Want to adopt a second kitty. Male or female better?

harriet's mom

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Hello All,

I have one kitty, 9 month old Harriet, a female Korat / DSH who is a sweet and spunky kitty who is full of energy and sometimes directs that energy into biting...I think she needs a playmate to keep her company when we're not home, so we are looking to getting a second kitty. I don't know whether to go with a male or female, though...my instinct tells me to go with another female, but I'm not sure. She is also VERY devoted to me (I'm her primary caretaker); would a second kitty make her jealous?

Any advice?

Thanks!
 

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I think that another kitty is a great idea.
If you get a kitty who is already spayed or nutured...
I don't think it's sex will matter.

I would be sure that you introduce them slowly, using the techniques that the experts recommend.
Be sure to let us know what you decide and share all the exciting information about your new kitty.
 

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Over the years and owning both mixed breed and pedigree (spayed/neutered, and whole cats); I find that females will accept another male much faster then another female.

Doesn't matter if they are spayed or not at the time. However, its always best to spay/neuter them if you have opposite sex and for a healthier cat.

Males tend to accept new cats much quicker.

So since your resident cat is a female, I'd look for a neutered, laid-back male to keep her company.
 

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I think it's more about personality than sex. As xocats suggested, introduce them properly and you should be fine.
 

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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

Over the years and owning both mixed breed and pedigree (spayed/neutered, and whole cats); I find that females will accept another male much faster then another female.

Doesn't matter if they are spayed or not at the time. However, its always best to spay/neuter them if you have opposite sex and for a healthier cat.

Males tend to accept new cats much quicker.

So since your resident cat is a female, I'd look for a neutered, laid-back male to keep her company.
I actually agree with this. I would suggest a very young male kitten.
I know almost all of the female cats that I've dealt with have been very 'prissy and moody' at times (haha just like a real woman
) so two females may not get along as well as male & female. I know everyone has their opinion and there are tons of female females that get along fine but for the most part I'd opt for a male. Plus from what I've dealt with males, a lot of them tend to be more affectionate and laid back than females. Unless I just have weird cats LOL. Zoey can be so moody its nuts, I cant even kiss her or pick her up she complains and complains. Saki lets me pick him up and smooch him and love him and he never complains.
 

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I think it just depends on the cats. Kirra is 8 months old and we adopted Tiffy last wensday(the 10th) she is 9 months old, it took kirra about 3 days to get over the shock and now she has accepted Tiffy, Tiffy is still in ugh land cause she is sick with a URI but before her symptoms got bad she was tring to play with Kirra in the first 3 days. So i think it will just depend on the cats and how they are.
 

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Zoey can be so moody its nuts, I cant even kiss her or pick her up she complains and complains. Saki lets me pick him up and smooch him and love him and he never complains.

Your Zoey is almost exactly like Ling - she doesn't want to be held and talks all the time - only if she chooses to sit on your lap she will.

Charlie is like Saki - he wants to be held, cuddled and purrs his little head off
 

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My female cat was about the same age as your kitty right now when I decided to get another cat. I wanted a companion for her too so I went on some forums and they recommended I get a male.

So I brought home a little 2 month old baby boy (my friend's cat had a litter). At first my big cat hissed and all that great stuff, but after about 2 weeks, they are the bestest buddies.

I'm not sure whether male/female combo is better, but just giving you what happened in my situation.

Good luck
 

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It more depends on the personality of the cats more than the gender, though it might be better to introduce a younger male (perferably already altered) to her. Just take the introductions slow and on their terms.

I started with 1 each, now I have 2 females and one male.
 
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