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Hi everyone,
I recently had to put one of my cats to sleep (2 weeks ago today). It was very sudden, he became sick and in less than 48 hours he made three trips to the vet and the third (and last) being the afternoon of Dec. 10th.
I had a brother and sister pairing. They have been together since birth. Now Tino is gone and Misty is confused. Misty and Tino were close for the first two years and then they began having spats mainly because Misty liked to be left alone and Tino required constant attention. So I am surprised now that Misty seems so out of sorts. I miss Tino with all my heart, I am devastated but I was expecting Misty to be somewhat relieved to not be chased anymore. But for some reason she stills seems to think he's going to jump out from behind a corner and she seems nervous. Also she is meowing A LOT and she has almost immediately since Tino's death, started kneading on everything. On blankets and pillows and on me when I'm sitting with her or in the bed at night. I figured she was feeling nervous and lonely so I comfort her. But I don't know what else to do.
Misty and Tino had there differences like I said but now I am thinking that since they never really fought to the point of hurting one another, that there still was some love between them or at least some comfort in having one another around.
My question is, could Misty be grieving? How can I help her? Will she every feel better? I honestly think she is confused, lonely and nervous about where he might be. Last night she kept looking into the back room of the house which was the last room Tino was in. They have the run of the house but that just happened to be the room he was in when he became worse and I had to take him back to the vet for the last time. Now, Misty was not in the room at that time, she was sleeping in another room but she seems to think that Tino is somewhere in this room. Like she is afraid he's hiding and riding to jump at her. This doesn't happen all day, just a moment here and there. Right now she's sleeping in that room and doesn't seem to have a care in the world. At other times, usually at night, she acts like he is in the room.
I don't know what to do for her. I'm playing with her more, loving her, talking to her. She's getting a lot of attention and love. I noticed at night, she doesn't get off the bed. She always slept with me but she would get up during the night to play with a toy, eat some dry food, etc. I don't think she gets off the bed at all now at night. She waits for me to get up.
Well, just now she jumped up like she would when Tino walked into the room. She jumped up out of a sound sleep and acting like she heard him coming. It's the same way she would act when he was alive because a lot of times he would chase her from where she was sleeping so it's like she expects it. It's like every sound she hears, she thinks it's him.
I feel bad for Misty and I want to be able to help her. Does anyone have any ideas?
Thank you.
Karen
I recently had to put one of my cats to sleep (2 weeks ago today). It was very sudden, he became sick and in less than 48 hours he made three trips to the vet and the third (and last) being the afternoon of Dec. 10th.
I had a brother and sister pairing. They have been together since birth. Now Tino is gone and Misty is confused. Misty and Tino were close for the first two years and then they began having spats mainly because Misty liked to be left alone and Tino required constant attention. So I am surprised now that Misty seems so out of sorts. I miss Tino with all my heart, I am devastated but I was expecting Misty to be somewhat relieved to not be chased anymore. But for some reason she stills seems to think he's going to jump out from behind a corner and she seems nervous. Also she is meowing A LOT and she has almost immediately since Tino's death, started kneading on everything. On blankets and pillows and on me when I'm sitting with her or in the bed at night. I figured she was feeling nervous and lonely so I comfort her. But I don't know what else to do.
Misty and Tino had there differences like I said but now I am thinking that since they never really fought to the point of hurting one another, that there still was some love between them or at least some comfort in having one another around.
My question is, could Misty be grieving? How can I help her? Will she every feel better? I honestly think she is confused, lonely and nervous about where he might be. Last night she kept looking into the back room of the house which was the last room Tino was in. They have the run of the house but that just happened to be the room he was in when he became worse and I had to take him back to the vet for the last time. Now, Misty was not in the room at that time, she was sleeping in another room but she seems to think that Tino is somewhere in this room. Like she is afraid he's hiding and riding to jump at her. This doesn't happen all day, just a moment here and there. Right now she's sleeping in that room and doesn't seem to have a care in the world. At other times, usually at night, she acts like he is in the room.
I don't know what to do for her. I'm playing with her more, loving her, talking to her. She's getting a lot of attention and love. I noticed at night, she doesn't get off the bed. She always slept with me but she would get up during the night to play with a toy, eat some dry food, etc. I don't think she gets off the bed at all now at night. She waits for me to get up.
Well, just now she jumped up like she would when Tino walked into the room. She jumped up out of a sound sleep and acting like she heard him coming. It's the same way she would act when he was alive because a lot of times he would chase her from where she was sleeping so it's like she expects it. It's like every sound she hears, she thinks it's him.
I feel bad for Misty and I want to be able to help her. Does anyone have any ideas?
Thank you.
Karen
