Ex's - do you still talk to yours?

Nope. I have no kids and therefore no ties to any past relationship. I figure the relationship ended for a reason so it's time to move on. Besides from experience I have found that remaining friends with someone you've slept with doesn't always go well with future relationships on either side. New partners tend to be insecure in a new relationship and if you have an ex hovering around that you are best buddies with, that can cause problems.

I was married briefly right out of high school. BIG mistake it lasted a bout 6 months. I wouldn't throw him a life ring if he was drowning

I avoid my ex as much as possible. We have 2 kids, so I have to talk to him occasionally...but we still cannot get along or be friendly. He is a major dweeb, and kinda goofy in a negative way.

Anyhoo, I find we get along better the less we contact each other. We only speak when necessary for the kids sake, and the kids are 17 and 23 now, so usually we don't need to speak, thankfully.

I am happy for those with a cordial relationship with the ex, especially if kids are involved.

Originally Posted by kittylover4ever

We're talking about ex husbands here at work...........we all have one..

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nope never had a ex-husband, but i do have a ex wife.
and no, i dont talk to her. I left for a reason.

as for ex gf, there are a couple that i still talk to. couple of weeks ago we(as in me and wife) went over to a friends house for dinner, well the friend is the female, who i dated in college for about year. she is married, and her husband seems to forget i was friends with her, or maybe he just likes me also as he will call and want me to come over,or go do tthings with them

Yes, I still talk to my ex boyfriend pretty much once a week on MSN. There are times I think we were still meant to be together and then there are other times when I think to myself.... "what the hell were you thinking ever dating that dork!?".

When I went back to South Africa last year on holiday, he made a speacial trip from Cape TOwn to Durban to spend a few days with me... although I loved seeing him and spending the time with him again he just creeped me out because I think he automatically went back to us being a couple and kept introducing me to people as his girlfriend - I kept having to explain that I was his ex and I was currently engaged to another man although just visiting with this one.... all got so confusing! I ended up sounding like a mistress!
He even took me out on a romantic dinner and tried to seduce me afterward! I ran like the wind!

I still talk to Ben, but mainly for money reasons.

Every now and again.. But not to much... My husband doesn't much care for me talking to him.. So I just don't talk to him that much.. Mostly just checkup every now and again.... I still care about him,, because he was my first love, first husband,, my all first,, but obviously he's my ex.. So tis is life...

For the most part, I'd talk to my exes if I ever saw them, but we live in different towns and our lives never intersect. There's only one I'd never speak to again, and for a long list of extremely good reasons.

Yuck! No way!! Sometimes I wonder why I stayed with the ex b/f for so long!! But Lee and I talk about him sometimes. They were friends and coworkers. the ex was totally immature about the break-up and blamed me for everything (uhh he cheated on ME not the other way around)

funny timing.....I just found out that my ex (bf), who was the LOVE of my life (previous to hubby) got married. And I have to admit, I'm a little bitter over it. But I was more upset when I found out back in March that he had a baby with this girl....and I know most of this stems from my inability to conceive a child, but still. And I think it's just a slap to my ego, that's all ("what he got over ME?!?!?!") I had always kept in touch with him, previous to my wedding, but since marriage I've felt that it was unecessary and possibly inappropriate, so we've lost contact. Now there is 1 guy that I was best friends with in HS, then dated in college that I still email via myspace, but he's in San fran and is no way a threat to my marriage.

Nope. If my ex fell into the ocean and I had the only life perserver( as horrible as this sounds) I'd destroy it. My ex did things to me that were horrible and I will never forgive him for them.
So no, I don't think I'd talk to him if I didn't have to.
I DID see him once when he and his mom and new girlfriend came into where I work. He was civil so I was too. But his mom was a horrible beast of a woman (as per her usual self) so I didn't go out into the dinning room the whole time they were there. They haven't been back since thankfully.

Yes. I also think it's a good sign if a guy is friends (not too good of friends, but friends nonetheless of course) with his exes.

I'm friends with all mine except one, who just couldn't handle being friends as it was definitely a one-sided breakup. Sometimes I run into him and we catch up, but I'd never really go out of my way to contact him.

IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.

Obviously from what some of yall are describing though, there's plenty of guys out there who can't handle it (and I'm sure some women don't want to either).

Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom

IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.

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I believed that once, too. I thought although I no longer liked my ex when we broke up, that I would always love him. But somewhere along the way the love faded away and is gone. If I never saw him or heard from him again, my life would not be less.

I did realize pretty early that I was more in love with who I thought he was, than him. And we had quite a few conflicts over the kids. (If only he could think of their feelings occasionally!) I'm sure that contributed to snuffing out the love! LOL!

I talk to all my exes, I am friends with all of them..I'm not saying its the right way because there is temptation sometimes...but I am friends with them.

Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom

IMO, if you truly love someone, you can't stop. You can quit being in love with them, you can even quit liking them as a person, but love is permanent. My most recent ex did a lot of really bad things (and we both agreed that our relationship was turning both of us into people we didn't like being) but I don't hate him. There's no reason to be angry at him any more, it's just a waste of energy.

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I'm going to have to offer a differing opinion on this one too, sometimes not only does the other person's actions cause you to not like them as a person, but they can also kill any love you had for them. I loved my ex very deeply at one time, and I still care, but I do not feel any love for him anymore

I am very happy for the ones that can have a "friendly" relationship with their Ex's,...especially when there are kids involved,...its So much easier & healthier
for everyone,......,..TLEA

I still talk to my ex husband and we call each other friends, when secretly I still hate him...lol...not really but it is uncomfortable sometimes. I still see his family on occasion and even attend things like bridal or baby showers, even his brother's wedding. It's just a given to them that I'm invited, because they still consider me family. They don't even think twice about it, nor do I. I have other exes I talk to too. One rule for me, I cannot drink around them or old bitter feelings come out and I start talking rubbish! Not good!

I don't have an ex, but my divorced parents have always been friendly with each other.

AAAAAAAAKKKKKKKKKK!!! NO!!!!

--NOT if I can help it, anyway!!!!

When my kids were growing up, I was cordial to him, as much as the situation allowed. But since my kids are grown up now, there is NO reason to see him OR (Thankfully!!!!!) have any contact with him (WHEW!) If you knew how horrible a man, he evolved into, you'd totally understand. Everyone grows into "Being" what they are. Some good. Some bad. My "ex" started out, pretty good, and went in the WRONG direction...

I've only got/had one ex,But yes I still talk to because still live together
I don't think I could cope with any more ex's so that just as well