An emotional moment....

clixpix

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First of all, congratulations on your accomplishment! It's not easy to lose weight


In no way do I mean to excuse this guy. He made a thoughtless comment, but didn't mean to hurt you personally. It seems as if he is truly embarassed by what he said. There are plenty of people who would not have cared that they hurt someone's feelings. I know he hurt and embarassed you, and I'm sorry



On another note, I also don't think it has anything to do with him being a man (I know it wasn't you who said it was). I've seen both women and men make thoughtless or cruel comments. He's just a person who made a mistake. I'd like to think I've never hurt anyone's feelings, but I doubt that's true. I don't think that many of us can say that we've never said anything that we wish we'd never said.
 

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Wow! Congratulations on both your weight loss and for keeping your cool and taking the high road.

I've been trying to lose a significant amount of weight, too. I still have a ways to go, but I've lost 70 lbs so far. The insensitive things people say, even when they think they're being complimentary, never cease to amaze me. I absolutely agree with theimp98 when he says that "Fat people are among the last that society still seems to think it is ok to make fun of." That couldn't be more true.

Don't let it get you down, though. Know that you are far more beautiful...both inside and out...than that guy will ever be.
 

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Oh, if only you had just looked at him and said, "Why? You interested?" Hind sight is so annoying! He's an idiot,
the sort that's here and there and everywhere, like fungus in the forest.

I know it's a tender issue for you. Keep congratulating yourself on your accomplishment. You feel better about yourself. The idiot is wandering around, probably scratching himself in private areas .....
 
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Originally Posted by clixpix

First of all, congratulations on your accomplishment! It's not easy to lose weight


In no way do I mean to excuse this guy. He made a thoughtless comment, but didn't mean to hurt you personally. It seems as if he is truly embarassed by what he said. There are plenty of people who would not have cared that they hurt someone's feelings. I know he hurt and embarassed you, and I'm sorry



On another note, I also don't think it has anything to do with him being a man (I know it wasn't you who said it was). I've seen both women and men make thoughtless or cruel comments. He's just a person who made a mistake. I'd like to think I've never hurt anyone's feelings, but I doubt that's true. I don't think that many of us can say that we've never said anything that we wish we'd never said.
Oh I don't think it had anything to do with him being a man. I've had women say mean things about my weight too.

I don't think that he ment to hurt me by saying it. I just think that he didn't think before he said it.

DH said that he suffered from foot in mouth disease!
 

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Congrats on all the weight lost!!!
I would say just ignore the comment.
Being what society usually calls a "fat chick", I am always paranoid about what people are saying behind my back.
I hear you!!! I always wonder what they are saying and it makes me feel so low about myself.
 

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Originally Posted by Pami

What an accomplishment to have lost that much weight!

What he said has absolutely nothing to do about you. It says everything about him and who he is.
and if you want I will
him for you
to my friend
 
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom

and if you want I will
him for you
to my friend
Thanks so much... it was just one of those things that is still a soft spot for me. After being heavy for so long, and then loosing it, it's hard to get out of that mind set. My manager was looking at the album today, and asked if it was my sister. When I told him it was me, he said if I put half the effort into loosing weight as I do into working on his team I'd get promoted. The funny thing is that he's right.
 

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Originally Posted by lookingglass

DH said that he suffered from foot in mouth disease!
I think your DH is right. Horrible, horrible people. My college roommate always had a problem with her weight as well. She was an early education major and I'll never forget the night she came home crying because one of her students had called her fat. She held it in until she got to our apartment. It doesn't matter who says it. Comments on touchy topics always sting.

With that said, I think you look awesome now, and its obvious you've worked really hard. Of course you're such a beautiful person on the inside that I considered you a friend way before I even saw a picture of you.
 

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Why would someone say that anyway? So who cares if someone in the pic is bigger than someone else...People all look different...if we didn't, it would be a boring world.

Sorry your feelings were hurt
 

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Aww I am sorry that guy was so rude I dont understand people sometimes they just speak with out knowing how much they are hurting someone at the time.

Congrads to you and all that matters is how you feel about yourself no matter what size we all are. You handled it well I am glad to here you walked out with your head held high you should be very proud of yourself. Lots of hugs sent your way.
 
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