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post #1 of 29
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We were talking about how Debi here at work heard that 8 out of every 10 women are jealous of women who are beautiful, nice bodies, etc. Have you ever ever felt that way? I did in highschool, I must admit.......

Now as a mature adult, no.........I say more power to them!!
post #2 of 29
Both hands up! I know its shameful to admit. I think when I was at school I was almost intimidated by girls I felt were better looking than me. I felt like they had something over me.
However, now I realise that the majority of the time beauty and a good body doesn't just happen and most people work very hard at it.
So I agree, hats off to them! (most of them anyway )
post #3 of 29
I don't get jealous, but occassionally I get wistfully envious. I used to have a nice body, once upon a time. I was a size 4/5/6 for almost 20 years, then I quit smoking at the same time my body chemistry changed, and I'm now what they call average at a size 12, which to me feels huge only because I was so very small for so very long.

Now I'm working on just accepting myself for who I am as I head into my 40s. And when I look at those with gorgeous bodies, I wish it were me for a split second, then smile as I think to myself, well, that won't last. Age happens, and real beauty runs much deeper than what you can see on the outside.
post #4 of 29
No i am not jealous.
I do envy those women who are skinny, but i also do like my curves
i just wish i was a size smaller. unfortunately though my cellulite has gotten worse, and my skin is going really weird, i can pull it from all sorts of places and its getting gross.

So i am going to my skin doctor and ask what i can do about it
post #5 of 29
Ok I will raise my hand. But I am working to get the body i am jealous of.
post #6 of 29
When I was at school I wished everyday I could be like Dionne, she was stunning, blonde hair, good body, gorgeous bright blue eyes and the cutest nose, in comparison I felt so ugly...As I grew up I realised I am who I am and I was here for a purpose also, and anyway Alan tells me enough I am beautiful inside and out, and that means enough to me, as an adult I can't say I have ever felt jealous over someone elses looks etc, I'm happily married and happy with how I am, even though I'm nowhere near 'prefect'
post #7 of 29
Maybe a long time ago, but I've come to the realization that these girls have just as many problems as me and just cause they're good-looking doesn't make their lives any better.... pretty people get divorced, are broke, hate their jobs etc. Sometimes IMO they're so caught up in their own looks their personality suffers a bit if you know what I mean so I'll just be my thick self and drown my troubles in food!
post #8 of 29
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Now I'm working on just accepting myself for who I am as I head into my 40s. And when I look at those with gorgeous bodies, I wish it were me for a split second, then smile as I think to myself, well, that won't last. Age happens, and real beauty runs much deeper than what you can see on the outside.
Very beautifully put!
I used to be insanely jealous of those girls during my thick, frizzy hair, braces, geeky band nerd stage (please tell me some of y'all went through that phase too!!!), but am past that now and much more self-confident and happy with how I look!
post #9 of 29
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Originally Posted by ugaimes View Post
Very beautifully put!
I used to be insanely jealous of those girls during my thick, frizzy hair, braces, geeky band nerd stage (please tell me some of y'all went through that phase too!!!), but am past that now and much more self-confident and happy with how I look!
Oh Amy, thats still happening to me
No seriously, I had all the frizzy hair and my hair dresser said that as you go through puberty your hair changes etc didn't make me feel any better.
All the pictures of me between 11-13 I have my mouth shut in this stupid smile to try and hide my braces Oh how I hated them.
post #10 of 29
I barely had any pictures taken of me when i had my braces!
I really wish i did take some though!
post #11 of 29
I'm not sure "jealous" is the right word for it. "Envious," yes. I wish I had those bodies (well, maybe a bit more curvy), I wish I was taller, thinner, prettier, etc. I'm not really jealous, though, because I know I have other things going for me, and I'm aware that most beauties have to work really hard to look the way they do. I'll never be a supermodel. I've resigned myself to that fact. At least I'm brilliant!
post #12 of 29
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Now I'm working on just accepting myself for who I am as I head into my 40s.
Trust me when i say your life is just about to begin!
post #13 of 29
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Originally Posted by rosiemac View Post
Trust me when i say your life is just about to begin!
I've heard you say that a couple times now Susan,Do you know something we don't

C'mon let us all in on it
post #14 of 29
I think it was more not being able to see the beauty within myself rather than really being jealous of anyone else. I also think that is because my sister is one of those women that most would be jealous of for her looks and figure. She was always thin, long blonde hair, beautiful blue eyes, etc. Even at my thinnest I was never a size 5, 7, or 9 simply because I have "birthing" hip and boobs. But you know, I saw that the kids at school made fun of my sister about as much as they made fun of me. They called her "Barbie" and it hurt. It's not the name that's said, it's the intent of the name.

