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Thank you so much for that. It did mean a lot. Maybe I'm being too superficial. I can only dream of what you've had.Originally Posted by halfpint
I guess I should have tried to be some support for you, I'm sorry that you are feeling sad but why would you want to keep counting on him to do what you think is right, Maybe you need to change the way you are looking at New Years Eve, It's not all about couples at all. Don't you have a friend who isn't married or connected to someone that you enjoy having a good time with?
If I may I would like to leave you with something because I think it's so true, Maybe it won't mean quit the same thing to you as it did to me when I read it, First let me say that I lost the Love of my life in 1995 we were married for 32 years I was 16 he was 18 when he died I thought my life was over, then I remarried 9 years ago to a Great Person and I do Love him but it is nothing close to the same, he is nothing like My first DH but I know I can't change him he's a very good provider and a Smart wonderful guy and a Great Companion. But I finally realized that if I couldn't have what I wanted I needed to learn to be Happy with what I have, One Day my Daughter sent me this Writing and then I realized that you can't count on someone else to make you Happy only You can do that. I will leave it on here for you, It's just Food For Thought Hugs to you because I know your hurting
AFTER AWHILE YOU LEARN THE SUBTLE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HOLDING A HAND AND CHANGING A SOUL,
AND YOU LEARN THAT LOVE DOESNT MEAN LEANING AND COMPANY DOESNT ALWAYS MEAN SECURITY, AND YOU BEGIN TO LEARN THAT KISSES ARENT CONTRACTS AND PRESENTS ARENT PROMISES
AND YOU BEGIN TO ACCEPT YOUR DEFEATS WITH YOUR HEAD UP AND YOUR EYES AHEAD WITH THE GRACE OF A WOMAN NOT THE GRIEF OF A CHILD.
AND YOU LEARN TO BUILD ALL YOUR ROADS ON TODAY BECAUSE TOMORROWS GROUND IS TOO UNCERTAIN FOR PLANS AND FUTURES HAVE A WAY OF FALLING DOWN IN MID FLIGHT.
AFTER AWHILE YOU LEARN THAT EVEN SUNSHINE BURNS IF YOU GET TOO MUCH SO YOU PLANT YOUR OWN GARDEN AND DECORATE YOUR OWN SOUL INSTEAD OF WAITING FOR SOME ONE TOO BRING YOU FLOWERS,
AND YOU LEARN THAT YOU REALLY CAN ENDURE.... YOU REALLY ARE STRONG... YOU REALLY DO HAVE WORTH... AND YOU LEARN AND YOU LEARN WITH EVERY GOODBYE, YOU LEARN
I do have a very good friend that is not married and I do hang out with alot, but I was unable to reach him over the past week. His family is not from around here and it's possible he went home for the holidays.
Thank you Pami. I agree and won't be able to be reached for sometime. It hurts so much to be replaced.Originally Posted by Pami
Oh Lisa, that is just not right. Dont answer his phone calls for a few days and think it over. He could have done more than message you. You know you have all of us here, so stay strong and dont let anyone "try" to bring you down for the new year.
Sweet lady here! (not that young though - and slightly tarnishedOriginally Posted by churchi4cubs
I'm home alone. It kind of stinks but I'm more of a homebody than a go out and get drunk kind of guy. It would have been nice to go out for a nice dinner and a movie with a sweet young lady, but alas, there are none to be found right now.
It's 11:00 - my daughter has been so sweet. Had her friend stay here cause she felt bad for me being here alone on New years. Been chatting with them for the last hour or so. Was really nice and got my mind off things, but at the same time, she's 15 and I know spending time with mom is not top of her "cool" list, so I set her free to have fun the rest of the night. I guess now since we are only an hour away - time for me to turn in. I still can't stop crying. I'm such a baby. I just feel so cheated.