News about the baby (Amber)

That could be. I don't know, though..because my friend had her baby up there last december, and they induced her in the morning.

Debby:

I was just thinking about you when I saw this thread. I was thinking, "Just because Labor Day is in September doesn't mean that she has to keep waiting!"

Good luck with everything, and tell hubby that you want some 1 hour photo developing! Don't worry about having been up all day. If you get good meds, you'll be tired enough to nap through part of the labor. Can't wait to see this baby!

Debbie, you'll be in my thoughts on Friday night (and until we hear from you that all is well). It's perfectly natural to be nervous the first time. This a whole new experience for you (and a wonderful one, you'll see). When I was pregnant the first time, I asked my doctor (who was a man), "Does it hurt much?" He said, "Well, I wouldn't know, but I see a whole lot of repeaters so it mustn't be too awful!" And he was right. You will have so much positive energy coming your way from all of us, you will do great. Will your husband be in the delivery room with you?

Just got home from work and saw this thread. Good luck, Debby.

Debby, this is sooo exciting! I can't wait until you post the pictures of Amber.

My friend was induced last tuesday. She had her baby boy 2 hours later and went home the next morning. All I can say is that I wish you the exact same delivery. How much better can it get than that? She even came to the office and had lunch with us 2 days after having delivered him.

I hope it goes smoothly for you, and you are holding your daughter soon after beginning labor. I will be thinking of you, too. Good luck!

Originally posted by spacecat
Will your husband be in the delivery room with you?

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At this point, he could be on Mars for all I care. I'm so mad at him after the big fight we had tonight. He was being such a jerk (and that is putting it very nicely)

Ghys....WOW!!! She had her baby 2 hours after being induced??? I wish I would be that lucky!!!

Debby, this is so exciting!

I had a c-section so I can't tell you much about the pain - never had a contraction... I'm thinking about you all the time and I'm sending prayers and positive thoughts your way!

I'm sorry you had such a fight with hubby though. What's so bad he has to fight about with a woman just about to deliver? He should be pampering you right now and be on his best behavior! And you can tell him I said so

Debby,
I just read that you had a fight with your husband Sorry to hear about that when you are days away from having your first baby. Like Anne said, I can't even imagine why he would pick a fight Did he say sorry to you yet?

Debby - I'm wishing you every good luck, and am so jealous it's not me (but that's another story).

My neighbour had a baby in Feb, and she had a 32 hour labour. Ouch.

I think your old man is a real pig (sorry - I had to say it how I felt it) to be giving you a hard time now. You're so stressed and frightened and worried that he should be doing all he can to reassure you. He's got kids from a previous marriage, right? He should be using his experience (if he was there of course - not all men are) to help you.

All the best (not sure of time zones etc, so I hope these wishes aren't too late!!!)

Yola
This is just FYI: I live in the same time zone as Debby and we're only about six hours behind you. Right now, it's a little after 6 a.m. where we are so it should be a little after 12 noon where you are. Right???????

Debby - I am sending positive healthy baby vides and easy delivery vibes your way. Amber is one lucky little girl to have you as her mommy! Good luck.

I just saw this thread now. Good luck Debby! I'm so happy for you. I'm sure you'll do just fine. Just try and relax this last day that you have to yourself. Don't get to worried and remember that we will all be thinking of you.

Debby... best wishes, safety and joy to Amber, your husband and yourself!

Just to add to some of the comments... Not all labors are horrendous. My sister came to the breakfast table complaining that she's had "gas" from the pizza the night before and had been peeing all night... it turned out she was labor and she had her baby an hour and a half later. Both my goddaughters were born by natural childbirth... one at home.

Stay calm, breathe and do what's best for yourself and little Amber, no matter what that is!

Strength and energy to you all!

Edited for spelling.

Thanks guys! Yola...I don't go in to be induced until tomorrow at 5pm, so there is still over 24 hours left!!

