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post #31 of 45
I think they're good to have in some cases - there have been famous cases where it was good they had one...or bad they didn't.

We don't have one and I see no reason to have one for us at all. If there was a good reason to have one I guess I'd sign in...but I think I'd feel as if trust was an issue at that point.
post #32 of 45
Chad & I will have a pre-nup, I'm almost 100% positive. At first I was very against the idea... planning for failure was how I saw it, but I have kind of come around and think it's a good thing now.

All along he has been very adamant that he wants one and I didn't really understand why. I think a lot of it has to do with his parents getting a divorce- his mom tried very hard to "get her half" of some property that his dad had inherited and Larry (the dad) had to not only pay a very large amount but also give up a lot of his things in order to protect that property. So I think Chad feels he needs one because of the example he has been given.

My parents are still together & I don't necessarily feel a strong need for a pre-nup (I'd say because of the example I have been given) but it would definetely be to our benefit to sign one.

Chad has his own business that he started a few years ago and I will be inheriting my family business eventually... other than that we don't really have much! Or we've been together so long that anything we do have is already both of ours anyway!

I am glad someone mentioned that about including in the pre-nup about staying home to raise kids... that isn't something I had thought about but being a stay at home mom is something I'd like to do. I suppose if we are going to have one anyway then that would be a wise thing to include!
post #33 of 45
I wouldn't mind it, if you think about it, the guy could take you to the cleaners too. Nothing is guaranteed these days. I'm proof of that, as are many of us here. Luckily for me, it was a amicable divorce and we divided our stuff evenly in a friendly manner. I'd say if I were to get a prenup being his idea, I'd put a stipulation in there saying if he's found cheating or something offensive like that, then all is null and void. And if I had doubts I'd hire a P.I. to get my proof. And yeah, kids would have to be added into it, so they would have support in case the marriage failed.
post #34 of 45
I'll bet Paul McCartney wishes now he had a pre-nup! Love is wonderful, but sometimes it just doesn't last and splitting can get really messy. That perfect person you married can turn into an ugly toad in your eyes and make a split a horrible experience.

I believe pre-nups protect the person with the most assets and I don't think that is a bad thing. Having said that, I also believe in fairness. When I split with my first husband I asked for no alimony. I figured I supported myself before I married him and I could do the same after the marriage was over. I had no desire to make his future a living hell by having to pay me alimony and possibly have to support a wife and children should he re-marry.
post #35 of 45
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Originally Posted by Yosemite View Post
I'll bet Paul McCartney wishes now he had a pre-nup!
Pfftt isn't that the truth!. She said in the beginning that she didn't want his money.

Then walk away Heather and call your solicitors off!!!.
post #36 of 45
I'm beginning to think things are much easier when you "shack up" and not worry about the marriage part of it!
post #37 of 45
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I'm beginning to think things are much easier when you "shack up" and not worry about the marriage part of it!
I agree! I'll pretty sure I'll never marry again, but I'm all for a long-term committed relationship without the legalities
post #38 of 45
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I agree! I'll pretty sure I'll never marry again, but I'm all for a long-term committed relationship without the legalities

I believe if you live together for 3 years the courts treat the relationship the same as being married and will allocate assets accordingly. I may be wrong but I wouldn't be willing to test that theory.
post #39 of 45
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I believe if you live together for 3 years the courts treat the relationship the same as being married and will allocate assets accordingly. I may be wrong but I wouldn't be willing to test that theory.
I don't think that applies in the US, I think it's longer than that to qualify as common-law and if I, or my boyfriend, were to end a relationship in which we were not married, why would the court need to get involved
post #40 of 45
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I don't think that applies in the US, I think it's longer than that to qualify as common-law and if I, or my boyfriend, were to end a relationship in which we were not married, why would the court need to get involved
You'd better check your state laws, and not assume. I ended up in a common law marriage because we hadn't checked (and he had me listed as a dependent, and covered by his health and car insurance, as I was a student), and my sister is now (willingly) in the same boat, in another state.
post #41 of 45
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I don't think that applies in the US, I think it's longer than that to qualify as common-law and if I, or my boyfriend, were to end a relationship in which we were not married, why would the court need to get involved
Some people are not able to work things out amongst themselves and end up suing eachother.
I thought it used to be 7 years to establish a common law marriage,or something like that In any case, I have lived with my fiance for almost 8 years and I could not imagine trying to take anything from him that is rightfully his. As a matter of fact, I would leave him with much more than I would take away. Worrying about stuff like that just adds so much stress to a relationship. If we split and he keeps the big screen, so be it.
post #42 of 45
Few states recognize common law marriage nowadays, and often the date you started to cohabit plays a role: http://www.unmarried.org/common.html
post #43 of 45
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Some people are not able to work things out amongst themselves and end up suing eachother.
well wouldn't that just defeat the purpose of not getting married In my case I doubt that anything of this nature would come into play as of right now I am almost 30, have my own house, car, good job and unless a guy had the same things I wouldn't be getting into a serious relationship with him
post #44 of 45
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Few states recognize common law marriage nowadays, and often the date you started to cohabit plays a role: http://www.unmarried.org/common.html
holy smokes, that's nuts!!! I thought was actually made the marriage legal was the marriage license and this article is basically saying you don't have to even get that!!!

ETA: I read a little more, and even if you live in a common-law recognizing state, unless you express the intent and/or desire to be married than you don't just automatically enter into a common-law marriage, so as I previously expressed my desire to NOT get married again, this would probably not happen, if i wanted to get married, I would just go buy the license
Thanks for the link Tricia!
post #45 of 45
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277 View Post
holy smokes, that's nuts!!! I thought was actually made the marriage legal was the marriage license and this article is basically saying you don't have to even get that!!!

ETA: I read a little more, and even if you live in a common-law recognizing state, unless you express the intent and/or desire to be married than you don't just automatically enter into a common-law marriage, so as I previously expressed my desire to NOT get married again, this would probably not happen, if i wanted to get married, I would just go buy the license
Thanks for the link Tricia!
In my case, just being covered by his insurance and listed as "next of kin" was interpreted as desire/intent. The laws aren't as strict as they used to be, but we had a horrible time extricating ourselves. And he did a sequel just a few years later.
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