First thing's first- get her to calm down....her stressing herself out is not good for her and lava girl- if her BP goes up, she could send herself into labor or have another complication- so try and get her to calm down a bit ok? Tell her to hang in there. I foster all of the time (I have 5 boys at the moment). I recently lost 3 kittens in less than a months time. It was aweful- I blammed myself, and I pretty much felt like the worst foster mom ever. What helped me more than anything was posting about it on TCS- see if you can calm her down enough to read the responses over Bagheera everyone has sent her- it migh help her talk and cope a little bit. That really helped me a lot. When it comes down to it though- and I realized it the day Keiko died- anytime you foster, you take on the risk that the animal might not make it. Usually people who foster take on very young kittens or sick ones....they often do not have a genetic history or medical work up on the kitties family and are left guessing on many things. You have to do the best you can with what knowledge on the animal you have. All of the kitties that I lost that month were all VERY sickly- one had it's little skull cracked by some aweful boys who beat that one and 2 other kittens up (Kenzie, Keiko and the little one with the cracked skull who passed on.). When it comes down to it- there was nothing I could have done to save that little one- he was too far gone- I did everything I knew how though- he went to the vet the day a good samaritan found him and then they called me to foster all 3 of them. He wasn't even home a few hours before he passed. Later on that month, Keiko- his brother suffered a series of aweful seizures and other problems to the point that he couldn't walk, eat, control his bowels, or even move- it was aweful to watch- we wated 2 weeks trying everything for him (physical therapy, a new diet, more vet visits, iv's) ...after 2 weeks he was still the same and in soo much pain that we all made the decision to put him to rest. I knew when I held him in my arms while we gave him the shot that it was the right decision- it was the first time I hadn't seen him sick or in pain. It was hard though- but I found a ton of support from everyone here on TCS. And many of you may also remember that I lost little LEX about a week before Keiko. He also suffered a series of seizures and passed on of what I suspect to be fading kitten syndrome.- that absolutely broke my heart- I took him to the vet 5 times in one week, and did everything possible for him...the vet said that there was nothing more I could have done for him- I did it all. Sometimes, they just don't make it. I finally had to just step back a moment and realize that. It really helped me once I did. I'm telling you this because there's a good story to come out of all this loss. Little Kenzie- the sister to Keiko and the one who had it's little skill crushed, she was the runt of the litter and the one we thought would pass away first. Well, she pulled through- after a ton of medical attention and intensive fostering- i'm happy to say that she just found a wonderful forever home over the weekend. Sometimes as a foster mom, you will loose kittens and your heart will break...but sometimes, you save just one- and to that one- it means the world. And to the ones you loose- you can know that you did everything for them and gave them a wonderful home/life while you had them in your care. That's what keeps me going as a foster mom. It's not for everyone....but the ones who are able to do it- it is really special and worth it. I know right now Amber says she doesn't want to foster any more- but please let her know she needs to hang in there and give it some time. She has done soooo much to help the animals that she loves and cares about and has made an incredable difference in their lives. I would definitely encourage her to try again when she feels she's ready. And if she doesn't feel she can do it again...that's ok too.