Originally Posted by jugen
People are only ready to quit when THEY want to. Please don't try and force them to, even for healths sake. It just leads them to hide their smoking.
That is sooooo true!
There really isn't anything you can do to make someone quit. Even people who have had bouts of lung cancer from smoking and have been "cured" never learn a lesson and go right back to smoking.
Smoking is a nasty habit and a deadly one too. Not only for the smoker, but for those around them because second hand smoke contains more than 50 carcinogentic chemicals that are even more deadly than the actual smoke inhaled by the smoker.
However, it has to be the person who is smoking that determines when they are going to quit, if they quit at all. Some people just like smoking too much to be able to quit. For some it's a social thing and not so much a habit thing too.
When someone quits smoking, they can't just up and quit and carry on doing what they usually do in their lives. They have to change their behaviour in order to avoid the smoking triggers that give them urges to smoke, and sometimes that requires drastic changes.
For me I had to give up the following for many months
(like a year) before I dared to go back to them:
- talking on the phone for extended periods;
- sitting in smoking sections in restaurants;
- going to fancy restaurants;
- stayed out of bars and lounges;
- large celebritory dinners;
- coffee (I switched to tea);
- homes where people smoked
- sitting idle watching TV
- I even turned the TV channel if someone lit up a cigarette in the show I was watching.
I also made it a policy that there would be absolutely no tolerance of smoking in my home by anyone, no matter what the circumstances.
Quitting smoking isn't just a matter of quitting. It involves a whole attitude change which sometimes can affect your life for a considerable time, as I have shown in what I had to change or give up when I was trying to quit.
The good news is that once someone is serious about it, it's possible! I quit smoking in April 1990 and haven't had a cigarette since, though I still get the occasional urge to have one, but I've never caved to that craving.
So don't give up
I hope he just keeps on trying. One day he will succeed when he's ready to.