|am sorry but I believe that there are things broken within our education system. Please explain to me how there isn't something broken within the schools when children feel the need to bring guns to school and shoot their peers and teachers? I'm not saying that tag is the root cause of this action, but please consider the WHOLE picture. It is the ideals behind games like tag and other things that help cause the problems, not help create solutions.
Certainly, you don't believe that losing at a game of tag, dodge ball or whatever, is going to cause some kid to go off the deep end and shoot up his school do you? That is ridiculous. Just because some scholars at some university say, this is the right thing to do, does not mean they are right. In fact, they are so wrong!! That's just as bad as the media saying, as in the case with the Colorado school shooting a few years ago, that those kids dressed in black and listened to Goth music and German techno, means all people who do this are going to go shoot up a school. That's stupid!! My wife and I listen to Goth music, techno music and our favorite night club is a Goth club where evryone, God forbid, dresses in black!! I haven't thought about shooting up a school either. You know why? because as a kid, I LEARNED to DEAL with my problems. My parents taught me very well. So what if some kid is embarrassed or has his or her feelings hurt. That's life and they need to learn to deal with these things at an early age. What are they going to do when they get older and someone embarrasses them or hurts their feelings? How are they going to deal with that, if they never learned how to? Even if a kid has been or is being bullied in school, they need to learn how to deal with a bully. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not saying that being a bully is ok and that anyone who does these kind of things, if caught, shouldn't be punished. But, these things have been going on down through the ages, not just now.
|RIGHT ON! Instead of having the kids deal with uncomfortable feelings, the current fad among educators is to avoid them altogether. Assuming of course that the kids have not had their brains numbed by the drugs....
Now THIS is the reason there ARE school shootings. If kids are not taught how to deal with their feelings, what are they going to do? Since I work for a police department as a police/ems/911 dispatcher, I have gone to seminars on school violence. I saw some very graphic information on the Columbine (sp) school shootings. I saw the letter, that one of these kids wrote MONTHS ahead of the time the shootings took place. It was so sad, In fact, I felt more sorry for the kids that did the shooting, because they had such troubled feelings, that they DIDN'T know how to deal with. You know what? NO ONE did anything about the letters. From what I remember, they didn't even speak with the kids, to see if they could help. How sad is that, that these boys had such troubled feelings built up in them over the years, that the only way they knew how to deal with it, was to end their lives and the lives of other students. You know what, as a kid, I was never picked first, to be on a team during gym class. Did it bother me?? Not one bit!! I didn't like and I still don't like..sports. As a man, I am NOT afraid or embarrassed to stand up in front of a group of football loving guys and say, I hate this stuff, what a waste of time. I have better things to do. I learned to deal with these types of things as a kid. No one ever sugar coated my world and made it seem like everything is good, or that nothing will ever hurt you or bother you. If something was bothering me, I was able to speak with my parents, because that is what they were, my parents and they were there. They taught me yes, it is OK to feel hurt or embarrassed and how to deal with it. This is another cause of these school shootings. NO parents and NO discipline!! These same kids, who did the Colordao school shootings, were making bombs out of propane tanks, as well as pipe bombs and had the guns and all the other stuff stored...you know where?? In their BEDROOM!! How is it that their parents did not know this? My parents always went in my room. If I was ever sent to my room for being bad and oh my gosh, even after geting SPANKED on occasion, I was not allowed to slam the door closed and keep it shut. They wanted to know what I was doing. If they said, there will be no listening to records, the radio or playing with any of my toys, they meant it!! Today, with people thinking they need to live in these huge houses, with 2 very expensive cars or suv's parked in the drive, both parents are working and are never home. The kids come home from school and have NO adult supervision for a couple hours, before their parents get home. Yes, this is true. I work in a high end upscale suburb, with these types of homes. The officers on the road tell us they go into these subdivisions and it is like a ghost town, no one home. So, what do you think the kids could be doing with no adults there?? Now, with the internet as well, they have more access to information than ever before. Most parents have no idea what there kids are doing on the net. I can go on and on about this, but in short, all I have to say is this. These interactive games are VERY GOOD for children, whether they get embarrassed or have their feelings hurt. That's life, learn to deal with it. That's what the kids should be taught, how to deal with their feelings, not hide it!! Infact, think about a marriage or any relationship. If a couple does not talk about their feelings or problems they may be having, what happens?? These things build up, they don't go away. This will then have a big negative impact on that relationship. Many woman say that men don't talk about their feelings, how is this going to get better, if we hide our children from their feelings? If they don't learn to deal with it as a child, they will NEVER learn to deal with it when they grow up. So go one kids, go play tag. It's fun and good for you. If your little feelings get hurt or you get embarrassed, that's ok too. That's part of life
I also want to take this time to thank my parents, for doing such a wonderful job