Sending you hugs and vibes, for strength, and quiet...so you can hear your heart & your soul, and the answer that is probably already there waiting to surface.
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I really need some vibes please...
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Sending prayers and hugs to you from Mississippi. I do not know what you need them for, but I am sending them anyways.
I hope everything works out for you.
I hope everything works out for you.
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Sending out make the right decision vibes your way!
Dear Ari....
...I´m so sorry for your hard times....
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thinking and praying of heart so strong on you!
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Don´t give up!...
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thinking and praying of heart so strong on you!
Don´t give up!...
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Ari.
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Here's a mini update... tho it's not really great.
My DH and I are going through a rough patch and last night we realized that we are completely different people and that maybe this marriage isn't working. Since then I've been trying to work things out and he's been acting distant. And considering that I don't even know if we *should* be together... my heart is all mixed up and his attitude isn't helping.
I know we probably both need time to figure things out but it just hurts. And, like I said earlier, I need clarity - on whether I need to be with him or on my own.
Thanks for listening and for those vibes, please keep em coming!
My DH and I are going through a rough patch and last night we realized that we are completely different people and that maybe this marriage isn't working. Since then I've been trying to work things out and he's been acting distant. And considering that I don't even know if we *should* be together... my heart is all mixed up and his attitude isn't helping.
I know we probably both need time to figure things out but it just hurts. And, like I said earlier, I need clarity - on whether I need to be with him or on my own.
Thanks for listening and for those vibes, please keep em coming!
Will say prayers for both of you.
I'm not sure what's going on- but i just want to offer some supportand let you know that you are in my prayers
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I just wanted to add my {{{clarity vibes}}}. I hope you can figure this out. Just try not to rush things, OK? I know a couple who divorced only to realize they were perfect for each other & remarried.
Aw, sweetie!
Tons of prayers and vibes your way. Listen to your heart sweetie, not your head and things will be a whole lot clearer. The heart knows what the brain dosen't want to acknowledge. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. Dh and I went through a spot like this when we had been married about six months as well. If you need to talk, just drop me a pm ok?
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Ari, I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. Plenty of good vibes and prayers coming your way.
Oh sweetie
Sending as many Clarity }}}}VIBES{{{ and
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Sending as many Clarity }}}}VIBES{{{ and
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That's my biggest fear... well that and ending up alone. I'm hoping to work things out, I think I want to, but he seems to give up. Saying that I've been unhappy for so long and that we've already tried. Which we haven't.Originally Posted by white cat lover
I just wanted to add my {{{clarity vibes}}}. I hope you can figure this out. Just try not to rush things, OK? I know a couple who divorced only to realize they were perfect for each other & remarried.
I wish it were that easy. Part of me thinks that I have been unhappy for so long. Part of me wants to try to work this out. Part of me worries that I want to try work this out only because I feel guilty for making him feel bad (tho now he's making me feel bad so that part is ending). The rest of me worries about what every one will think, the cost of the wedding, our wedding pictures, having to divide things in our house, who does Jordan belong to, how will I afford to buy a car when I owe so much money...Originally Posted by maddensmom
Aw, sweetie!Tons of prayers and vibes your way. Listen to your heart sweetie, not your head and things will be a whole lot clearer. The heart knows what the brain dosen't want to acknowledge. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. Dh and I went through a spot like this when we had been married about six months as well. If you need to talk, just drop me a pm ok?
Please don't worry about that kind of stuff right now...it will only make things more stressful. I'm not sure what your situation is exactly, but I've been married 7 months so maybe I can relate a little. Have you talked about trying counseling together?
I went through this. And I am sending "find your heart" vibes. In order to make the "right" decision, you have to forget the money, forget what others will think, forget about what stuff is whose, and forget about how difficult it is to admit you're "wrong" if you hear your heart telling you you don't want to stay in the marriage. I know it's next to impossible, but the only decision that matters is the one your heart makes, not the one your brain makes.
And if you get to that place where you can hear your heart and it tells you you're in love, it doesn't matter how different you are. Then you go fight for your hubby, whether he's given up or not.
Consider making an appointment with a counselor - for you, if not a marriage counselor. They'll help you focus on what you feel, not what you think.
Laurie
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The situation is that we realized we're completely different people. I think we became different people... we met when we were still figuring ourselves out and now we have, for the most part, become different. We've both changed careers, changed our lifestyles...Originally Posted by Jenny82
Please don't worry about that kind of stuff right now...it will only make things more stressful. I'm not sure what your situation is exactly, but I've been married 7 months so maybe I can relate a little. Have you talked about trying counseling together?
No we haven't talked about that. Mainly because whenever I talk about wanting to fix things he's just become so focused on the fact that we're so different and that hurtful moment when we both admitted that we had doubts about whether we should be still married... that every attempt I make at fixing this isn't met.
It's like I'm life preserver to him and he isn't pushing it away but he isn't grabbing it. He's just looking at it with disdain. But then again, I'm the one that created the hole in the boat to begin with.
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You're right, I do need to stop thinking about that stuff.Originally Posted by LDG
I went through this. And I am sending "find your heart" vibes. In order to make the "right" decision, you have to forget the money, forget what others will think, forget about what stuff is whose, and forget about how difficult it is to admit you're "wrong" if you hear your heart telling you you don't want to stay in the marriage. I know it's next to impossible, but the only decision that matters is the one your heart makes, not the one your brain makes.
And if you get to that place where you can hear your heart and it tells you you're in love, it doesn't matter how different you are. Then you go fight for your hubby, whether he's given up or not.
Consider making an appointment with a counselor - for you, if not a marriage counselor. They'll help you focus on what you feel, not what you think.
Laurie
As for a counselor... I've thought about it but I know myself. There's a situation that I'm in (not completely related to this but sort of) that any counselor, let alone friend, would tell me I need to get out of and my stubborn self will refuse to. For good reasons, in my opinion, but none that anyone would agree to.
That and money is tight, has always been too tight...
I read the other thread, Ari, and you can definitely have lots of from me.
