I'm turning to you guys first because you're the best - all of you.....
I'm sitting here at home literally crying. Im so upset, but I'm not sure if I need to be. Story is I've been friends with this guy for almost 10 years. We worked together years ago, then we both transfered to another company. It happened to be the same company, but different departments. So for the past year or so we go out to lunch to catch up about once a month. We also get together occassionally on a friday or saturday night and go watch another friends band play. Well tonite he happened to be up in my area (45 minutes away from his house) so he asked if I wanted to get together. He said the wife gave him a "pass" for the night so he could go out. He's married with 3 kids and his wife is kinda strict - doesn't let him out much. So I said sure. If you're gonna be in this area, call me and we'll get together for a while. Well he finished up with his friends, gave me a call and we went out for a few hours. Same as always - small talk - hows the job, hows the family, what's new. Thats how things always are with us. We're friends/aquaintences and thats it. Well all that seemed to change when he dropped me off at my house. He came in to help me build a fire (I can't start a fire in my fireplace to save my life and have another post on TCS about that too). So he told me how to do it, but then things got strange. He wouldn't leave. Kept saying he had to go, but wasn't moving. I stayed on the other side of the kitchen table from him paranoid. I finally got him outside, but then he still wouldn't leave. He just kept walking around and I wandered outside in the dark - playing with my chairs, garage door, trampoline, anything to keep me busy and he just kept saying "well, I probably should be going" but then didn't go anywhere!!! I finally headed towards my door and said "well, have a good night" and went in. I left him standing in the driveway. I feel awful, but I just go horrible horrible vibes from him tonite and I that's not what I want from him! He's my friend and he's married! Am I just paranoid? How can I read him correctly? God! I'm freakin out here! It was just so different than any other night we were out. Now that I think of it - he kept touching me all night too! God this sucks! I just want his friendship. What do I do?
I just really really got different vibes from him tonite. Is that possible? Can you read a guy acurately like that? I was actually very close to calling him after he left to tell him he made me uncomfortable tonite and confront him about things, but was afraid I was reading something in that wasn't true. So I didn't call. I'm so confused and upset!!
I'm sitting here at home literally crying. Im so upset, but I'm not sure if I need to be. Story is I've been friends with this guy for almost 10 years. We worked together years ago, then we both transfered to another company. It happened to be the same company, but different departments. So for the past year or so we go out to lunch to catch up about once a month. We also get together occassionally on a friday or saturday night and go watch another friends band play. Well tonite he happened to be up in my area (45 minutes away from his house) so he asked if I wanted to get together. He said the wife gave him a "pass" for the night so he could go out. He's married with 3 kids and his wife is kinda strict - doesn't let him out much. So I said sure. If you're gonna be in this area, call me and we'll get together for a while. Well he finished up with his friends, gave me a call and we went out for a few hours. Same as always - small talk - hows the job, hows the family, what's new. Thats how things always are with us. We're friends/aquaintences and thats it. Well all that seemed to change when he dropped me off at my house. He came in to help me build a fire (I can't start a fire in my fireplace to save my life and have another post on TCS about that too). So he told me how to do it, but then things got strange. He wouldn't leave. Kept saying he had to go, but wasn't moving. I stayed on the other side of the kitchen table from him paranoid. I finally got him outside, but then he still wouldn't leave. He just kept walking around and I wandered outside in the dark - playing with my chairs, garage door, trampoline, anything to keep me busy and he just kept saying "well, I probably should be going" but then didn't go anywhere!!! I finally headed towards my door and said "well, have a good night" and went in. I left him standing in the driveway. I feel awful, but I just go horrible horrible vibes from him tonite and I that's not what I want from him! He's my friend and he's married! Am I just paranoid? How can I read him correctly? God! I'm freakin out here! It was just so different than any other night we were out. Now that I think of it - he kept touching me all night too! God this sucks! I just want his friendship. What do I do?
I just really really got different vibes from him tonite. Is that possible? Can you read a guy acurately like that? I was actually very close to calling him after he left to tell him he made me uncomfortable tonite and confront him about things, but was afraid I was reading something in that wasn't true. So I didn't call. I'm so confused and upset!!