Originally Posted by Mom2SalemIsis
I appreciate everyone suggestions I really do. And I am sorry if this thread got way off track and out of line. I felt like I was being attacked and felt like I needed to defend myself because of it. I felt like I was being judged and that I was being considered a bad mother which I am not. I love my daughter with all my heart and would do anything for her. I have tried all the suggestions that were given and felt like people were more focused on the fact that she was at home by her self than the real problem of how to get some help. I spent all day at work crying because I kept asking myself "Am I a bad mother?" I am sorry if I gave you the impression that I was not listening because that is not the case. I actually wrote down every suggestion in my notebook and went over it so many times yesterday that I had to re write it on another piece of paper. All I can say is I hope things get better and I am doing all I can do at the moment. I hope you believe me.
And I apologize for upsetting you - that was NOT my intention.
I was in your shoes once, and to make sure that my child was taken care of, I had to voluntarily
place her in foster care, quit my job, go on Welfare, then get her back from foster care, and by doing all this, I was able to get ALL the resources that I needed to care for her.
I did all this because I was doing the best I could, but my best just wasn't good enough, and I had to go to extremes to make sure that my daughter's well being came FIRST.
My job was MUCH less important than my flesh and blood, and giving it up (becoming destitute on purpose) gave me a schedule that allowed me to care for my daughter, made me eligible for resources that I would have otherwise not qualified for, and got me grants to go to school with that I never had to pay back.
And then I went to college, got two degrees, and have been off of the welfare system for over a decade.
It wasn't easy, it hurt me VERY much to give up my child, even as a temporary measure, and I cried gallons and gallons of tears.
I do NOT think you are a bad mother, just one who is overwhelmed, and I really, honestly DO understand and appreciate how difficult your position is, and I truly hope that you are able to somehow find the help that you need. But you have to make opportunity happen, it won't just come to you. Sometimes you have to go backwards to go forwards.
But I am NOT telling you what to do - your life is your own. I have simply given you suggestions based upon my own difficult experiences, and I hope that you are able to get some benefit from at least one of them.
I DO care - and I WILL send out vibes that things work out better for both you and your daughter.