I'm feeling really lonely

I'm sorry you're having it roungh right now gorgeous. It must be difficult. But in the same sense- you are really starting to live your life and figure out what you want for your future and what is right for you. Go with your heart....that's my advice. You can argue and contemplate over and over until you're blue in the face- but at the end of the day, unless you're happy and learn to listen to your heart, you're going to be miserable. If your heart is with your family and your hometown....go back. Before moving and giving up your job though- I would suggest making a list of pros/cons as others have mentioned- see if maybe you just need to see things visually to figure out where you belong. Things will get better / I would try and join a workout group at your gym or volunteer at your local shelter when you get some time- i've made lots of friends that way. Too bad you're not closer to Memphis! We'd have fun hanging out!

Are you working now Nat?

Sometimes things have to get rough before we realise that we need to make changes. But we must make the right changes - it sounds as if for you going home might not be the right change, whereas starting in the new year to look for another job, to join a club or gym, and stay where you are now, might be the right choice. Only you can know. But whatever it is, I hope things get better.

and some from Dino, Peps & Little Miss Moofs sends extra ones

hard what to add really.....well you know we are all here for you at TCS.........

I'm sorry your feeling so down- for a lot of people its hard being away from family at Xmas
I think the suggestion of helping out at an animal shelter is a great one- you'll meet new people and probably really enjoy it. tbh I'm sure if you stick it out these things will pass...
(((((Nat)))))

Originally Posted by jennyranson

Sometimes things have to get rough before we realise that we need to make changes. But we must make the right changes - it sounds as if for you going home might not be the right change, whereas starting in the new year to look for another job, to join a club or gym, and stay where you are now, might be the right choice. Only you can know. But whatever it is, I hope things get better.

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I'm sorry that you are feeling so lonely. Jenny has a very good point, life does have a way of sending little signals to you when it's time for a change and you should take notice of what your heart tells you to do. I'm sure that there are people in your area that are just waiting to meet you. You just have to get out and find them Good luck with whatever you decide

I am not sure where you are. Below is a link to a fun and smart group of people. Maybe you have a chapter in your city? It is free, and there is no pressure for dating or business promotion. I have a lot of fun with them.

MEETin.org IS THE LARGEST FRIENDS SOCIAL GROUP IN THE WORLD - Make friends in the real world using the web.

Originally Posted by Rosiemac

Are you working now Nat?

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Yep full time

Originally Posted by gailuvscats

I am not sure where you are. Below is a link to a fun and smart group of people. Maybe you have a chapter in your city? It is free, and there is no pressure for dating or business promotion. I have a lot of fun with them.

MEETin.org IS THE LARGEST FRIENDS SOCIAL GROUP IN THE WORLD - Make friends in the real world using the web.

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Thats a lovely idea, but they are not in my city...DANG!!

Oh Natalie.... ....you don´t must be feel alone,....at least you has to Trout and you has TCS!... ......

I´m Mexican by born, I never moved from my city of course Mom & Dad live in the same city but far from our home,............My friends of the School and other Co Workers ( last Job ) have changed as you well say....( like another kind of fun, many drunks and else and of course that´s not my way of having fun... ...) SO sometimes i feel like CAST-AWAY.. living in the middle of nowhere!... ......
BUT TCS make me feel a person unique and loved! ....

DON´T Give up Natalie, you´re a Strong and Kind Woman! I to know you are great and smart!!!

Originally Posted by Russian Blue

Really listen to your inner voice Natalie and the answer will be obvious.

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....this is a Golden Advice!.... ......Follows what your heart says!

I've got the cure for you!!!! I'm gonna gift wrap Tammy-Timmy and Pete and send them to you. Tammy-Timmy will change your life forever and Pete will pee on your bed. You won't have time to feel lonely. (Heee, heee, heee)

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I've got the cure for you!!!! I'm gonna gift wrap Tammy-Timmy and Pete and send them to you. Tammy-Timmy will change your life forever and Pete will pee on your bed. You won't have time to feel lonely. (Heee, heee, heee)

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that was so Sweet Janet! ...I´m so sure Natalie will get, with all love!!

Will you quit being my twin?

I dont know how many times i have said this but this is definetely my goal, and that is to get back to AUSTRALIA! Although i have no family there, i have friends and i can easily pick up a boyfriend!

I now dont have family in frankfurt, and i only have my job and a couple of friends, but Its not where i want to be!

If you have the chance to go back home then do it!

I tell everyone to follow their hearts

I am sorry your are feeling down. If you want to go back home and can...then I would do it. I know the feeling... we moved here a few years ago and I hate it. I would move back home in a heart beat.

Oh!!

I definitely think that if everyone one you love is too far away, you should move back to where they live! Unless of course, you make new friends! I know it can be hard sometimes, especially if all you want is your family!

I wish you luck!

All I know is that it is very difficult to move backwards in life, and can lead to some bitter disappointments, because people change - you change, your old friends and even family change, you have a new perspective on things etc. So given the choice, it is often better to move forwards, into something different and challenging that fits the new you.

Originally Posted by jennyranson

All I know is that it is very difficult to move backwards in life, and can lead to some bitter disappointments, because people change - you change, your old friends and even family change, you have a new perspective on things etc. So given the choice, it is often better to move forwards, into something different and challenging that fits the new you.

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Growing older gracefully is hard, but I think it's harder to damage or even destroy the memories of a past you loved.

Move closer to home if you want to. But be moving forward, not back.

Many prayers and good wishes to you.

Originally Posted by KittenKiya

I've got the cure for you!!!! I'm gonna gift wrap Tammy-Timmy and Pete and send them to you. Tammy-Timmy will change your life forever and Pete will pee on your bed. You won't have time to feel lonely. (Heee, heee, heee)

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Aw, I would love a visit from your kits

I don't have any advice to add, but just wanted to say you've got lots of friends here and tons of support in whatever you decide to do. You're a strong, capable young woman, so just trust your instincts and follow your heart and you'll be just fine.

I feel alot better today....I haven't had very many real big freakouts since the breakup, so I think I am entitled sometimes Anyway, I am going to stick around here for a while, and try to make some friends..Maybe start spending more time with my sis too!

Thanks alot everyone, I can't beleive how many replies I got..you are lovely friends