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DH is away and I am home alone....

post #1 of 21
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I know it's crazy, but my DH is away on business and I am home alone....and for some reason, I am already lonely. We haven't spent a night apart since we've been married....and I'm feeling a bit anxiety ridden about it. He left this morning at 4am for Virginia, and even when I woke up, the house already felt empty....and it wasn't any different than any other day, cause he always leaves for work before me. Is anyone else as crazy as me? Or am I all alone in my insanity? Do you get upset having to be all alone? I just always feel so helpless, and small in the world when I'm by myself....I'm sure you will all have my company tonight, so at least I'll have my TCS friends to keep me from being lonely....
post #2 of 21
Lee recently left for a week. I was going crazy while he was away. I felt like I needed to keep myself busy but there was no one to talk to and I knew it.
post #3 of 21
It's always hard when BF is away. TCS comfort and safety vibes for both of you.
post #4 of 21
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thanks guys.... it's so weird....sometimes, I can go days without seeing him....like we're ships passing in the night, or I only see him when we crawl into bed at night....but at least I have the comfort of knowing that he's there....

I AM going to use this time wisely....straightening up, LOTS of kitty LOVING to do, and a pint of Phish Food ice cream by my 2 fave guys "ben & jerry" I will catch up on every chick flick I have missed in the last 4 yrs....
post #5 of 21
That's what I always do when Jack is out of town! I order chinese takeout and grab all the super chic flicks I wanted to see and make a night of it!

But when it's time to go to bed I can't help but feel all lonely...
post #6 of 21
Awww Heather.......sorry to hear this. Will he be home soon?
post #7 of 21
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Originally Posted by kittylover4ever View Post
Awww Heather.......sorry to hear this. Will he be home soon?
He could be home as early as Wed, or as late as Fri....it depends on how fast they can get the job done.... I do appreciate my time alone though....it's just like Adrianne said, the bed time will be the tough part....I am such a tough girl, and yet such a chicken!
post #8 of 21
Awwww...but you've got the greatest man in the world there with you...Louie! Just crawl into bed with him(good luck keeping him there) & it'll be sorta the same!
post #9 of 21
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Awwww...but you've got the greatest man in the world there with you...Louie! Just crawl into bed with him(good luck keeping him there) & it'll be sorta the same!
That's right!!!
post #10 of 21
its not odd at all. Steve nd I have spent little time apart since he came off the road as a musician. He went away for a few days with work and I just i coudlnt sleep, I couldnt just be around the house and be happy cause it felt empty..

which like you wasnt to much diffrent cause when hes home he works alot but it was knowing that he was *NOT around* that just bugged me. the kitties worked hard to make me feel better though.
post #11 of 21
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Awwww...but you've got the greatest man in the world there with you...Louie! Just crawl into bed with him(good luck keeping him there) & it'll be sorta the same!
oh he has NO problem staying there! Just move 1 toe....I dare ya! He'll be attacking my feet for hours! The biggest dilemma is that DH gets up at 5:30am, and feeds the monsters immediately....I'm gonna have 2 kitties crawling in my curly hair tomorrow morning....

Scamper....that's exactly it, it's the knowing he's not here that's buggin' me.
post #12 of 21
Heather...I'm with you, I don't like it either! David is on his way home right now he left in the middle of the night Sat, to drive to New Orleans... I hate it ... I like everyone home with me!!! During the day I'm used to being here alone but come dinner time I want him home!!! Thank God for the cats they are a lot of company for you!!!
post #13 of 21
I know what you mean. My fiance had to go away on a course for work for 4 nights about a month ago and I was dreading it. I just tried not to think about it and kept myself really busy. I had a friend over a couple of nights, and visited my parents another night. I also spent ages on the phone. By the time the last night came I was glad to have some time to myself.
It is bedtime that's the hardest though, just get Louie and Luckygirl on the bed with you and all snuggle up together.

Look at the positive side - how great will you feel when you see him again on Wed or fri? And the anticipation of it will be like when you were dating again!

Enjoy the phish food - that's my fav too!
post #14 of 21
Ha! I felt like that too last year when ben left me.

But now i am used to the fact that I DONT HAVE TO SHARE MY BED ANYMOREEEEEEEEEE!!! :claps: that it feels great, then again ill mope around when im married that my hubby is gone!!

Enjoy your time sweety, it wont be long untill he is back
post #15 of 21
I always hated it when Dh was away. Sometimes I still get blue when he's just working late!
post #16 of 21
In the 9 years that me and my DH have been together I can count on one hand the number of nights we have spent apart and each of those nights we talked on the phone, im'd or something of the sort!
post #17 of 21
Heather!! I feel for ya. My hubby does a split shift at work. which requires him to work nights and I hate it!! I wouldnt know what to do if he was gone for a week though. Just keep your head up sweetie. He will be home soon enough.
post #18 of 21
Aw, that's rough, especially the first time apart!

I've found I REALLY miss my husband the first two weeks, and if he's gone longer it gets easier after that. Don't like any of it, either. If you play video games, this is a good time. And the movie advice is good, too. I usually start sewing projects, or home improvement projects because I don't cook dinner when he's gone. Hang in there, he'll be back before you know it.

Cheers, from
SwampWitch

p.s. Having girlfriends over for a movie night is good, too.
post #19 of 21
you will be just fine! and you have all of us here on tcs to keep you company not to mention, you have time to go christmas shopping and watch any chick flick you want while he's outta town
post #20 of 21
My DH went hunting for a week at the beginning of November. I did ok in the morning but when I came home, there wasn't anyone to tell my daily gripes to. The cats just roll their eyes at me and Carly says FEED ME. I spent a lot of time here just reading. I also found that I didn't go to bed until later. Just found myself wandering around awhile.
post #21 of 21
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Thanks everyone!!! I think I did ok last night.... the evening time was fine. I got the kitty's nails done, put away some dishes, straightened up a bit, did 2 loads of wash, watched my soaps (with no complaining I might add....funny GH just didn't sound the same without hearing "do we have to watch this crap?!" ), and then snuggled with the kitts & watched "Just Friends" a movie on HBO....it was pretty funny. I made popcorn, and LuckyGirl decided to help herself to it, eating right out of the bowl. And LuckyGirl actually sat on my belly when I laid down on the couch....she never does that. She must've been missing daddy too. And she slept on his side of the bed. They both woke me at 5:30am....so I closed the door to the bedroom so they could carry on with their morning ruckus without waking me....then they decided to paw at the door and make a horrible racket that way.... I finally fed them about 6:30....you would've thought that they hadn't eaten all night, like there wasn't dry food sitting out or anything?! Tonight, I swear, I gotta get some x-mas stuff out....
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