Are there any agencies out there that you can turn to? What is the illness? Is it terminal? IF it is, she would be elgible for hospice services. I hope that is not the case. Other agencies, depending on her age, may be your county office of aging, if she needs in home care, can the doctor give an rx for a nurse? There might be something, ask the social worker at the hospital to see if your mother is eligible for some help. If you need referral from the doctor, call his office and ask for it. Hospice care does not have to be at the last minute. Eligibility is for 6 months. If there is any chance of this being the case, get it, and don't take no from the doctor. They seem very reluctant to make this referral. I still curse my fathers doctor for giving my mother a hard time. It would have made their life in those final months, much easier.
Again, even if there is a chance of it, she would be eligible.