TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › potty training, anyone?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

potty training, anyone?

post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 
i know alot of you on here have children, so hopefully you have ideas for this...

i know someone who is trying to potty train a stubborn 3 year old girl. she will poo on the pot, but refuses to pee.

suggestions, anyone? anything is welcome!

thanks!
post #2 of 25
I made it fun for mine. I brought the potty chair out into the Living Room and let them watch TV while they sat there. I had them sit for 15 mintues and then they could get up, even if they hadn't gone.Then back on the potty chair in another 20 mintues and so on.
I also let them have a coloring book/book to read that they could ONLY have during potty time.It encouraged them to *want* to go that much more.
post #3 of 25
Rewards rewards rewards. Figure out something the child just cannot live without (a favorite cartoon, toy whatever) and have her earn it by using the potty. Some kids are motivated by a calendar and a roll of stickers too. They get a pretty sticker for every time they potty and when they fill up a row or get so many they get a prize. Thats how I've potty trained a couple of kids that I've nannied for. As doctor Phil would say "Find their currency!"


ETA: use only positive reinforcement. Negative is only going to send her the other way!
post #4 of 25
When I was potty training Kaidence I bribed him. I told him any time he made a pee pee in the potty he got 1 jelly bean. It took him 2 weeks after my mom told me to do that before he was potty trained during the day. At night he stil had to wear pull ups for awile.
post #5 of 25
jelly beans...kept in the bathroom. THis way it's easy to associate going on the potty with a reward....and I even gave all attempts a reward, like we are going out, you just have to try to go pee pee....and lots of positive praise, and encouragement. And if there is an accident, don't be too down on it....you have to be encouraging "it's ok, it was an accident....you will do better tomorrow I know you can!" good luck!
post #6 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by crittermom View Post
I made it fun for mine. I brought the potty chair out into the Living Room and let them watch TV while they sat there. I had them sit for 15 mintues and then they could get up, even if they hadn't gone.Then back on the potty chair in another 20 mintues and so on.
I also let them have a coloring book/book to read that they could ONLY have during potty time.It encouraged them to *want* to go that much more.
I wish I could watch tv while I do that
post #7 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I wish I could watch tv while I do that
ME TOO!!
post #8 of 25
Thread Starter 
heyy thanks guys! i will be printing these out! keep them coming!
post #9 of 25
I tried a lot of things but mine was so stubborn that if she didn't want the candy, she wouldn't go to the potty.
We took her every 20 minutes, every time i went, she sat on the potty too.

The final thing that actually worked was giving her a goal....you want a new my little pony? Ok...so I drew a pony and every time she would pee, she would get 1 star....pooped was 2 stars. (For you, i would do it the other way around since pooping she does readily). When we had enough stars to get to the pony I drew..off to walmart we went and got her that toy.
post #10 of 25
Yeah know with my first son I did not potty train him. My young step bro did. My middle son I battled with him from age 3 to almost 4 1/2 to go potty like a big boy. We tried rewards and everything and nothing. It was all a no go for him. And right before the end of the 06 school term I said thats it. He'll go potty like a big boy when he is ready. Less than a month later he stopped wearing a diaper and went to the bathroom all on his own. No badgering from me. And he just turned 5 this past Nov.No with my youngest ,age 3, I am just gonna wait until he shows me he is ready. I am now a believer that a child will let you know when they are ready on their own time table not ours.

Rewards work for some kids but not all. Sometimes kids are just not completely ready even though their age my say otherwise.
post #11 of 25
Big girl panties and big boy underwear work good at the day care where I work.
post #12 of 25
That didnt' work for mine. We made a BIG deal about buying BIG girl underwear and she picked them out...princesses of course! Yeah....peed. She would do great at daycare but pee the minute we got home. Not a single accident there, at home..all the time. Peer pressure works wonders. She saw all the other kids doing it and she did it too. I went back to work after 2 years of not working and when I put her in an in-home daycare, she got trained in no time. The lady was great. She didnt have a girl so she loved and doted on mine..did her hair and everything. She was great.
post #13 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I wish I could watch tv while I do that
Portable DVD players rock!


I have two boys so I don't have much advice. With mine I put cheerios in the toilet and told em to aim!
post #14 of 25
Ewww… potty training is NO FUN!!! With one of my girls we rented a movie from the library on potty training. My kids don't watch TV, and rarely watch movies so it was a big deal for her to sit on the potty and watch her potty movie. I also used candy (another thing we rarely have around here) so every time they used the potty EVERYONE got a treat (that way, the other girls were excited about sister using the potty as well and helped encourage the trainee.) Eliana, my (now) 3 year old also thought it was a BIG DEAL to be wearing panties like her older sister, and she knew that if she peed in them, she couldn't wear them, so that was another incentive.

I hope things go well for you!!! Keep us posted!
post #15 of 25
With my son, I didn't try to force potty training on him. I offered the option to him, but it was never a "you have to do this" sorta thing.

Signs that show children are ready to potty train are:

they can communicate the words pee and poo
they notice when they are having a BM in their diaper
They can stay dry for more than 4 hours (I think that is what is, but someone please correct me if I'm off)

My son potty trained on the regular toliet. He started on the holiday break last year and was trained within the month, just before he turned 3. At daycare he still had accidents because he'd be so busy running around, that he didn't tell the daycare staff soon enough for him to get to the bathroom and get his pants down.


Anyways, did anything ever happen to her while she was peeing on the toilet??? I know a child at my son's daycare refused to have BM on the toilet anymore because water splashed his butt and he thought there was a monster in the toilet LOL
post #16 of 25
What diapers is she using? Ive read that switching to very thin, least absorbent (read CHEAP) diapers will help greatly because she will feel when she is wet and it will be uncomfortable.

