help - my cat doesn't want to accept a stray cat

carmen

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hello. I had two cats Milli (2 1/2) and Nena (1). Milli was with us for about one year when I fond Nena, who at that time was about 1 month old. As time passed Milli bacame more an more distant, she just could't stand Nena, and she was most of the time outside. She came in only to eat and to sleep. On Oct. 18 Nena was killed by three dogs, and we said that Milli was the only happy about it. After three days I found a male cat on the street, about one year old or more. He is very loving and he is so happy when I take him in the house. he only wants to have a place of his own and nothing else. But my Milli is completetly crazy now. When she sees him she wouldn't come inside and she wouldn't let me touch her. I kept trying but it just got worse and worse! If he is inside now she would hide in the house, she wouldn't eat and at night she iwouldn't sleep in my bed anymore. I don't know what to do. Milli is our first cat and we can't just throw her on the streets. But we also love the stray kitten very much.
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that Milli is having difficulties sharing her owners and her home with another!

I don't know if you've checked out the stickies about the Introduction process, but it might be very helpful in this case! There is no guarantee that any cat will get on with another, but the process of slow introduction and scent exchange may beneficial.

I'm not sure if they sell Feliway in Romania, but if you can get hold of some it could ease the stress for Milli.

For the meantime though, make sure that you spend lots of time with Milli and reassure her that she's still very much loved. Have special play times with her while the other kitty is elsewhere. You can always feed Milli in a separate room too (provide a litter tray, water and toys too) - where she feels safe and less threatened by the newcomer. You will also be able to monitor the amount of food and water she's taking.

Many calming }}}VIBES{{{ coming your way.


Please do let us know how you're getting on!
 

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It takes time for one cat to accept another because they are territorial by nature.

It may help if you pet one, and then go pet the other. That will help each of them to get used to the other's scent.

I used to put the new one in a small room, like a bathroom with a litter box, food, water and some toys. Within a day or so, the resident cats would be sticking their paws under the door to see who the new one was. Sooooothing headbuts and calm, be friends licks from KittenKiya's Clan.
 
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