones who love her so much and act like an idiot right after she died. I dont get him at all. Im not going to let him get his hands on Kaelyn. Im going to show her how a dad should be. I just hope I can live up to the man Amber thought I was. Be the father she was convinced I would be. I have to take care of her for Amber. I just hope I dont get any trouble from anyone.
 

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John, you're going to be a great father. Don't you let anyone tell you otherwise. And please don't think that any of this was your fault. God needed her with him more than we do down here. Please know that so many people are praying for you, and know that Amber is there with you, in your heart, and in the eyes of that little girl that you love so much.
 

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Oh John, I am so sorry about all of this.
Do I really need to repeat what's been said?
We all loved Amber, and we all love you and LavaGirl very much.

I'm sure that Amber's family also knows how important you were to each other and how important the baby is to you.
After Stan's 'display' I'm sure that is one influence they do not want in their granddaughter's life.

We all know you will do right by LavaGirl

 

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John, I cannot imagine how difficult it must've been for you to post that.
Hindisght is 20/20. I really hope you get custody of Kaelyn, you will be a wonderful father! And please, don't leave us. We lost Amber, we don't want to loose you & Kaelyn, too.

Amber, please know we all loved you!
 

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Oh John, please don't blame yourself - no one could have known that this would happen. You were with her to the end, and she knows how much you love her. And I have no doubts that she loved you very very much. For some reason that we can't understand, it was Amber's turn to leave, and she left her little girl to you. I know for sure that you are already a fantastic dad, and little Kaelyn couldn't be any luckier. There's no way that Amber's family would choose Stan over you to care for her, absolutely no way.

We're here for you any way we can be.
 
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Thanks Amber's family wants me to have Kaelyn because they know thats what Amber wanted. Aparently she had talked to her mom about it already. She told her mom that she wanted me to be the one to raise her if she couldnt herself. Her mom is such a sweetheart and is trying to help me out all she can but she's in worse shape then I am right now. The ones Im worried about is Stans family and Stan causing problems.
 

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My God...John I'm so sorry that this has happened to you and Kaeyln

We are all praying with our hearts and souls for you right now - Please know that all our vibes are coming your way.

This must just be such a terrible time, and you just don't deserve it.
 

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John...
I'm so sorry about your loss. Being very new here, I was just getting to know Amber. We'd talked some about nursing the baby and I'd given her some websites to check out. She was very excited. I'm so sorry...I wish I had known her longer. What's strange is that I've been thinking about her for a couple of days now...wondering how she was doing. I pray my Lord will comfort you and your loved ones in this time, this painful time. You seem like a good man and you're loved by many here just as Amber is...I know you'll make a wonderful daddy...Amber will be proud.

Much love, good thoughts and prayers to you sweet man...
Hilda >^..^<
 

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I haven't posted on here forever, but I got an IM relaying the news. What a tragedy. I weep for that little baby...
 
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