Is this fair? (BF problem)

Originally Posted by HappyHendrix

We just got into a big argument over this, he really does not care.

I need to reevaluate this relationship.

Im crying.

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I'm so sorry. Please do reflect on this, however - I know you two have plans to become more committed (symbolised by the promise rings) but this argument does make me concerned that either now is not the right time, or he is ultimately not the right person.

Good luck and vibes to you.

Originally Posted by HappyHendrix

Then he would think I was cheating on him.

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I think that is more reason to do it then.

Originally Posted by Satai

I'm so sorry. Please do reflect on this, however - I know you two have plans to become more committed (symbolised by the promise rings) but this argument does make me concerned that either now is not the right time, or he is ultimately not the right person.

Good luck and vibes to you.

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I agree. He talks about marriage with me and kids. However I don't know. I think it was how he was raised a spoiled only child. His mom would agree with me. I love his mom to death, even though he is still semi spoiled. We live together and will be here until December. I was in therapy for a few months but now I think it's his problems that makes us fight. He wont go to therapy.

oh and I am gonna catch the bus. I ride free wth my school id.

awww, sorry your boyfriend is being a brat tonight. Want me to borrow Susie's hammer and bop him upside the head

Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR

awww, sorry your boyfriend is being a brat tonight. Want me to borrow Susie's hammer and bop him upside the head

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I had a boyfriend who did something similar once. We had an argument one night at a club and he refused to walk me back home, so I walked home through campus by myself. There had been two rapes of women walking at night on campus the previous month. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship!

Follow your heart in regards to your relationship, I don't think you were asking too much at all... I wish you well, and stay safe.

Cheers, from
SwampWitch

Originally Posted by HappyHendrix

We just got into a big argument over this, he really does not care.

I need to reevaluate this relationship.

Im crying.

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I am sorry but yes you need to re-evaluate this relationship, if you marry this person imagine what it would be like, most of the time people do not change. You should come first no matter what. I would never have gotten married if I was not the first priority. Please do yourself a favor and think about what is happening here! We are here for you!

You deserve someone who cares about you, and puts your safety and happiness first. My boyfriend would NEVER let me go into a situation where I could get hurt no matter how tired he was, or how far away. He loves me enough to put my safety first. If this boy won't do the same for you, then I would take that as a huge sign maybe it's not meant to be.

I think somtimes it's a mix between the guy being lazy and possibly not careing. I don't think he realizes how much of an inconvenience things can be if he dosn't do what you ask him to do. But you know men are a little thick so I would explain why you want him to do it and the consequences/problems that it will cause.

Hmmmm this isn't the first time you've said on here how your bf is being a jerk, he doesn't seem to care about you and he's made you really upset...

Come on girlfriend, be strong - he's NOT the right guy for you! Don't feel as though you have to stay with him just because you've shared special things together. A guy should make you feel special, care about your feelings, and be more than happy to go out of his way when it comes to your safety!!!!

Trust me - ditch the guy, find a better one, and you'll look back and wonder why you stuck by him so long!

Originally Posted by ClaireBear

You deserve someone who cares about you, and puts your safety and happiness first. My boyfriend would NEVER let me go into a situation where I could get hurt no matter how tired he was, or how far away. He loves me enough to put my safety first. If this boy won't do the same for you, then I would take that as a huge sign maybe it's not meant to be.

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Great post, he should care now as much as he would 20 years from now.

Originally Posted by HappyHendrix

Then he would think I was cheating on him.

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Oh honey. I feel so sorry for you. He seems like an insensitive jerk. Posessive and overall pathetic. Why would you stay with a guy who's not good for you?
I asked my husband if he'd take me somewhere because I didn't feel safe going alone he just told me he'd do it in a heartbeat. Now my ex wouldn't do that, he'd let me go alone and if I didn't come home RIGHT after I'd be in alot of trouble. Hence the ex part. I love my current husband with all my heart and I've been through heck with him, shoot I've just gotten out of the hospital and he's been there everyday helping me, getting me anything I want or need, making me food I can try and eat, helping me to get my pills regulated, He's my hero.

We have made up.

Thank you for all the advice. I am not one to give up when things get bad.

Thats why divorce is so high these days. I am willing to work through it.

Originally Posted by Sibohan2005

I think somtimes it's a mix between the guy being lazy and possibly not careing. I don't think he realizes how much of an inconvenience things can be if he dosn't do what you ask him to do. But you know men are a little thick so I would explain why you want him to do it and the consequences/problems that it will cause.

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I did. He was just plain lazy.

Originally Posted by sarahp

Hmmmm this isn't the first time you've said on here how your bf is being a jerk, he doesn't seem to care about you and he's made you really upset...

Come on girlfriend, be strong - he's NOT the right guy for you! Don't feel as though you have to stay with him just because you've shared special things together. A guy should make you feel special, care about your feelings, and be more than happy to go out of his way when it comes to your safety!!!!

Trust me - ditch the guy, find a better one, and you'll look back and wonder why you stuck by him so long!

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Originally Posted by HappyHendrix

We have made up.

Thank you for all the advice. I am not one to give up when things get bad.

Thats why divorce is so high these days. I am willing to work through it.

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Well did he take you to the bus stop?

I've consulted a man on this and my DH agrees with everyone else here and no man should ever put his comfort over the safety of the woman he loves.

However, I'm sooo glad that you are home, safe and sound.

Well, at least you made up, and things are better.

I know you said you weren't one to give up on things when things get tough, and that's great, but sometimes we need to call it quits when the other person isn't willing to view things from our perspective...that kind of behavior will get tiresome, and worse with time.

Good luck to you...please don't let yourself become a doormat to someone who really could be treating you much better.

I have to admit something to you!

I hope you dont feel like we are all attacking you!

Since i joined TCS i have had two relationships, and both times these wonderful people picked up right away that they were not the ones for me!

Yes some of the comments were harsh, and sometimes i didnt want to see through it. And i am also one of those people who hates divorce and doesnt want to give up a relationship that quickly, but sometimes when we are in love we are just so blind, and others see it before we do, and we just see it when its too late!

Take care!

Happy Hendrix I still think you need to take a long hard look at the relationship you are in. You two aren't married. Yes you are willing to work at this relationship but is he? You will make the right decision for you. We can only be here to support whatever that decision is, and we will be!

P.S. Him not taking you to the station was wrong and you need to let him know that him doing things like that is not acceptable. Let him know what you expect of him.