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post #31 of 43
OK. VIBES (((()))) for that thought to go into Colin's brain. (You know TCS vibes.)
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OK. VIBES (((()))) for that thought to go into Colin's brain. (You know TCS vibes.)
Hehe! Thankyou!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe that will work
post #33 of 43
I think him talking about matching chest sets and such means he really is AOK but thats me.
post #34 of 43
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OK. VIBES (((()))) for that thought to go into Colin's brain. (You know TCS vibes.)
We have to get this in Colins head! (and out of Johns )
post #35 of 43
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I think him talking about matching chest sets and such means he really is AOK but thats me.
hehe.....i think so he's already put a chest of draws and a nightstand in his bedroom for me

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We have to get this in Colins head! (and out of Johns )
post #36 of 43
talk to him and bring your girls, if needed mabye try to find a bigger place?
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talk to him and bring your girls, if needed mabye try to find a bigger place?
he has a 3 bedroom 2 bath home with an office, livingroom and kitchen ....so i think space wise we'll be ok. he is currently selling his other home in VA Beach (he has two -the one here and the one at his previous post in the navy). so once he sells that one, we're eithor going to buy a bigger home or pay this one out right and put the rest in savings. we're planning on having a big family whenever we do get married....so he's thinking about space/things like that now. but hey- i could care less- i've lived in a tinsy two bedroom duplex with one small bath and small kitchen for 13 years- i think his home is like a mansion someitmes So i'm not concerned about a lot of space. heck, i'm still simply amazed he has a garbage disposal a dishwasher and a garage-talk about some getting used to-i still constantly forget and start washing all of our dishes by hand My girls have done well with our duplex....and Abilene, Ginger (my wolf mix) and possibly my bunny sophie will be staying behind....so it will likely just be my two bettas, and isabella, jasmine, and velvet comming to colins. (and i always keep my fosters at colins anways, so that's not an issue) so i think we'll be just fine as far as space. I have offered to help him money wise since i stay here...but he flat out refuses and insists that he is the man and he will provide for me. So what i do to help out is get all of our groceries and things like that for us and keep his house really clean and fix him dinner/etc Works out for us but i also work full time and am definitely willing to help out of he changes his mind. till then, i'm helping my mom out a ton, i just wish i could convience her to move I'm really scared something will happen to her out there.
post #38 of 43
I understand. SOmetimes older people just refuse to leave. They feel that this is there home, THis is where they are going to stay. My father is the same, getting older, to much land and house to take care of. He does not want any one to help him.

he really needs to move into a smaller place. but all we can do is try to h elp when we can
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he has a 3 bedroom 2 bath home with an office, livingroom and kitchen ....so i think space wise we'll be ok. he is currently selling his other home in VA Beach (he has two -the one here and the one at his previous post in the navy). so once he sells that one, we're eithor going to buy a bigger home or pay this one out right and put the rest in savings. we're planning on having a big family whenever we do get married....so he's thinking about space/things like that now. but hey- i could care less- i've lived in a tinsy two bedroom duplex with one small bath and small kitchen for 13 years- i think his home is like a mansion someitmes So i'm not concerned about a lot of space. heck, i'm still simply amazed he has a garbage disposal a dishwasher and a garage-talk about some getting used to-i still constantly forget and start washing all of our dishes by hand My girls have done well with our duplex....and Abilene, Ginger (my wolf mix) and possibly my bunny sophie will be staying behind....so it will likely just be my two bettas, and isabella, jasmine, and velvet comming to colins. (and i always keep my fosters at colins anways, so that's not an issue) so i think we'll be just fine as far as space. I have offered to help him money wise since i stay here...but he flat out refuses and insists that he is the man and he will provide for me. So what i do to help out is get all of our groceries and things like that for us and keep his house really clean and fix him dinner/etc Works out for us but i also work full time and am definitely willing to help out of he changes his mind. till then, i'm helping my mom out a ton, i just wish i could convience her to move I'm really scared something will happen to her out there.
Ya know....maybe YOU moving out is the impetus that would get her to change her situation!!!
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I understand. SOmetimes older people just refuse to leave. They feel that this is there home, THis is where they are going to stay. My father is the same, getting older, to much land and house to take care of. He does not want any one to help him.

he really needs to move into a smaller place. but all we can do is try to h elp when we can
I am sorry about your father It took us FOREVER to talk my nanny into moving into a different place- the area she was living in was in Orange Mound. aka...killa country. there's been too many murderes out there to count. Thankfully we just moved her into a really nice retirement community in Bartlett about two years ago. She's a lot closer to Colin's house- so i get to see her a lot more, she's in a safer area, and she still gets to have her dog with her She loves it out there and has made a ton of friends...where as before she was just sitting at home all alone in a really dangerous part of town. Hopefully you and I will be able to convience my mom and your dad to look into moving into a safer place soon. The best we can do right now is try

