DH and I don't want to go to my SIL's for Thanksgiving this year, so I told him that I would lie and say we were going out of town for the holiday. Do you think I should do this?
We would, but she would pitch a HUGE fit. The out of town thing seems like our best option because my father lives about an hour away. The main reason that we don't want to go is because we don't want to deal with her horrible horrible husband. Last Christmas he screamed at her in front of the entire family. It was so upsetting that I told my husband I didn't want to go back.Originally Posted by SophieC
why not just say the two of you would like a nice, quiet day/evening at home together?
This is true, I'm starting to think I'm just going to tell her we are going to do it ourselves.Originally Posted by GingersMom
I'm sorry, but if you tell her you want a quiet turkey day together, and she pitches a huge fit, I would simply tell her to get over herself - you are ENTITLED to a quiet holiday alone with your hubby, and that is nobody else's business!
send her over here, I'll take care of her for you!
I can't believe that someone didn't put him in his place right then and there!Originally Posted by lookingglass
We would, but she would pitch a HUGE fit. The out of town thing seems like our best option because my father lives about an hour away. The main reason that we don't want to go is because we don't want to deal with her horrible horrible husband. Last Christmas he screamed at her in front of the entire family. It was so upsetting that I told my husband I didn't want to go back.
There's a lot more behind their fighting that meets the eye. He's more than just a jerk; he an abusive man. It's just hard to be around. I'm thinking that I'll tell her the truth and let the fur fly.Originally Posted by jugen
I can't believe that someone didn't put him in his place right then and there!
If my husband yelled at me in front of any company, we'd be fighting like the gods of war when they all left and it would NEVER happen again.
Maybe you can tell her how upset and uncomfortable that made you feel, and hopefully it would be enough of an excuse to get you out of going there? Just say something to the effect of "I don't think we can be joining you this year". If she asks why, say "well, honsetly I was very upset and unconfortable at the way " " yelled at you in front of everyone. I think that is uncalled for and it made me not want to return and see it again. I'm sorry if this makes you angry, but it's the truth. I love you and don't like to see anyone arguing especially in front of other people. I hope you'll understand and forgive me for not coming."
Oh she is and always will be, it's just hard on all those involved.Originally Posted by fwan
Just make sure that if anything to her happens with her hubby make sure that SHE is always welcome to your place.
I know but incase you do tell the truth, conflict will arise and she may choose her husband over her family.Originally Posted by lookingglass
Oh she is and always will be, it's just hard on all those involved.
She has time and time again. It's rather sad, but I'm willing wait and help her when she asks for it.Originally Posted by fwan
I know but incase you do tell the truth, conflict will arise and she may choose her husband over her family.