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post #31 of 38
1/13/07 at 12:57pm
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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45 View Post
We would stay together. We saw a movie (forgot the title) but it was about a girl that only had a 24 hr memory. And her husband in the end had to video tape wedding/child, etc for her to watch each morning so she would know she was married to him and had a child together.

Its called "dedication" to each other. Remember the vows? Better or worse. only a few exceptions to end the marriage - abuse or cheating. Most other things can and should be worked out.
Was the movie "50 First Dates" with drew barrymore in it?
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post #32 of 38
1/13/07 at 2:32pm
Such a sad question! I worked for years as a home health aide and often saw couples who were in just this situation. One that I'll always remember--they had been together over 50 years and he had developed dimentia. She would talk to him so sweetly, trying to get him to remember her & their past. He didn't, of course, and it made her so very sad. Sometimes she'd sit next to his wheelchair & hold his hand, just looking at his face. I always thought she was hoping to find the man she'd married. Other times she became totally exasperated with him, as if he'd purposely forgotten her. It made me feel so bad for both of them.
I'd like to think I'd stand by my DH if anything happened to him. I guess you can't know unless the situation occurs.
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post #33 of 38
1/14/07 at 2:20am
I would stay by him and i know he's do the same thing for me
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post #34 of 38
1/14/07 at 6:19am
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I do believe any of us, once faced with the situation would find the strength to take care of someone we love.

Many years ago, I was married to a man who developed Cancer. He lived for about 2 years after his diagnosis, but he was incoherent for at least the last year and a half. He had the mind of a child.

He wore adult diapers that I changed everyday. He had to be fed like a baby. He had to be sponge bathed by me on a daily basis, I exercised his legs. I moved him constantly in the bed so he wouldnt develop bed sores. The list is long. He stayed at home, with me and I solely took care of him. The latter part of his life, Jim also helped me take care of him.

He had no family, except me. I was very young and had to dig deep within myself to do what I needed to do for someone I loved so much. I will NEVER regret staying beside him.

The night before he passed away, he was his "old self" for maybe an hour. He touched my face and he talked to me, not like a child, but like him. He told me that what I had done for him meant more to him than anything in his whole life. He thanked me, he hugged me and he told me he would always be with me.

I actually thought he miraculously was getting better, but he passed away the next day. I will never ever ever regret doing that in my life. It is a huge part of who I am today. I love you, Ron

Oh Pami that' truly made me cry. Your Ron is with you every day. And that hour was a gift to you for your dediction. Bless you hon.
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post #35 of 38
1/14/07 at 6:20am
Yes that was the movie - made you really stop and think - DH and I watched it together
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post #36 of 38
1/15/07 at 12:17pm
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Originally Posted by Pami View Post
I do believe any of us, once faced with the situation would find the strength to take care of someone we love.

Many years ago, I was married to a man who developed Cancer. He lived for about 2 years after his diagnosis, but he was incoherent for at least the last year and a half. He had the mind of a child.

He wore adult diapers that I changed everyday. He had to be fed like a baby. He had to be sponge bathed by me on a daily basis, I exercised his legs. I moved him constantly in the bed so he wouldnt develop bed sores. The list is long. He stayed at home, with me and I solely took care of him. The latter part of his life, Jim also helped me take care of him.

He had no family, except me. I was very young and had to dig deep within myself to do what I needed to do for someone I loved so much. I will NEVER regret staying beside him.

The night before he passed away, he was his "old self" for maybe an hour. He touched my face and he talked to me, not like a child, but like him. He told me that what I had done for him meant more to him than anything in his whole life. He thanked me, he hugged me and he told me he would always be with me.

I actually thought he miraculously was getting better, but he passed away the next day. I will never ever ever regret doing that in my life. It is a huge part of who I am today. I love you, Ron
Your story made me cry too. I'm so glad he was his "old self" at the end. God Bless you!
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post #37 of 38
1/15/07 at 3:59pm
There's no way I could leave John, not for a second. I'd hire the best help I could get, therapist, anything - I'd do anything for him, and he'd do the same for me.
While reading this thread, I think someone mentioned it, but it just reminds me so much of The Notebook - she didn't remember him at all, but he stuck by her thru it all, the most romantic thing in the world. Not saying it would be easy, but I seriously cannot imagine my life without him, no matter what condition he may be in.

My Great Uncle was diagnosed with Brain Cancer 5 years ago, he lived 2 years with it, and passed on. Towards the end, about 6 months before he died, he didn't really recognize anyone, he'd have spirts where he would, and he wouldn't. It was the hardest thing I ever had to witness, but my Aunt stood by his side thru the whole thing, for better or for worse. After all, isn't that what you state in your marriage vows?
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post #38 of 38
1/19/07 at 3:03pm
Yes, I would stay with Jimmy, love is unconditional, you can't pick something like that. I would want him to stay with me.
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