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post #1 of 21
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We are in the process of finishing our new house, as in they are back filling the house across the road so we can move in this weekend! Suddenly, we're adults...homeowners with a mortgage and everything! Its very scarey. Now, I've lived on my own for a while, but never actually bought a house, much less built one. Now I have to be responsible, god help me! Did anyone else almost go into a panic when they realized they weren't kids anymore? Or is it just me?
post #2 of 21
Not just you. Its a very scary feeling. But if you ork hard and do the right things everything will work out.
BTW: My boyfriend and I decided to build a home and nowwe are stuck with a mortgage, car payments, trailer payments, insurance, and repair bills for my old car. Its overwelming at times.
post #3 of 21
Oh, I can relate to that completely. It is a sobering realization, isn't it?

I'm 36 and I still feel like I shouldn't be considered a contributing adult member of society. I feel like I'm 12 or something. I don't own my own home, but with rent, car payments, student loans, etc...it does seem strange at times. It just seems like yesterday when I *was* 12 and didn't have anything in the world to worry about.

What bothers me the most, though, is being in my mid 30s and knowing that people in my age range are slowly moving into that "older" group that young people look down on! And holy $*#($*@ ----- if I had a kid at age 18, they'd be entering college now!!!

Good grief.
post #4 of 21
Im still panicked...lol

I havent actually 'grown up' lol Im small 4feet 11 1/2 inches, so im a shorty. But as for when I became an adult, I think its the moment I gave birth to my son. I was married for a while before I was pregnant, but we werent really very mature.

As soon as I saw my baby boy for the first time everything hit home. I cant say that I regret it, not one bit
post #5 of 21
Hmmm, I'm almost 45 and I haven't grown up yet.

Being responsible for things doesn't depend on your age.
post #6 of 21
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
Hmmm, I'm almost 45 and I haven't grown up yet.
except cross out the almost. Wish I knew what I wanted to be when I grow up (so does DH)
post #7 of 21
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Thanks guys! I'm glad I'm not alone! It just seems like my parents had it so together when I was growing up, and I'm just not together at all! I'm not sure how they did that since my dad was out of work for 2 years but I guess there are things parents don't share with a 6 yr old. I'm just glad I'm not the only one that feels like a psudo-adult!
post #8 of 21
My oh, my, all of you have a lot of living left to do. I am 73, with grandchildren in their mid 20's, and I look forward to what ever life brings to me, every single day. Thank goodness I started taking really good care of my health 40 years ago, because I am still very active, work out three times a week, and have a zest for life that keeps my spirit soaring. This morning I took two more special needs cats into my rescue, and I thank God, I have them to care for and nurture. Responsibility was a thing that my generation knew from the time they were a teen, and understood that it came before we were adults. I know times change, but I feel so blessed that I had the opportunity to understand responsibility and what it entailed long before I felt I was an adult. Good luck to all you "kids", and remember "there is life after retirement, and it is good".
post #9 of 21
I'm not grown up yet I guess...I still rent.
post #10 of 21
I grew up I guess when was 20, realized I had to I had 3 kids by then.
Sometimes I look back and wonder how did I do that
But after all these years I finally realized for the most part you do what you have to when you need to
post #11 of 21
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Originally Posted by catlady4 View Post
My oh, my, all of you have a lot of living left to do. I am 73, with grandchildren in their mid 20's, and I look forward to what ever life brings to me, every single day. Thank goodness I started taking really good care of my health 40 years ago, because I am still very active, work out three times a week, and have a zest for life that keeps my spirit soaring. This morning I took two more special needs cats into my rescue, and I thank God, I have them to care for and nurture. Responsibility was a thing that my generation knew from the time they were a teen, and understood that it came before we were adults. I know times change, but I feel so blessed that I had the opportunity to understand responsibility and what it entailed long before I felt I was an adult. Good luck to all you "kids", and remember "there is life after retirement, and it is good".
Wow, I only hope that I am like you 40 years from now!
post #12 of 21
send me your email or phone number i will let you know when i grow up.
i have a house in bali, and a house here in the US, outsid eof making money and flying, as far as i care the rest of life is for fun
post #13 of 21
Originally Posted by catlady4
My oh, my, all of you have a lot of living left to do. I am 73, with grandchildren in their mid 20's, and I look forward to what ever life brings to me, every single day. Thank goodness I started taking really good care of my health 40 years ago, because I am still very active, work out three times a week, and have a zest for life that keeps my spirit soaring. This morning I took two more special needs cats into my rescue, and I thank God, I have them to care for and nurture. Responsibility was a thing that my generation knew from the time they were a teen, and understood that it came before we were adults. I know times change, but I feel so blessed that I had the opportunity to understand responsibility and what it entailed long before I felt I was an adult. Good luck to all you "kids", and remember "there is life after retirement, and it is good".



