Originally Posted by neetanddave
Like ugaimes's friend, she suffers from mental illness as a result of all the abuse and receives government disability checks (which she gives promptly to the a**hole) as she cannot work.
Their other 3 kids have BEGGED
, her family has begged, we even had an intervention on our front porch on night after the local police basically said "we are not coming to help, she will not press charges so there is nothing we can do." Her children stood on my front porch and
, her son (18 at the time) crying that he did not want the youngest sister (who was 10) to come home from school and find Mom dead.
She just cannot break the cycle.
These are always such awful situations, especially given that children are involved. Although the police's behaviour was just plain wrong, I can understand the frustration that underlines it. I wonder why it isn't easier to get children out of these homes, however. I know that it would be heartbreaking for the mother, but because of her own trappedness she is incapable of protecting them (and, depending on her abuser, guilty of neglect as she stands by and watches her children being abused).
You can't take a woman out of an abusive marriage, because she's an adult, but you can - and should - take children out of an abusive home. I'm wondering, given that there are so many people here with experience in the field, if anyone here knows if that is done in some situations, and if not, why not?
Theoricetically, couldn't an officer who was called to the scene of domestic violence report it to dept of children and family (or whatever it's called wherever you are)? It would be a seperate investigation, and wouldn't matter if the wife wasn't willing to cooperate with the police.