Abortion: For it, Against it, or stuck in the middle? - Page 2

I think abortion statistics are a bit high here in Puerto Rico. Now I cant say how high, but judging on the # of people who have had abortions in my small community they must be up there. Mind you i've never seen an abortion clinic here, but then again ive never had to look for one.

I believe that what makes the statistics higher is that doctors here will not tie a womans tubes unless she is over 21 and has had at least 2 kids. You can pay a ridiculous amount of money to get your tubes tied with only one kid, but even then they protest.

So when you have the high number of teen pregnancies, and the bad economical state, some people just refuse to add a 2nd, 3rd or 4th kid to an already tight situation.

My husbands ex SIL had her first child at 17. Two months later she was pregnant and aborted. 6 months after that she found herself pregnant, and doubting the paterity also aborted. Fast forward a few years later, she has a new husband, and he desperately wants a child. Shes been pregnant 3 times and all 3 times she has miscarried, and I honestly think its because of the children she aborted.

I know many a women who have aborted simply because they didnt want kids at the moment. That is not right IMO.

On the other hand, I know a woman who I greatly admire. She has 3 kids already, and when she found herself pregnant she was a bit shocked but very happy. When she went for her first ultrasound they told her she was having twins, and for some reason they were unlikely to survive to term, and doctors gave her the choice to abort. Despite all odds against her she decided to continue with her pregancy simply because she couldnt bring herself to abort. She eventually miscarried, but I still admire her because she chose to let God take her children from her on his own time instead of letting some doctor scrape them from her womb.

I personally would never abort because I cannot take a life, especially not one that didnt ask to be born. Besides, I couldnt live with myself if I aborted my child and down the road when I wanted children I couldnt have them.

I know some people do think it is the only solution. I know with some people there is hardly another choice. But I look at my baby boy every day and I realize all I would have missed if I had not had him. He is so sweet and caring, so beautiful and kind, I know the world would have been a dull place without him

I understand your point and I agree it is very unfair, because there should be an equality, especially when dealing with something as serious as bringing children into this world.

I can also understand the doctors way of thinking (though im not saying they are right). A large part of men dont have that paternal instinct. Many dont have that desire to become a parent. Heck, a big part of them arent even fit to be fathers! Which I believe is why doctors are so willing to perform the procedure on them, rather than having an unfit human being producing dozens of unwanted children. A man can make dozens and dozens of babies if he wants, and this is probably one of the biggest reasons the vasectomy is so easily accepted.

Now lets look at society today. I dont think a large part of society can accept that some women do not want children EVER. For them its hard to accept, because the woman has always been the one yearning for children, and needed to be sorrounded by her children. So I do understand why its such a difference, even though its not correct.