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post #31 of 42
Nope. If my ex fell into the ocean and I had the only life perserver( as horrible as this sounds) I'd destroy it. My ex did things to me that were horrible and I will never forgive him for them.
So no, I don't think I'd talk to him if I didn't have to.
I DID see him once when he and his mom and new girlfriend came into where I work. He was civil so I was too. But his mom was a horrible beast of a woman (as per her usual self) so I didn't go out into the dinning room the whole time they were there. They haven't been back since thankfully.
post #32 of 42
Yes. I also think it's a good sign if a guy is friends (not too good of friends, but friends nonetheless of course) with his exes.

I'm friends with all mine except one, who just couldn't handle being friends as it was definitely a one-sided breakup. Sometimes I run into him and we catch up, but I'd never really go out of my way to contact him.

IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.

Obviously from what some of yall are describing though, there's plenty of guys out there who can't handle it (and I'm sure some women don't want to either).
post #33 of 42
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Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom View Post

IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.
I believed that once, too. I thought although I no longer liked my ex when we broke up, that I would always love him. But somewhere along the way the love faded away and is gone. If I never saw him or heard from him again, my life would not be less.

I did realize pretty early that I was more in love with who I thought he was, than him. And we had quite a few conflicts over the kids. (If only he could think of their feelings occasionally!) I'm sure that contributed to snuffing out the love! LOL!
post #34 of 42
I talk to all my exes, I am friends with all of them..I'm not saying its the right way because there is temptation sometimes...but I am friends with them.
post #35 of 42
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Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom View Post
IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.
I'm going to have to offer a differing opinion on this one too, sometimes not only does the other person's actions cause you to not like them as a person, but they can also kill any love you had for them. I loved my ex very deeply at one time, and I still care, but I do not feel any love for him anymore
post #36 of 42
I am very happy for the ones that can have a "friendly" relationship with their Ex's,...especially when there are kids involved,...its So much easier & healthier
for everyone,......,..TLEA
post #37 of 42
I still talk to my ex husband and we call each other friends, when secretly I still hate him...lol...not really but it is uncomfortable sometimes. I still see his family on occasion and even attend things like bridal or baby showers, even his brother's wedding. It's just a given to them that I'm invited, because they still consider me family. They don't even think twice about it, nor do I. I have other exes I talk to too. One rule for me, I cannot drink around them or old bitter feelings come out and I start talking rubbish! Not good!
post #38 of 42
I don't have an ex, but my divorced parents have always been friendly with each other.
post #39 of 42
AAAAAAAAKKKKKKKKKK!!! NO!!!!

--NOT if I can help it, anyway!!!!

When my kids were growing up, I was cordial to him, as much as the situation allowed. But since my kids are grown up now, there is NO reason to see him OR (Thankfully!!!!!) have any contact with him (WHEW!) If you knew how horrible a man, he evolved into, you'd totally understand. Everyone grows into "Being" what they are. Some good. Some bad. My "ex" started out, pretty good, and went in the WRONG direction...
post #40 of 42
I've only got/had one ex,But yes I still talk to because still live together
I don't think I could cope with any more ex's so that just as well
post #41 of 42
this thread is so topical.... I don't try to keep in touch with any of mine except one who was a friend for years before we had a bit of a fling (long time ago...)

Anyway, I've been having an ex's week.... couple of days ago I get an email from an ex to send me a picture of his wedding - quite strange as the email was really out of the blue.....

then last night I get a text message on my mobile from an unrecognizable number asking how I was. So I wrote back "who is this?" and it was from another ex.

Weird or what?!!!
post #42 of 42
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Weird or what?!!!
Yeah that is wierd

They're probably after some thing
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