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Ya know....maybe YOU moving out is the impetus that would get her to change her situation!!!
You know gorgeous- maybe your right I hope so! I'm going to go look online at apartments in Bartlett this week and shop prices just to look She's worried about not being able to take Ginger with her. But even though Ginger's 1/2 wolf ( her mom was full blooded wolf) her dad was german shepherd /elkhound mix- so she's a large dog, but not massive....so since she only has one dog i don't think an apartment or condo would mind. She will also be keeping Abilene (I would take her with me in a heartbeat- but when it comes down to it- Abilene has adopted my mom as her "person" and those two are inseperable- so it is in the best interest of abbie to stay with my mom- and my mom loves her to pieces.) so i don't think that'd be hard...and if anything there are pet deposits. I've told her before i don't mind giving her extra money to make up the difference in the rent to get her into a safer place. I'm really going to start looking soon. I don't know what else to do for her, let alone me.
post #41 of 43
What does she think about you moving in with Colin or has she said. Every time I tried to move out my dad would give little hints that he didn't want me to but with my dad I don't think he wants to live alone. And I honestly don't like living alone.
post #42 of 43
I have no doubt in my mind that he'll let your girls live there, too. he sounds like a nice guy and I am sure he will allow your girls to live there, too. and I am sure he knows how much they mean to you. You shouldn't be so scared to ask him, Nikki. If he knows how much they mean to you, then it's a given that he'll let them stay with you guys, too. Good luck! and I really hope your mom decides to move in, too. things will work out, I am sure.
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What does she think about you moving in with Colin or has she said. Every time I tried to move out my dad would give little hints that he didn't want me to but with my dad I don't think he wants to live alone. And I honestly don't like living alone.
She's not crazy about it- but she also knows that she's welcome to come too. I think the thing that she does like about it is knowing that i'm safe here. It's something that she can't be certain of out in our duplex anymore. So that puts her mind at ease. I know she misses me being there- and i miss being there too- but i just don't feel safe anymore. I HATE driving out there..i'm always scared i'll get in a drive by or something / I do go home just about every single day though to see my furbabies and my mom. I miss them soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much

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I have no doubt in my mind that he'll let your girls live there, too. he sounds like a nice guy and I am sure he will allow your girls to live there, too. and I am sure he knows how much they mean to you. You shouldn't be so scared to ask him, Nikki.If he knows how much they mean to you, then it's a given that he'll let them stay with you guys, too.Good luck! and I really hope your mom decides to move in, too. things will work out, I am sure.
Thankyou Kirsta I really hope so too. He's not as much into kitties as he is into dogs. He "claims" to dislike cats...yet he lets me keep all of my foster kittens in his home and everytime he's at my house- the first thing he does is pick up Jasmine (his favorite) and tell her what a "nice kitty" and what a "sweet girl" she is and how he's gonna take her home with him So as much as he claims to dislike kitties- i know he really does. He was going to adopt Harley- the foster cat I had back in June.....but Harley tried to rip Fosters face off....so we wound up placing him up for adoption through the shelter i volunteer for- and he found an AWESOME home as an only kitty with this incredable family. So that right there goes to show how much he does like them.He just won't admit it it's a "manly thing" Although I know quite a few men who are kitty people He's even built quite a few scratching posts for my kitties and foster kittens, and this week alone, i've cought him sneaking Kolar (my sick little foster kitten) hotdog pieces and telling him how nice he is I do however know for a fact that he does not like the rabbit. I think he's allergic to her too.So Sophie may end up being adopted by my mom....but i'll try to take her with me too. (she's indoors only- she's my house rabbit. so there's NO way i'd even consider putting her outside in a hutch. I did however think about fixing up a nice spot in the garage (it's a big 2 car) with a nice stand for her cage and all of that for her and then letting her in the house to run around in her play pen (she's has a little white picket fence bunny play pen) to hop around in when colin's at work to not bother his allergies). Just throwing ideas out there./ I will DEFINITELY take my kitties with me. But my mom loves the bunny too- so she might want to keep her with her. we'll see. I guess now that i've brough up (sort of) living with Colin....i just need to figure out how to bring up moving my girls in to. I think i'm going to go out and buy some Soft Claws to ease Colin's mind that they won't scratch up his furniture. I just pray he'll be open to them. I'm heartbroken without my girls with me.
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