The thing with hubby is....he is just like that. I mean his first wife told me that when she went into labor, he had to finish his fried chicken before he took her to the hospital...she can't eat fried chicken to this day. I know that sounds awful...and he would not do that with me, that was 17 years ago, and he has changed alot since then...but he still has his moments where he reverts back to being a jerk.
Maybe last night was my fault, I really don't know....his mother had called me and told me that my step-daughter wanted to ride up to the hospital with us when I go to be induced. And that is sweet of her, but his mother and I both agreed, that it could be many hours before I give birth, and she would be sitting in the waiting room alone all that time....AND the big one for me...is that hubby is looking for any excuse he can NOT to be in the room with me the whole time...he was not in the delivery room with either of his two kids, and he is very squimish about it, even though I told him he doesn't actually have to LOOK at it, just look at my face, and hold my hand. He finally agreed to it...BUT...I know if his daughter is out in the waiting room...he will be running out there to be with her every 10 minutes, and might not even be in the room when Amber is born, and I will be all stressed out because he isn't in the room, and I just want him to sit in the room with me the whole time for support, and not be running around.
And his mother actually agreed with me!!
So I told hubby I thought it would be better if his daughter came up sometime on Friday, since I will be alot closer to having her, or may have already had her. Then she can see the baby.
Is that being selfish of me?? Because he said it was, and raised his voice, and said "Well whatever, you always get what you want anyway"
Which is SO NOT TRUE!!!!! Then he told me I was making a big deal out of nothing, etc. etc.
Then it got worse from there...because he was cussing, and I said I didn't deserve to be treated that way and cussed at, and asked him to apologize..and he said, no, I won't. And then I told him how much of a jerk I thought he was being...and I threw in a few choice words, I should have left out...and then he got up and slammed the bedroom door.

Sorry for going into all of this here.......I don't want you all to think he is a big jerk, but sometimes he really can be. If I didn't love him so much, I would be gone.

he never tries to comfort me if I am scared...when we went to the doctor Monday there was some problem with the babies heartbeat, turned out it was okay, after they did two more tests...but I was really worried, and I swear all he could think about was that he had not eaten yet, and this whole thing was taking alot of time.

Thank you for letting me vent here...I hadn't planned on it, but it does help to get things off my chest!!!!!!!!!!! I usually keep stuff like this private...but I know I am among friends here.

Debby, I'm sorry he's being a jerk especially right now. Maybe that's his way of dealing with big stress? To push you away and just not deal it? I don't know. Right now, he SHOULD be doing everything to make YOU comfortable, relaxed, etc.

I agree with you and MIL. It is sweet she wants to be there, but it just isn't a good place for her to be all night.

You have all the support in the world from here, and we will all be figuratively holding your hand through the whole thing.

Thank you Heidi, that means alot!

dEBBY,
I dont think it is selfish of you ....... Your step-daughter would be there along time waiting. How old is she again? Does she have her driver's liscense? Maybe she could borrow the car and go home (assuming she is over 16?).
Personally, when we have kids, I dont want a bunch of people hanging around.

Debby, You WILL be watching Big Brother while in labor! However, tape it anyway, in case Amber wants to come Thurs. night, which would be fine. That's my daughter's birthday. Debby, I had a girl friend who never had more than 1/2 hour's labor before six of her children were born. The first took 4 hours. Everyone's different. My advice: keep cool; breathe through the contraction, staying totally in control, and get the epidural! You'll be fine. Remember, if you get mad, yell at Josh! The proof that "big babies" get through labor is the fact that I had four babies! I was determined everyone would believe I was not the least bit frightened. It worked! Remember the song from the "King and I" "I whistle a happy tune, and no one will suspect I'm afraid." "Cause when I fool the people I fool, I fool myself as well!"

P.S My husband can't take that kind of stress either; he yelled at me to get in the car when I was in the middle of a hard contraction. He gets terrified of hospitals and any kind of illness. I fell once, and he was stuck to the spot; he couldn't move. But when I was in labor, he also had labor pains. He came home and said,"We're going to the hospital; I can't take this any more!" I don't know how much pain he was having, but he was a bigger baby than I was. Bless his heart!