The vet would be the best one to advise you on whether to use Revolution, Advantage or Frontline. The vet would also be the place where you would get your flea treatment.
The above mentioned spot-ons are entirely different than the products used for shampoo, flea collars and any Over The Counter applications.
Over the Counter flea treatments can be quite dangerous to a cat as they often have ingredients that are toxic to cats. I know you have already found this out and I'm very sorry for that.
I'd suggest taking your cat to the vet and have the vet apply the flea medication, then you remain there for a short time to watch for any reaction. That will solve your flea problem in a place where your cat can be administered to if there should be a reaction.
If you are having a flea problem in your environment then there are helpful products that you can use that will not be toxic to your cat or humans. If so, then either search the forums or just start another thread and you will get many replies to guide you.
I hope you and your fur-baby get through this problem free.