I got yelled at

Last night I was burning two new candles strawberry shortcake was the scent and dad yelled at me he said that my candles stink up the house and he didn't want me burning any of them. Well this morning I tried to get him to smell of them without them burning and he said I don't like those &*$# things and neither do the cats and dogs. And I said well you don't have to shout and cuss at me. And he said well those *$*# things stink up the house. I think that was really rude since I was in my bedroom when I was burning them and I can't close the door because I don't have a door.

My parents were the same way about me burning incense in my room at home and I did have a door that I closed. What's funny is that now I live away from them and I hardely ever burn scented things. Maybe he was just having a bad day and took it out on you.

Awwwwww He'd hate me because my house smells of either Yankee Candle Tarts from Chris(Captiva) plug in room fresheners, candles, not to mention my perfume

It's a shame you don't have a bedrooom door that you can shut

Originally Posted by Tavia'smom

I can't close the door because I don't have a door.

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I am sorry but why isn't there a door to keep the scent in your room?

Well it was an old abandoned trailor that he remoldled but he never saw the need for a door. But this spring we are building a new house with doors. And I definately want locks on all the inside doors. Cause none of my family know how to knock. I know he was probably having a bad day but still he shouldn't be so grumpy. The only thing he doesn't complain about is my cat he loves her. He complains when I miss work, I did Monday because they sent me home, he complains when I work overtime. He's just a grumpy old man. Oh and he complains about my dog all the time. Granted she's an agrivating dog at times she's still my girl. I forgive dad I just wish he wouldn't make it so hard to live with him at times. But he doesn't need to live by himself because he doesn't listen to his doctor and if someones not here he forgets his meds. I honestly think he may have alzeheimers in the next couple of years. So grumpiness and all I am trying to enjoy my dad being around while I still have him.

You poor thing.... it's not easy living with other people. But I have to disagree about kitties not liking candles. We were really worried for awhile, LuckyGirl was always peeking into the candles, and we'd let her go, but watch closely to see what she'd do. I think, she just liked the smells, and the heat that comes from them, and the light. But I was wondering if she would try to eat them, cause they smell like vanilla & caramel.... she didn't but she will sit next to them to keep warm.

Originally Posted by Tavia'smom

So grumpiness and all I am trying to enjoy my dad being around while I still have him.

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Awww bless your heart I thought you were a teenager until i looked at your profile.

Put it down to him having and " Off day ". At least when the house is built and the doors are on you'll be able to keep the smell of the candles in a bit.

We can all have a bit moan, but some do it more than others. You know where we are though if you want to sound off

That's too bad...some men don't like fruity scents...try something less sweet maybe? Such as an outdoorsy scent? What does your dad like? Try burning something he likes.

He doesn't like any kinds of smells that I know of. When we were growing up we weren't allowed to wear perfume because he didn't like the smells he said it stinks

Awwwww grumpy people just need extra love sometime! Thats so sweet that you are there looking after your Father.

He may have a sensitive nose since he doesnt like anything that smells. I know it can give some people headaches.

Maybe when the house is finished you will be able to burn your candles!

i am sorry to hear this also, i love the smell of some of the candles,
but when i was younger, and living at home, i was never allowed to burn them also

hmm well maybe the perfume stuff he has a bad reaction to ? i know some perfumes will make my eyes water until i cant see any more, and in a couple of cases, i cant breathe

Dad's have their grumpy moments, that's for sure, but I'd give anything to have my dad yell at me! We need to get you a door!

I don't mind too bad on the candles I just love candles. But what I really wish is that we could convince him that Tavia needs another kitty. He's as stubborn as an ox trying to argue with him is like trying to argue with a rock.

I never had a problem with burning incense and such in my room when I lived with my dad. Hopefully when you get the house built he won't complain so much with your door closed. I agree though...enjoy having your dad around while he's there. Mine lives 6 hours away and seems to have disowned me for some reason.

Blessings,
Joann

Perhaps your father is allergic to scents and fragrances as am I. I used to love them but now I can't stand them because they make my eyes itch and I begin to cough and before you know it I'm sick. Same thing with scented creams and perfumes. People that pour on the aftershave and perfume before they come to work make me sick. So perhaps your dad has an allergy and doesn't realize it, but does know that the fragrances irritate him. I really wish more people would realize that many people are sensitive to fragrances. Furthermore, I reasearched this, and there are many carcinogenic properties in fragrances.

My problem with it was he could have used a civil tone rather than just yelling and cussing which was uncalled for. He did that last night he yelled out about the **** candles stinking up the house.

Originally Posted by Tavia'smom

He doesn't like any kinds of smells that I know of. When we were growing up we weren't allowed to wear perfume because he didn't like the smells he said it stinks

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Some people do have an accute sense of smells and many smells really bother them.

I have an accute sense of smell and some smells I find overwhelming to the point I get a headache, or feel nauseated. I find all incense and most candles really offensive smelling. The only scented candles that I can tolerate are those that smell like citrus or a light lavender scent. The same with flowers. I love the look of roses, but I can't have them in the room with me cause I find the smell overwhelming.

I don't even need to taste what I'm cooking because I can tell just by smelling it how it will taste.

Don't be too hard on your Dad. I don't think he's telling you not to burn candles because he's being mean and stubborn. He just might be ultra sensitive to the smells and find them much more pungent than you do.