Regulars diapers are too thick, and so are pull ups for the type of goal they have in mind.
post #17 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ping View Post
Yeah know with my first son I did not potty train him. My young step bro did. My middle son I battled with him from age 3 to almost 4 1/2 to go potty like a big boy. We tried rewards and everything and nothing. It was all a no go for him. And right before the end of the 06 school term I said thats it. He'll go potty like a big boy when he is ready. Less than a month later he stopped wearing a diaper and went to the bathroom all on his own. No badgering from me. And he just turned 5 this past Nov.No with my youngest ,age 3, I am just gonna wait until he shows me he is ready. I am now a believer that a child will let you know when they are ready on their own time table not ours.

Rewards work for some kids but not all. Sometimes kids are just not completely ready even though their age my say otherwise.
I agree. Both my boys were at least 3 1/2, but once they were ready, they were ready, and there were no accidents. We had tried bribery and all those other things, but being the stubborn children they were, we just had to wait til they were ready. I know a lot of moms, especially who have boys, who also were concerned it was taking so long, but then just accept it and are pleasantly surprised when the child decides it is time.
Try not to be overly anxious about it. Cause soon you'll have to know where every bathroom is in every store (and its usually at the opposite end from wherever you are when your child says she has to go. )
post #18 of 25
now they have those new "gets cold" diapers, so that if they start to pee a bit, it gets cold, and I guess startles them to hold it in and run to the potty....I've never tried them, but you may wanna look into them.
post #19 of 25
Thread Starter 
hey once again thank you all!!!!! am printing them out now.
post #20 of 25
My son was 21 months old when my daughter was born, he was completely potty trained then. I did not want two in diapers. This was about 27 years ago, there was no such thing as pull ups then.

He went straight from diapers to big boy underwear. If he wet them we just washed them.

I am a big believer in doing just that, I think it helps to know that if they pee in their pants, then they are wet.

At the day care where I work, we would rather deal with changing them, and at work we make a big deal when they go to the potty when they are being potty trained.
post #21 of 25
Two and three year olds are very smart, all potty training takes is consistancy and time.
post #22 of 25
We are doing the potty training thing now...

My daughter started out wanting to tee tee on the potty before she was 2- and we are just now getting it down, at 3 yrs, 3 months. I used m & ms (1 for tee tee, 2 for poopy) and had a treat bag with small "rewards" in it (books from the consignment sale, small beanie babies, dollar tree stuff) for when she went poopy on the potty (this is what she didn't want to do). She also has a calendar for her stars, and if she got a star everyday for a week, she could get a video from the library. When she turned 3, I knew she could do it, she just didn't want to. So I told her "You're big enough, Dr. Hale said you could do it- here are your big girl panties. Don't wet them!" and used pull ups for nap and nighttime. Of course, that was when she went poopy . So, no pull up for naptime. Fortunately for us, she hates wetting her pants, and will try to clean it up before we get there , so only a few accidents after the first week or so. She's also getting the hang of pooping on the potty (only 2 big girl panty accidents )-she realized that she liked getting the toys out of the bag, and we made it a BIG DEAL when she did ("Daddy is going to be so proud of you!!! Wanna call him?"- stuff like that ).

When she does have an accident, I make it her "problem" (to the extent than one can with a 3 year old )-she has to take off her pants and put them in the dirty clothes (or on the washer, etc.), she has to help clean it up... no more getting to get on the changing table and make faces at herself in the mirror , no more mommy fussing over her when she has an accident- all business. This is what seems to have helped the most with my stubborn little girl . If she wants some mommy time, then she has to do something else- ask to be read to, be played with, rock in the rocking chair... not mess up her big girl pants.

Oh, and when she is "potty trained" (2 weeks, no accidents) she gets a Betta fish in a pink fishbowl (bought the bowl as a reminder ).

Potty training - ARRGGGHHHH!
post #23 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by LSULOVER View Post
I am a big believer in doing just that, I think it helps to know that if they pee in their pants, then they are wet.

totally..the pullups are so absorbant nowadays that they don't even care that they peed in it.

I had to let her pee her bed at night instead of the pullups because my daughter is SO rash prone, it's not funny..one bubble bath and she has a yeast infection. So I would take her pee before she went to bed, before I went to bed, I would wake up at 3am, take her pee...it got really old but sometimes when I would sleep through the 3am one, she would wake up and tell me she wet her bed and i could change her and she wouldn't lay in a wet pullup and get a rash.
Pros and cons to everything but now that she is 6, she just sleeps too soundly to wake up so sometimes we wear the goodnights and if she gets up and pees, I make a BIG deal. I still take her before I go to bed but not in the middle of the night anymore.


Quote:
Originally Posted by catsallover View Post

When she does have an accident, I make it her "problem" (to the extent than one can with a 3 year old )-she has to take off her pants and put them in the dirty clothes (or on the washer, etc.),
I do that too...make her take it off and put it in the hamper or on the pile ready to go into the washer. I don't make her clean it up though, it usually involved her bed and she likes cleaning too much But she hates that wet feeling and taking off her panties.


Anyways, I'm tired and babbling but potty training can be hard or real easy..if it's hard, hang in there! I've been there!
post #24 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by LSULOVER View Post
Two and three year olds are very smart, all potty training takes is consistancy and time.
I agree 100%
Mine were all 2 when they were pottytrained.
post #25 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by crittermom View Post
I agree 100%
Mine were all 2 when they were pottytrained.
I wish the 2 year olds at day care were all potty trained
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: The Cat Lounge
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › potty training, anyone?