Iâ€™ve debated back and forth about posting this for a while now because itâ€™s such a â€œtouchyâ€ subject, but Iâ€™d really like to get some advice and feedback. Our Maine Coon Arek (pictured in the signature) doesn't seem to be doing very well here. He is totally anti-social and has bitten me multiple times, even though weâ€™ve been working with a behavioralist to help him with this. He and my other Maine Coon donâ€™t get along and he spends most of his time avoiding the rest of the family. There was a brief time period when I thought he was doing better, and he even sat in my lap once, but that was during his confinement (while we were trying to get him used to his new litter box.) Since he's been out he's back to his anti-social self again with the exception of early mornings, when he really likes to be petted at the bathroom sink (no idea why this is - perhaps itâ€™s the only time during the day when the house is quiet and no one else is around.) We have four small children, other cats, and several foster dogs as well as a dog of our own and I'm really starting to wonder if some of his problems arenâ€™t simply because heâ€™s overwhelmed with all the activity here. We had a cat here for a few months who wasnâ€™t doing well at all, and we placed her into a new home and right from the start, she was following her new owner around and was doing absolutely wonderfully. Which gets me to thinkingâ€¦ WOULD Arek do better in another home??? He is three years old and before coming here, he'd only lived with one other owner his entire life. The worst part is that my husband and I had JUST decided to make the leap and adopt two kittens... we've already paid for them and they've been spayed/neutered. We were very excited about the possibility of bringing up babies who were used to the activity level here, and not so skittish (though our other Maine Coon is finally doing better) and I'm really worried about the additional stress with Arek. I canâ€™t help but wonder if he would do better in a two-person household without children or other pets? Have any of you ever considered giving up a cat? I know that if we DID try to find him another home, we could find him a really great one relatively quickly, as we just helped a man find a home for another Maine Coon and we had SOOO many great applicants on his cat. What do you think I should do? Do you think itâ€™s ever simply in the cats best interest to find him another home? There just seems to be too much activity here for him, and I wonder if he'd do better in a less-active home. Please donâ€™t send me any hate mail - I know what a touchy subject this is. I just really want to know what you guys think.
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1/13/07 at 8:20pm