Small Vent: Reason number 432456 why I hate being a college student.

Seriously. Can't I just join the ranks of the normal adults?! I mean, I already work two part-time jobs (so basically, a full-time, only I like both of my jobs for the most part- even with the puppy from hell- and couldn't choose between them), I already pay my bills and get up early in the morning and clean my house weekly and vacuum daily and iron my clothes etc, etc, etc, so when can I add the exciting parts, like having normal friends?

I'm trying really, really hard to throw a small X-mas party. I want a guest-list with people who RSVP, maybe some invitations, you know, cocktails and people mingling, and hors d'ouvres....

No. It just doesn't happen in college. You can either throw a kegger with 200 of your closest friends and horrendous music turned up so loud no one can hear themselves think, or you have nothing. I want my party to start at 7, but in college parties don't start before 9 or 10. I want people to tell me whether or not they will be there, not just say "Ok, cool, maybe we'll drop by".

uuuuuuuggggghhhhhh!!!! Graduation is only 6.5 months away. The wedding is only 13 months away (actually, 13 months from TODAY!). I'm so ready to land a job and have married friends and do real adult things like have parties where people tell me if they're coming so that I can purchase the correct amount of food. So frustrating!

Ok, end of silly little rant. I'm sure someone will tell me that these are the best years of my life or something, but really, I was over the whole college thing after my freshman year. Then I was ready for everyone to grow up and learn how to make decisions. bbbblllllaaaahhhhhh!

I'm at the same point. I'm going to school for 2 years for a small business management degree. I turn 20 in Jan. I want to move out with my kits & have a real job. I live at home with mom & dad & they've been bugging me to get a job. I don't want to work in some stupid retail store, I want to work in an office for 40 hours a week. I completely understand your vent. College students irritate me, even if I am one of them. I don't like to go to keggers & I've never been drunk!

Just keep chanting "Only 6 1/2 more months" over & over.

Originally Posted by lionessrampant

uuuuuuuggggghhhhhh!!!! Graduation is only 6.5 months away. The wedding is only 13 months away (actually, 13 months from TODAY!). I'm so ready to land a job and have married friends and do real adult things like have parties where people tell me if they're coming so that I can purchase the correct amount of food. So frustrating!

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I feel your pain, but I should warn you that most people don't RSVP in real life either. Read the Miss Manners column on Washington Post online, it's quite the eye opener.

If you ever invite me, I promise I'll RSVP. Sadly, it will most likely be no (distance).

I feel ya!
I wanted to throw something last year for my 22nd birthday...no one wanted to do anything fun, but would have rather done a keg party in the yard then a nice dinner and what not. I guess once you hit 28 thats when martinis and cocktails become interesting. Blah!!!

oh and for me my #1 reason i hated college......................................................................... ................................................................................ ...............................................................Sandals in the fall/winter time! come one people...its not cute!!!
oh and #2.............................PARKING!!

I KNOW!!! I'm in my second year right now and all the people my age are like that. Thank goodness I've been able to find some friends that are in their late 20's and mid 30's LOL

Actually my two best friends are 34 and 36 LOL and I'm 20.

Unfortunately, Satai is right. People don't RSVP in real life either.

Actually, we recently had a housewarming party and it was THE FIRST time we've actually been able to get RSVPs from people. I'm 34. It takes a while for people to actually grow up.

I'm with you sista!! I have never been a huge partier, I would much rather have a civilized dinner and drinks with close friends

I'm not going to say these are the best years of your life. I personally wouldn't go back to that life again. Soon you will be moving on to a new phase of your life (before you know it). And there will just be different challenges. Enjoy the adventure.

I hate to tell you " youngins( tongue in cheek as you guys are 5-10 yrs younger) " but REALITY is many folks never mature .... My best freind s could be my mom or grandma evan ....

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I hate to tell you " youngins( tongue in cheek as you guys are 5-10 yrs younger) " but REALITY is many folks never mature .... My best freind s could be my mom or grandma evan ....

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why..why would you go and break my heart!
is there any hope?

