Originally Posted by Sandtigress
I'm no where near having to make this decision, but I think I would love to be a stay home mom. Yeah, even though I'm working on my PhD.
Maybe things will change in the future, but I kind of like the idea of homeschooling in a group and teaching science!
Then again, if/when I get married, we'll just see what happens.
My mom has her MBA from U of Chicago (i.e., one of the best business schools in the country) and she stayed home with us!
Myself, I was all ready to be a working mom until I sarted babysitting these kids whose parents both work full time. I could never do that to my children. It's easy to tell that these are bright kids who have never, never gotten the attention they need from their parents...especially school-wise (we're talking a 10-year old who can't spell words like "this" or "talk"). Yeah, sure, they show up to basketball games and school pageants, which is important, but you have to be there to know what's going on with your kids at all times, what's happening in their lives. Most of the time, kids won't talk, so you have to watch and monitor.
The ideal situation for me would be to not work during the day, and teach my private flute studio from home in the afternoon. Any gigging of freelancing I get to do will be odd, irregular nighttime hours, and Ian will have a normal work schedule. It goes without saying that someone who speaks Arabic and works in law is going to make more money in this day and age than a flute player, so I would be the one to stay home. If the tables were turned, it would be Ian who would stay at home.
We won't even CONSIDER bringing kids into the world until we can put away some money for college and pay for health insurance AND we own a home and at least one of us has a good job and can put money in the bank. The two of us can live on pancakes for dinner in a crappy apartment, but I wouldn't think of bringing a kid into that. And we're not talking giving our future children the fanciest things in the world, either. We just want a financial foundation where we can provide insurance and education for them.