So, I would have to say no, not jealous. I wish I could find the discipline for myself to get back to looking good physically, but I still have a husband who loves me no matter what. He doesn't care if I lose that extra bit or not. He sees the beauty that goes more than skin deep, and I can too now.
post #15 of 29
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Originally Posted by ugaimes
I used to be insanely jealous of those girls during my thick, frizzy hair, braces, geeky band nerd stage (please tell me some of y'all went through that phase too!!!)
Yup, been there done that! Hair was so frizzy they called me the Sphinx, had the full-on tin grin, and I was SO much smarter than all the other kids in school that they ostracized me and called me names like dictionary. (I later went on to join MENSA, just to prove that I could, LOL!)

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Originally Posted by rosiemac View Post
Trust me when i say your life is just about to begin!
Well, I have my Harley-Davidson motorcycle and my precious kitties, so I'm ready to rock! Bring it on!!!
post #16 of 29
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Well, I have my Harley-Davidson motorcycle and my precious kitties, so I'm ready to rock! Bring it on!!!
You go girl!!!!

Diana it's like getting a second youth in your 40's
post #17 of 29
Back in High School, I don't think so. I had a pretty good body back then. Now, well I'm working on getting that body back! I don't want someone else's body, I just want to be happy with mine. I guess the only people I'm jealous of are the ones who eat whatever and don't exercise and look like they do!
post #18 of 29
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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles View Post
I guess the only people I'm jealous of are the ones who eat whatever and don't exercise and look like they do!
I'm not jealous of them. I just hate them.
post #19 of 29
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Originally Posted by ugaimes View Post

I used to be insanely jealous of those girls during my thick, frizzy hair, braces, geeky band nerd stage (please tell me some of y'all went through that phase too!!!), but am past that now and much more self-confident and happy with how I look!
I'm still like that!
But to answer the question, no, I'm not jealous of them.
post #20 of 29
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Originally Posted by Pombina View Post
.....all the frizzy hair and my hair dresser said that as you go through puberty your hair changes etc .....

They always told me I'd outrow my acne. I started with it in 4th grade. Didn't go to a Dr till 9th. She told me I'd outgrow it by age 16. At age 16 anohter doctor told me I'd outgrow it by 18. At 18 another dr told me I'd outgrow it by my twenties. I guess instead of jumping just 2 years they thought they ought to go for 12 this time. I'm still in my twenties....so we'll see in a few more years if they were wrong again this time!
post #21 of 29
Raising both hands and feet in the air.YES!! I am very jealoous of beautiful women.Having 4 kids and being over weight,I feel the green bug of jealousy bite me when I see a woman who is 5'5 about 115 pounds,and long blonde hair.My Dh ALWAYS says that I am the most beautiful woman on the Earth,but he is bias.
post #22 of 29
Nah...
I love beautiful women.
post #23 of 29
It takes time to see that what starts out beautiful doesn't always stay that way. As you age you see that many people who you admired for their looks end up with far less than you expected they would.

But yeah, when you're a kid, it makes you crazy.
post #24 of 29
Nope....I was always the cute one and realized that was kewl...

If you get your second youth at 40 by then will I know what to do with it>???
post #25 of 29
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Well, I have my Harley-Davidson motorcycle
Oh you lucky lucky girl

What I would do to be able to own another motorbike


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Originally Posted by rosiemac View Post

Diana it's like getting a second youth in your 40's
Susan,I think I just found my youth again

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Originally Posted by lilleah View Post
Nah...
I love beautiful women.
Yeah me too




I've never been jealous of beautiful women,because I know how vain men are....They would never be seen out with anyone nicer looking than themselves Well unless he is an extra special guy

I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder,everybody is beautiful and special in their own different way
post #26 of 29
I think a few ladies here are missing the point!


WE are ALL BEAUTIFUL!

Fat or Skinny
Small and Tall

WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL! even if you sometimes dont feel it!
post #27 of 29
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Originally Posted by fwan View Post
I think a few ladies here are missing the point!


WE are ALL BEAUTIFUL!

Fat or Skinny
Small and Tall

WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL! even if you sometimes dont feel it!

Fran you are so sweet
Yes I agree. I have seen the pics in the Pictures Pictures thread and you are all beautiful
post #28 of 29
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
I'm not jealous of them. I just hate them.
And I sometimes wish terrible diarrhea on them!!!
post #29 of 29
ok, I guess sometimes the little green monster will sit on my shoulder, but usually I can snap out of it....

We did have this one girl that used to work here, she was SO pretty, blonde hair, green eyes, a perfect size 6, the cuteset designer suits, a perfect smile, and to top it off, she was the sweetest most nicest person on earth. AND, her diamond ring was bigger than mine!!! I would say to her all the time (we used to do volunteer work together for United Way) "Amanda, you make it so hard to like you lookin that cute!!!" She'd always say "stoooopppp" and we'd giggle....
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