Hang in there! Your doing everything right... trust me . Going to school while dealing with a family life and part time kid is tough. You aren't only doing the things you mentioned for yourself, your doing it for a whole other person (well unless you end up with someone who likes housework!)
We don't get RSVP's for parties, heck- people show up for dinner without even letting us know ahead of time Oh, and they still want kegs. My fiance is 31 and him and his friends have a kegerator sitting in the front living room to entertain them on Friday nights. Of course they aren't funneling it or anything else, they drink in normal pilsners.... but you get the idea

yeah it seems no one can make decisions or rsvp anymore, regardless of thier age

I'm sorry, I know it sucks being between "kids" and "adults" b/c I"m in the same boat! But I must say I am lucky. I have a VERY close group of girl friends I'm in nursing school with (about 8-10 girls) and all our SOs get along. We spend atleast 1-2 nights a week together, either at one of our places or out to eat. I'm throwing a Christmas get together here at my place on Thursday (after finals are finally over!). It is starting at 6 and I have a relatively fixed head count of who will be here. I'm pretty excited, its my first nearly grown up party! Everyone is bringing "real" food (ham, casseroles, dips, sausage balls, desserts, etc) and I'm providing more food and some wonderful Holiday punch! I already am pretty much decorated and am going tomorrow to find a pretty punch bowl.

I know what helps with our organization is my school has 'WebCT' an online section of school where everyone has an email address. We correspond through this alot, thats how I got my head count.

Originally Posted by AshleyNicole

I'm sorry, I know it sucks being between "kids" and "adults" b/c I"m in the same boat! But I must say I am lucky. I have a VERY close group of girl friends I'm in nursing school with (about 8-10 girls) and all our SOs get along. We spend atleast 1-2 nights a week together, either at one of our places or out to eat. I'm throwing a Christmas get together here at my place on Thursday (after finals are finally over!). It is starting at 6 and I have a relatively fixed head count of who will be here. I'm pretty excited, its my first nearly grown up party! Everyone is bringing "real" food (ham, casseroles, dips, sausage balls, desserts, etc) and I'm providing more food and some wonderful Holiday punch! I already am pretty much decorated and am going tomorrow to find a pretty punch bowl.

I know what helps with our organization is my school has 'WebCT' an online section of school where everyone has an email address. We correspond through this alot, thats how I got my head count.

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boy i wish i could have that.
dan doesnt get along with my girfriends...most of my gf are single..most of his guyfriends are single....we are the odd ones.
We can never go out together with friends cause there is always a third wheel. me cause i am the only girl..he goes out with his friends everyweekend and i cant go...boy maybe someday it will change.

Ah... I know how you feel. I "technically" already have my degree, but I'm in school again/still. I'm 21. My best friend and my closest friend in Columbus both have real jobs.

And I still go to keggers. Though, I never was into going to random frat parties or parties where I didn't even know the person throwing it. Now mostly they're by people I know, and I know most of the people there.

I do, however, long for the kind of party that has food... you know? I haven't been to a party that wasn't my sister's 30-something friends that had any kind of food at it, not even a bowl of pretzels, in four years now.

It is frustrating. I work about 5 hours less than full-time, go to school full-time... most of my classes next quarter are grad-level... and somehow we're looked down on as being irresponsible. I'm sorry, but like, I basically have two full-time jobs! It's really frustrating when someone who never went to college and works part-time acts like all I ever do in my whole life is party and spend my parents money (hah!) when I'm in class 6 hours a day and work 6 more after that... and then come home and do homework. We party hard because we work hard, right?

Anyway, as for your party, maybe try sending out real paper invitations, and making it a "dress-up" party. Sororities have those all the time and people dress up and have dinner and cocktails. Or try not calling it a party, just having a few friends over, etc.

Originally Posted by EricaNicole

oh and #2.............................PARKING!!

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I have never heard anything so true in my whole life. I waste so much gas every day, driving around, circling lots, following people coming out of the building, only ending up parking in the barber shops parking lot and hoofing it in 25 degree snow!

Originally Posted by valanhb

Unfortunately, Satai is right.

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I usually am.

Find different friends. I recently had 6-7 of my friends over, they RSVP'd and brought liquor and/or money to help offset the costs. I supplied the food. Everyone sat around talking, then we played a game of poker, then we talked a bit more, and then they left. The show started at 8 (because one of my friends gets off at 7 and works 1/2 hour away) and everyone was gone by 12:00.


Lovin' it!

Yep...sorry but the "real world" people can be just as immature or irresponsible.

One of my 3 good friends will RSVP. She's a little older and had more etiquete growing up. The one friend I have, she has a Masters and we're always calling her to remind her of things. The 3rd, she's normally pretty good, but her husband just left for Iraq this past summer and it's their first time being apart, so she's a little crazy at the moment.

Long story short, Keggers won't stop happening as soon as you receive the piece of paper that says you're done. I remember they were still going on until I turned 25...then I just walked away cause I was done with them.

It doesn't always depend on age or occupation. When I had a dinner party (yes, everyone knew it was a proper dinner with courses) for my 60th birthday, two people never showed up, one came half way through and one couple brought an extra person I had never met without warning me! Fortunately I am flexible, but I did have a little rant.