What a Wonderful attitude you have and that's what keeps a person young.
I have 5 grandkids 3 that are just a tad away from 20,
I started at 16 so my life has alway's been taking care of Someone or Something And Now at 59 I have my Cats and I am trying to relax a bit.
I think it's wonderful that you are enjoying what you are doing
That's what keeps us still standing and Still Moving
post #14 of 21
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Did anyone else almost go into a panic when they realized they weren't kids anymore? Or is it just me?
I never had a childhood so to speak. My Mother abandoned us when I was 9 years old, and then came back when I was 10 years old and my parent's separated. My Mother couldn't handle working full time and being a full time mother and took her frustrations out on my brother and me, but mostly me because my brother was older and could manage to get out of harms way.

When I was 13 my brother moved out which left me at home with my mother who by now was really sick with emphysema so I became her primary care giver and the responsibility of shopping, house cleaning, cooking, her personal and medical care and ordering of her medical supplies all fell onto me.

She also spent weeks and months at a time in the hospital at which time I lived alone and had to babysit and sell crafts while going to school in order to help pay the bills because we were on social assistance and while my mother was in hospital they reduced our income.

Two weeks before my 16th birthday she died and I went to live with my brother who was 20 or 21 and his family. I had to pay room and board and everything I needed myself. The only thing I got from them was a roof over my head. I was working full time while going to high school full time and didn't have time for any childhood socializing.

I moved out on my own when I was 19 years old.

So I've pretty much have been self supporting since I was 13 years old and never really had a chance to get shocked by the sudden onset of adulthood.
post #15 of 21
I grew up when I was about seven years old, if you consider growing up taking care of yourself, your parents, the house, the yard, the laundry, and cooking for the family. I'm trying to recapture some of my childhood now, so I guess I'm regressing!

Cheers, from
SwampWitch

p.s. Natalie_ca, I just read your post, and once again, we have some similar experiences!
post #16 of 21
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch View Post
I grew up when I was about seven years old, if you consider growing up taking care of yourself, your parents, the house, the yard, the laundry, and cooking for the family. I'm trying to recapture some of my childhood now, so I guess I'm regressing!

Cheers, from
SwampWitch

p.s. Natalie_ca, I just read your post, and once again, we have some similar experiences!
I think we can add me to the list. I'd say roughly summer of 1985... so not quite six.
post #17 of 21
I rent! But im the only adult out of my friends circle as they live at home and have no bills to worry about!
post #18 of 21
I think I had that 'moment' in my life a few weeks after we got married and I realized this place was all mine....to clean!
post #19 of 21
I can totally relate. When Pat asked me about getting married and buying a house (about five years ago...I was 33 at the time) I totally freaked out. It was just such a grown-up thing to do! I couldn't even talk about it without panicking for almost a month, and then it took him six months to talk me into it. (The funny thing is that people who don't know us as well assume that I was the one who wore him down after 12 years together. The fact of the matter is, though, that I was the one who had to be convinced.)
post #20 of 21
im never ever going to grow up. i dont ever want to know what a mortage is either.
post #21 of 21
I am fighting it hard, but I realized this morning on my way to work that I was driving TO work where I now have regular hours, a steady paycheck, and health insurance. I can even get it for the cats. It is kinda nice not living quite so ready to pick up and go when the mood strikes me. (I made the decision to move to Kansas City over many White Russians.) I am just too old to move too many more times. I guess I am finally all grown up. Nah! Never happen.
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