Oh! She's adorable! I have a soft spot for calicos. I'm glad she's doing a little better. Obviously, I'm not a vet, but I had some thoughts on a couple of things you mentioned.
My Teazer is a calico with tabby stripes and she's about 2 years older than your baby.
T's gotten eye gunk on her face all her life. The vet said it's normal, most of the time, and to just keep it cleaned off. People's eyes do it too. You wake up with those crusty things at the corner of your eyes. It's from your tear ducts. When the gunk is clear or dries brown or black, it's normal. If it's yellow or green or something like that, then it can indicate infection.
The lip licking can be because she has a hairball she can't get up, or her tummy is upset (from illness, something she ate, or stress). Or, in the case of my Teazer-cat, acid reflux. Just like in humans, stress from being sick can make this flare up. Teazer sits there and licks her lips. Based on the frequency of the lip smacking, I can tell if she's going to throw up cause it's irritating her throat and stomach. She gets a simple, inexpensive, liquid antacid, and the problem goes away. Obviously, it's up to the vet to decide if that's what it is and what she needs and she should NEVER
be given a people antacid without a vet's say-so!
As for the little pimple spot, does it feel sort of solid? Teazer had two such bumps on her neck. At first I thought they were flea bites! Over the months, they slowly got a little bigger. I showed them to the vet and he said that they were lumps of calcification. He said it's VERY
common in cats 10 and up. He said sometimes they go away by themselves, sometimes they just stay the way they are, but on occassion, the vet's office has to do a little minor surgery cause the calcification has gotten big enough to bother the animal. Later, I had to switch her food because she wasn't getting enough nutrition from the old one. I was scratching her neck the other day and noticed that the bumps were gone.
Again, a vet has to decide if that's the case with any of these. I agree with everyone saying to read up on cat nutrition. I would, however, not spend too
much time reading up on diseases and syndroms and such. Yes, knowledge is a good thing, but most of us here aren't vets, with years of training. Any single symptom can be a symptom of several dozen different things. Some serious, some not so serious. When my cat was much younger, I used to go look stuff up on the internet when she got sick and all I really did was work myself into a frenzy before we got to the vet. And I was always wrong. Right now, your kitty is relying on you for safety and strength. You can't give her that if you're all worked up. She can sense when you're upset. And before anybody starts screaming at me, I'm not saying don't do research, I'm saying bare in mind that one symptom can mean a LOT
of different things. If the internet was such a infallible rescource for such things, we wouldn't need dr's or vets anymore.
Yes, your little one needs to see a vet. No doubt there, and it's unfortunate that your dad doesn't feel the same way. One of my friends' parents used to call cats, "the renewable resource." Believe me, it made me so MAD!
But unfortunatly, we can't make everyone think the way we do (is mass hypnosis an option?!). My vets actually had to change their policy to stop people from putting older animals down just because they're inconvenient to them. Thankfully, your little one has you to stand up for her.
Hang in there! Hold your kitty, tell her how much you love her, and keep track of her symptoms. Maybe write down dates and times something happens in a notebook so if you can get her to a vet, they have a starting point. I'll be thinking of you two!!